Photo by Molly Rice"Human kindness has never weakened the stamina or softened the fiber of a free people. A nation does not have to be cruel to be tough." ~ Franklin D. Roosevelt
"If we just worry about the big picture, we are powerless. So my secret is to start right away doing whatever little work I can do. I try to give joy to one person in the morning, and remove the suffering of one person in the afternoon. If you and your friends do not despise the small work, a million people will remove a lot of suffering." ~ Sister Chan Khong (Buddhist nun)
"TO BE HOPEFUL in bad times is not just foolishly romantic. It is based on the fact that human history is a history not only of cruelty, but also of compassion, sacrifice, courage, kindness.
What we choose to emphasize in this complex history will determine our lives. If we see only the worst, it destroys our capacity to do something. If we remember those times and places—and there are so many—where people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
And if we do act, in however small a way, we don’t have to wait for some grand utopian future. The future is an infinite succession of presents, and to live now as we think human beings should live, in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a marvelous victory." ~ Howard Zinn
Those of us who consider ourselves progressives like to think we are compassionate people. To me, empathy and compassion are symbiotic -- you really can't have one...not truly...without the other.
Putting yourself in the shoes of another to try to share what they are feeling -- empathy -- seems to be a prerequisite for authentic compassion, which is to have a desire to alleviate the suffering of another and act on that desire.
(A wise friend reminded me that we can be empathetic about joy as well as suffering. It's important to remember that, imho. :) )
Wishadoo! is a
Charter for Compassion Partner (please sign!), and in the process of engaging with other partners, I found it interesting that some have very clear definitions as to what are and are not compassionate actions. "Scholars" of compassion disagree, but I think if it's genuine, a smile or a hug can be extraordinarily compassionate and alleviate the suffering of another in the moment, perhaps acting as a catalyst for both people -- the giver and the recipient -- inspiring hope and, just perhaps, helping to rise above their current challenges.
One thing DU's bobbolink and others have tried to impress upon us is that
charity is VERY different from justice. And while charity can accomplish the task of alleviating suffering in the moment, it's not necessarily compassionate. Sometimes people donate to charities to get a tax write-off or because they feel guilty or a number of other more selfish reasons, none of which are truly compassionate, even if they alleviate suffering in the moment for a few souls.
Justice, on the other hand, works to remedy what has created the suffering to begin with.
Now, I personally feel we must multitask since we are faced with so many issues and crises, some of which will take institutional shifts to alleviate the causes of suffering. That can take an awfully long time, and while I believe we must continue to work towards justice, we must also alleviate as much suffering NOW as possible.
For me, this requires not being a purist and not expecting perfection in order to move forward with positive action. It requires doing my best in each moment, being mindful and responsible for my choices.
What do you feel are examples of compassionate action we can agree on, which could be implemented easily and swiftly in this country? Actions to make empathy and compassion cool and sexy -- ;) -- simple actions which can open hearts and minds and include anyone who chooses to be involved, which can hopefully lead to people feeling empowered to then do more to prevent and alleviate the suffering of others.
One thing I feel we MUST do is to TAKE BACK THE WORDS.
Compassion is STRENGTH. Empathy is STRENGTH. Compassion is a catalyst that can create all manner of Good. Compassion, empathy, community, cooperation, The Common Good are all words which have been denigrated and demonized for the last 30 years.
WE MUST TAKE BACK THE WORDS.How do you think we can take back the words and put them into action? Do you feel a campaign for that specific purpose -- a TAKE BACK THE WORDS campaign -- is a start?It's something I'm very focused on at Wishadoo. People need to feel comfortable using these terms again and not cringe for fear conservatives or others will think they're weak. I fully realize the directory at Wishadoo --
The Compassion Pages -- makes some well-meaning businesses cringe a little simply because of the name. It's become more fashionable to be eco-friendly and want to be listed in The Green Pages, for example, but to "put yourself out there" as being compassionate and being dedicated to "compassion, cooperation and community" causes many to hesitate still, thinking it may not be a good business decision.
Well, I intend to change that. No more business as usual. It's literally killing us and our planet. ;)
We need to really understand what these words mean and how they can be put into action, and how we feel about them. I'm very interested in how DUers perceive these terms, and how you feel they can be put into action most effectively, to reach as many people as possible.
Thanks for reading. :hi: