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Liberal_in_LA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 07:53 PM
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Poll question: What age are we happiest?
Don't click on link to find out answer until you have voted:
http://www.newser.com/story/115042/what-age-are-we-happ...

Sorry, polls are turned off at Level 3.

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Tierra_y_Libertad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 07:59 PM
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1. March 2nd, 1999. My 55th birthday and the day I retired from the rat race.
From that day to this waking up in the morning and not having to go to work pretty well demolishes unhappiness.
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:32 PM
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18. heard that!
:thumbsup:
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provis99 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:03 PM
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2. I wonder then...
Aren't suicide rates lowest among teenagers, and highest among senior citizens? That would seem to be contradictory evidence.
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RKP5637 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:07 PM
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3. Probably for many, anymore, when dead! n/t
Edited on Mon Apr-04-11 08:08 PM by RKP5637
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Art_from_Ark Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:08 PM
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4. My happiest ages were probably 8-11
Edited on Mon Apr-04-11 08:12 PM by Art_from_Ark
and 15-18. Most of the '90s weren't too bad, either, but it's been mostly downhill since 2000 or so.
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panader0 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:08 PM
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5. Today
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TheCowsCameHome Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:08 PM
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6. Before we learned what a shitswamp awaited us.
Whatever age that was.
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RKP5637 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:13 PM
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7. Yeah, there's a lot of truth in that. A lot of people are sometimes happiest before
they realize what a shit hole most of the world is. We used to be able to maybe escape that in the US, but IMO more and more are facing the reality that for many the US is becoming a shit hole. I'm not dumping on the country here, I'm just pointing out reality. I know some people that think the US is a bunch of roses, they have no F'en idea of the misery some people live in ...

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TheCowsCameHome Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:16 PM
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10. I long for the days when
I hid under my grade school desk because of a possible Russian missle attack.

Life was so much simpler then.



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RKP5637 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:29 PM
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16. Yeah, I remember that well too. Our school was across from a chemical plant that
made explosives, and the Department of Defense was down the road, and further up they built aircraft carriers. We had absolutely no chance in any type of attack with all of that attracting a direct hit, but yet we hid under the desks happy as can be to protect ourselves. :)

And they used to tell us, now don't look at the light 'casue it will blind you. As a tiny kid I used to think what the hell, if the flash is like that. it's gonna blow us up too, isn't it ...

And just down the street from home the air raid siren was tested each Saturday, except ours never worked, you could just hear a phone ringing at the base of the pole, but the thing hardly ever sounded. Yep, incompetence was around then too.

But somehow it did seem much much simpler and far less stressful hiding from the Russians under the desk! I know exactly what you mean!

:)
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SheilaT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:13 PM
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8. I'm 62, and right now I'm probably pretty much
the happiest I've ever been. Obviously, I can't know if I'll be happier ten or twenty or even thirty years from now.
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Raine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:15 PM
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9. 5, no worries, life was wonderful
still had the innocence and belief that all people were good.
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TheCowsCameHome Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:17 PM
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12. and then....
like idiots, we grew up.
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pipi_k Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:16 PM
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11. I was happiest at 25...
when my body didn't ache constantly and I was able to do a whole lot more than I can do now.

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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:20 PM
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13. I say 5 although at that age nobody has the ability, experience, or vision
to know or appreciate how happy they are. Hopefully at that age most of us lead a relative carefree life where we are being cared for and have nor important worries, no bills to pay, no having to deal with difficult people, blissfully unaware of politics or the horrors of life.

In our 40s and 50s we have by then grasped that life is about choices and consequences, but also our won regrets about our choices and learning how to live with those regrets. If by that age one has not learned how to live with their regrets or is not able to forgive themselves for mistakes they have made in their lives there really is no opportunity for happiness. Also by that age we hopefully realize that as the Bible says, the rain falls and the sun shines upon the just and the unjust. Shit happens, and whether it does or does not there is little we can do about it. Being able to accept that goes a long way to allowing us to be happy in middle age.

There really is no way to compare our happiness or our ability to be happy at age 5 compared to later, middle age. I told my child not to be too much in a hurry to grow up when she was still little but old enough to have some understanding of it, but kids are always in a hurry to grow up. At 19 she can now understand, but there is no going back.

Ultimately it is most important to be happy in the moment because it is such a fleeting experience. In the end, contentment is probably the best that most of us can hope for when we get old and hopefully we appreciate it at the time. But there is no happiness that can compare with the pure happiness and joy of a child. (I can remember when mine was 6 and we were camping out, roasting marshmellows, and she announced to me in that childlike innocence that she was completely happy. I wonder if she remembers that moment because I'll never forget it.)
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JoePhilly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:22 PM
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14. My current age. And if you asked me 10 years ago, or 10 years in the future, the answer is the same
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hayu_lol Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:25 PM
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15. The older you are, the more difficult it is to find...
a happiest time...there generally are so many.
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JoePhilly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:48 PM
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20. Good point. Off the top of my head ... why my best year was "this year' ..
Sister born.
First bike.
Pitched a strike out with bases loaded to win the game (8-10 boys little league).
First Kiss.
Student Council President.
Jump shot to win basketball championship at the buzzer.
A few College Degrees, various years.
Jump shot to win the last pick up game played on the day I got married.
Getting married later that day.
Birth of our son.
Birth of our Daughter #1
Birth of our Daughter #2
20 year wedding anniversary.
Daughter #1's grand-slam to win last game of girl's softball season.
Same daughter makes all A-honor roll.
Son accepted to college. Leaves in the Fall.
Youngest daughter's first piano recital.

And an endless stream of events in between. With more to come.

I was a relatively poor kid growing up. Worked in a cemetery to make money for college. I'm pretty successful now. Have been laid off. Plenty of family and friends who have passed.

But there is no best age. Better to enjoy the age you are now. Have fun with it.
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:30 PM
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17. well, i'm 55
done raising kids, and pretty happy, but i'm also retired, heh! ;-) the only thing that would make me happier is if i had a life partner, but i really don't see that in the future....
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Shagbark Hickory Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 08:34 PM
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19. I guess I'm the only one that chose 15. I think for a lot of people it's all downhill from there.
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Richard D Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 09:13 PM
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21. What ever age I am . . .
. . . in whatever moment of now I am asked that question.
At least, the possibility is always there.
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Liquorice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Apr-04-11 09:14 PM
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22. It's impossible to say because next year might turn out to be the happiest. nt
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