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Mike 03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:00 PM
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suddenly worried and self conscious, is it okay to give your sisters jewelry for holidays?
Edited on Tue Dec-21-10 08:01 PM by Mike 03
I wanted to give my sisters somethings special this year, so I gave them a piece of jewelry of equal value, nothing sexual, just classy, I am hoping. But my OCD is kicking in and worrying that maybe I should not have given them jewelry. I also gave my mother a piece of jewelry this year. I just wanted to do something special for them for a change. Now I am all worried I broke some unwritten rules or something.
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Happyhippychick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:02 PM
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1. I think it's wonderful, my brother has gotten me jewelry before.
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DFab420 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:04 PM
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2. It's totally ok
I buy jewelry for my sister and mother a bunch for holidays and gifts. Nothing like diamonds or anything like that, just some nice necklaces and earrings etc. once a watch but that was for my sisters graduation.

I wouldn't worry about it, the fact you are doing something special is what will be picked up on, not gift taboos etc.

Don't worry.
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revolution breeze Donating Member (510 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:04 PM
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3. Jewelry is always nice
And it is nice how you gave a piece to your sisters and mother. A very thoughtful touch!
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:05 PM
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4. I am not the person to ask because I think most jewelry is stupid.
:-)
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cali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:07 PM
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5. No. It's a lovely thing to do.
just try and make sure that the jewelry is something they'll like and wear.
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Missy Vixen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:07 PM
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6. I hope they love it
Every time they wear your gift, they'll be thinking about how nice it was you gave it to them.

I think of the person who gave me the jewelry I wear every time I put it on.

Happy Holidays, and do not worry. They will love it!
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virgogal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:07 PM
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7. Perfectly fine.
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SoCalDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:22 PM
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8. Jewelry is a "memento" type of gift..special no matter who gives it
just for different reasons.. It's perfectly fine for you to give them jewelry (if they like jewelry)..

I gave my best friend a nice gold bracelet once when she commented on mine & told me how she had never had a gold anything.. I have given a son a nice gold bracelet too..

If it's from a boyfriend/husband/girlfriend, it's "romantic"..but from others, it's just a nice gift & they'll think of you when they wear it:) :)
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bengalherder Donating Member (718 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:28 PM
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9. Jewelry,
because it in itself has value, tends to hang around a family for awhile.

Perhaps you just gave them future heirlooms their children and grandchildren will enjoy in years to come! :)
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JI7 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:29 PM
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10. i never heard of any type of rule like this, there are people siblings who give each other jewelry
as a gift for birthdays or special holidays like christmas.

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Motown_Johnny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 08:29 PM
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11. yes, it is not only acceptable it is a very nice thing to do
every time they wear it they will think of you



as long as they are nice you are ok
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BrendaBrick Donating Member (859 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:26 PM
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12. I guess that I am a little confused........
...as to why the term 'sexual' even entered into this picture in the first place? (Skeptic that I am.)

Are you somehow equating the gift of jewelry with perhaps having a romantic undertone in this regard?

If this is the case, maybe you ARE over-thinking this one???

If perhaps you said that you were giving them like, a sexy nightgown of something like that - then, yeah - OK, the sexual overtone would probably apply in this case ~

Jewelry is nice for most. Personally, one of the best gifts I ever received was a poem.

A simple poem. Prose that spoke from the writer's heart to express how important and how loved I was sincerely.

...and you just can't purchase THAT from a store!!!!!

(Just my opinion!)
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dana_b Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:28 PM
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13. perfectly fine. My uncle gave me
a lovely sterling silver bracelet and its one of my favorite pieces. They will love it!
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malaise Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:29 PM
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14. Absolutely
and they will love it.
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ohheckyeah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:31 PM
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15. It's a great idea.
I'd love it if my brother gave me jewelry.
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RayOfHope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:33 PM
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16. How thoughtful! I would love it if my brothers gave me jewelry. I would be so interested
to see what they picked out for me.

You are a good brother, and its an appropriate gift.
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pitohui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:35 PM
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17. jewelry and cash...they're ALWAYS in style and ALWAYS in good taste
Edited on Tue Dec-21-10 09:38 PM by pitohui
i would fall on my ass in astounded joy and surprise if a sibling of mine ever coughed up jewelry but soooo not gonna happen around here

what a wonderful gesture

as for your mom, of course, moms are deserving of the gems and jewels of their choice, we only wish we could afford bigger and better ones...but a gift of jewelry to mom is always right...in my fact my mom is getting jewelry featuring her favorite gem this year, i just hope it isn't too much since she already owns some pieces with the same gemstone in them...but there's nothing wrong w. an embarrassment of riches when it comes to picking out which of your favorite gems you will wear each morning, right?
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handmade34 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:37 PM
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18. I would love to receive jewelry from my brother!!
no worries...
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Yurovsky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:39 PM
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19. As long as it's not an engagement ring...
I think you're OK...

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Raine Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:43 PM
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20. Nothing wrong with that, infact it's a very nice gift
to give. I've gotten jewelry from my father, mother, aunt, counsin, brother etc. I treasure all of it, it has sentimental value and everytime I wear any of it I think about the person who gave it to me.
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Maru Kitteh Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 09:54 PM
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21. Contrary to advertisments you see, jewelry and fucking are not co-conditional.
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MilesColtrane Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 10:32 PM
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22. They'll LOVE it.
But, not in THAT way.
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tammywammy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 10:33 PM
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23. My brother has given me jewelry in the past. n/t
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Withywindle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 10:37 PM
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24. Totally fine, don't worry about it.
My father gives me nice jewelry sometimes. It would never occur to me that there was anything skeezy about it.
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tnlefty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-21-10 10:42 PM
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25. I'm your long lost sister that you knew nothing about and I just
love mandarin garnets, spessartite garnets, purple garnets and sapphires, although my least favorite color of sapphire is the blue.

Seriously, I think it's a wonderful gesture. Perhaps relax and put the OCD to bed.:hug:
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JDPriestly Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:09 AM
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26. You are fine. You did the right thing.
Sorry you have OCD. I know what that is like. I'm from a family of people who worry, worry, worry, worry, worry -- endlessly. And I am no different.

I hope that some day you meet someone special who doesn't have to deal with OCD and is willing to listen to you worry. That helps more than anything.

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applegrove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:10 AM
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27. I once got some bracelets from my mom for xmass. It was a surprise. I don't actually wear
gold so I've rarely worn them. But when I think of that christmas it is a special one for me because I know that is how my mother wanted me to feel.
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Honeycombe8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:12 AM
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28. Sure, that's okay. My brother and I don't exchange gifts, but if he gave me
Edited on Wed Dec-22-10 12:13 AM by Honeycombe8
jewelry, that'd be a-ok with me! (As long as it's not like a diamond ring or something traditionally romantic...a diamond solitaire necklace smacks of romance, so that wouldn't be appropriate, I think.) But a bracelet, a different kind of necklace (other than a romantic one), some earrings...anything like that is a very nice gift.

I wish you were my brother! (not really...my brother is the cat's meow!)
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:51 AM
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29. Perfectly okay....
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OhioChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:54 AM
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30. It's a wonderful idea...
And I'm sure they'll all love it! :)
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Kalyke Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Dec-22-10 12:56 AM
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31. Why wouldn't it be?
Many women like jewels.

Many women like their brothers.

Not all, but the averages are one your side.

Merry Christmas!
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