A question about divorce and child custody. Is it possible for both parties to give up custody?

[JVS]

Usually we hear about custody battles, but what happens when neither partner wants the kid(s)? Do they just keep raising the support payment until one side balks and agrees to take take the kid plus the support money? Do they force split custody? Is the kid put in foster care? What happens in these situations?

[elleng]

1. Prolly depends on age of kid(s,) relations, and jurisdiction.

[MineralMan]

2. Wow! In such a case, the court should make the child a ward

of the court and send the child into the foster care program. What kind of parenting would someone like that provide? Stupid adults. If you don't want children, don't have them, for pete's sake. I hate this kind of situation.

In reality, the court would probably force custody on one of the parents. Just imagine what kind of life that would be for the kid.

[Tikki]

3. I am sure you'll hear much about that scenario here:

I wish my maiden aunt could have continued to raise me. The year (age 15~16 years old ) I did get to spend with
her made a profound and positive impression on me.
Going back to my crazy mother and having no visible father was a huge disappointment. At least I had Mr. Tikki and
his family in my life and turned 18 sooner than later.


Tikki

[MADem]

4. Anyone can give up their kid by ceding their parental rights.

However, it would probably work better if there were a relative or some other person ready to adopt who is right handy to take the child. Otherwise, there might be an issue with child abandonment.

Law might vary from state to state, too--this is probably a good question for someone practicing family law in your state.

[shraby]

5. In Michigan one judge gave custody of the house to the kids

and each parent had to live with them 6 months out of the year..he felt it gave greater stability to the kids instead of shipping them back and forth between the parents separate households. Seemed from what I've read, it worked okay.

[newfie11]

6. Is this Damien's parents

sorry I couldn't help it,

[Are_grits_groceries]

7. When I was teaching, I thought one of saddest stories I ever heard

was about 2 sisters. Their parents were divorcing, and neither wanted custody of the kids.
I taught both of them. One was in the 9th grade and the other was a Junior. They were great kids- smart, kind, funny and more. They weren't perfect, but they were on the ball and had a lot going for them.
One of them was going off to college and one of her best friends family wanted to help her. The kid still in school also moved in with someone who was a friend and that she trusted. She only had one more year of school until she went to college.
I know that might not be as bad as someone with absolutely no help, but it had to be a blow psychologically. If they ran away and dealt drugs, who would be surprised?

[treestar]

8. How horrid

Foster care and moving to terminate their parental rights might be the thing. Hopefully a relative cares.