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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:38 PM Original message |
Is child support about supporting a child or about vengeance? |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:40 PM Response to Original message |
1. Do you think the expense of kids magically goes away on their 18th birthday? |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:41 PM Response to Original message |
2. I think that parents of 18+ year old students should pay child support |
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etherealtruth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:33 PM Response to Reply #2 |
101. Its not about child support accruing after the child reaches 18 |
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kiva (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:31 PM Response to Reply #101 |
116. Ah, thank you - I hadn't been following this and didn't |
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alphafemale (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:22 PM Response to Reply #2 |
249. Non divorced parents are not REQUIRED to pay their kids way through college. |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 04:10 PM Response to Reply #249 |
266. Oh, The Huge Manatee!!! |
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alphafemale (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 05:22 PM Response to Reply #266 |
268. There's a difference between a moral obligation or the "Right Thing" |
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ladywnch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:50 AM Response to Reply #268 |
288. what state do you live in where parents are legally bound to pay for their |
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raccoon (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:28 AM Response to Reply #2 |
285. "all non-divorced parents are required to send their children through college?" Since when? |
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Brickbat (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:41 PM Response to Original message |
3. If one "owes," one should pay. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:42 PM Response to Original message |
4. Child support is about financially supporting your child. |
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SharonAnn (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:31 PM Response to Reply #4 |
62. Unfortunately, for some non-custodial parents, it's a vengeance thing,. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:33 PM Response to Reply #62 |
63. I have seen that also. "the custodial parent is living the high life so I'll get even by not paying |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:42 PM Response to Original message |
5. Do you think there should be a statute of limitations on parenting? |
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bobbolink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:22 PM Response to Reply #5 |
98. very well said. Its a lifetime responsibility. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:03 PM Response to Reply #5 |
112. Yes, I do. |
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dana_b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:43 PM Response to Reply #112 |
136. yes, because the govt. is always right and all bills stop at 18 |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:55 PM Response to Reply #112 |
148. You want to duck paying child support then when YOUR child reaches 18 have the debt canceled? |
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lunatica (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:03 AM Response to Reply #112 |
216. So the hell with your kid after 18 because the government says you can move on? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:11 AM Response to Reply #216 |
218. Reading through, it is her step-child, her husband's child, husb is the non-custodial parent |
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Gman (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:43 PM Response to Original message |
6. To be very sure, it is about supporting the child |
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boppers (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:43 PM Response to Original message |
7. It's about spreading the costs. |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:44 PM Response to Original message |
8. An order to pay back support ends when |
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shanti (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:02 PM Response to Reply #8 |
111. exactly |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:44 PM Response to Original message |
9. What do YOU think? Please answer your questions. Thank you. nt |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:14 PM Response to Reply #9 |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:45 PM Response to Original message |
10. Turn it around: Is avoiding your child-support payments about getting back at the custodial parent? |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:52 PM Response to Reply #10 |
21. Yes, a lot of times it is about getting even with the custodial parent by |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:56 PM Response to Reply #21 |
24. Yup. |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:55 AM Response to Reply #10 |
236. Or... not being stuck with a giant financial burden |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:03 PM Response to Reply #236 |
239. Child support is about financially supporting your child. The person who wanted the divorce, or brok |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:24 PM Response to Reply #239 |
242. Your hypothetical situation doesn't contain enough information |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:26 PM Response to Reply #242 |
243. Child support is about financially supporting your child whether you have custody or not. |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:38 PM Response to Reply #243 |
246. That doesn't address why one party should pay for the choices of another |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 02:49 PM Response to Reply #246 |
259. Because the question of 'choice' is irrelevant. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 02:59 PM Response to Reply #246 |
260. That is because choice here is irrelevant. The courts are looking out for the best interests of the |
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Zanzoobar (618 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:45 PM Response to Original message |
11. What if the custodial parent is in debt because of the deadbeat? |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:16 PM Response to Reply #11 |
40. What is the custodial parent is NOT in debt, yet living the high life |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:28 PM Response to Reply #40 |
57. You feel you should have no financial obligation to support your child financially if the other pare |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:55 PM Response to Reply #57 |
106. Yes, Exactly. |
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Donnachaidh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:02 PM Response to Reply #106 |
110. it's a court order fer chrissakes |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:42 PM Response to Reply #106 |
134. That is wrong. You are not removed from your obligations to your child simply because someone else |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:28 PM Response to Reply #40 |
58. dupe |
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Zanzoobar (618 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:30 PM Response to Reply #40 |
61. As I said |
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Zanzoobar (618 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:34 PM Response to Reply #61 |
64. And I will also post an adage my dear mum told me long before I was able to understand it. |
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blogslut (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:35 PM Response to Reply #40 |
65. I'm pretty sure your child can have his/her payments |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:38 PM Response to Reply #40 |
68. "travel, gambling, cooking, reading" are your interests, yet you live in a hole in the wall apt? |
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stanwyck (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:55 PM Response to Reply #40 |
75. I don't get you at all. You have a child - and you don't |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:57 PM Response to Reply #75 |
76. Sounds like non-custodial parent having a vengeance. eom |
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MineralMan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:21 PM Response to Reply #40 |
96. It doesn't matter. The parents of a child have a responsibility |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:06 PM Response to Reply #40 |
125. I would think that karma would be the fact you live in a hole in the wall |
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unapatriciated (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 05:13 AM Response to Reply #40 |
196. My ex used to complain the same as you |
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cali (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:45 PM Response to Original message |
12. no, people who owe back child support should pay up and the money should |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:46 PM Response to Original message |
13. You should pay what you fucking owe. |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:46 PM Response to Original message |
14. It's about supporting the child, so pay up. n/t |
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LostInAnomie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:47 PM Response to Original message |
15. In theory, it's about supporting the child. |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:48 PM Response to Original message |
16. it's about the security state. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:50 PM Response to Reply #16 |
17. What do you mean? I don't understand your usage of these words/term. Thanks. |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:56 PM Response to Reply #17 |
25. it's about the continual & increasing surveillance & control of the poor & |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:00 PM Response to Reply #25 |
28. Child support is about watching/controlling the poor & working class? What? What do you mean |
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azurnoir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:10 PM Response to Reply #28 |
33. a good deal of the owed child support you hear about is owed not the child |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:17 PM Response to Reply #33 |
42. Which makes sense to me. I don't see it as controlling the poor/working class though |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:20 PM Response to Reply #25 |
45. No it's not. It's about people supporting their own children. |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:20 PM Response to Reply #45 |
95. that's a good thing, but when in fact the social situation = people in fact *cannot* |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:23 PM Response to Reply #95 |
100. How is it "about surveillance & suppression of the poor & the working class"? I already asked you |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:37 PM Response to Reply #100 |
102. the major consequence of the policy has not been to better provide for the |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:41 PM Response to Reply #102 |
133. I think you are saying that collecting child support criminalizes people. Is this right? |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:02 PM Response to Reply #133 |
154. uh, no. i think you're boring me. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:04 PM Response to Reply #154 |
155. Excuse me for trying to clarify. It is too bad that you find asking for clarification so boring. |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 04:56 AM Response to Reply #155 |
194. i'm sorry if you're sincere. to me your questions read as disingenuous. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:07 AM Response to Reply #194 |
217. I know we've gone round a few times in the past but yes, I'm trying to figure out what you mean here |
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Skidmore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:07 PM Response to Reply #25 |
240. What a crock. |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:51 PM Response to Reply #16 |
19. Child support is 'about the security state'? |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:28 PM Response to Reply #19 |
56. I suspect there's a "Marxist Random Quote Generator" |
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Hannah Bell (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:21 PM Response to Reply #56 |
97. is that anything like your pointed red-baiting generator? or your personal personal attack |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:47 PM Response to Reply #97 |
120. Who says I wasn't talking about Groucho and Chico? |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:33 PM Response to Reply #19 |
117. It means that it's awfully convenient for authorities to put people in... |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:54 AM Response to Reply #117 |
188. If convenience is the issue, people shouldn't have kids they're not willing to support. |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:30 AM Response to Reply #188 |
192. You asked what that means. Now you seem to ignore it and ramble about people having kids they ... |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 04:48 AM Response to Reply #192 |
193. Having a kid isn't a crime. Refusing to pay court-ordered support for one is. |
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Arkansas Granny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:43 AM Response to Reply #117 |
207. If a person is not making court ordered child support payments, it is a crime. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:19 AM Response to Reply #117 |
222. Not complying with a court order IS a crime. Having your wages garnished for non-payment of |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:50 PM Response to Original message |
18. The custodial parent still had to buy food, clothing, etc., etc., while |
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ZombieHorde (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:05 PM Response to Reply #18 |
31. I agree. nt |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:57 PM Response to Reply #18 |
107. How about if the custodial parent didn't pay a thing for food, clothing, etc.? |
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Donnachaidh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:07 PM Response to Reply #107 |
113. seems custodial parent re-married and now the ex is pissed off about it |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:43 PM Response to Reply #107 |
119. Then demand custody and make them pay you. |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:07 PM Response to Reply #107 |
126. Does the custodial parent live in fantasy land where raising kids is free? nt |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:27 PM Response to Reply #126 |
130. It sounds like the custodial parent found a new spouse with wealth. |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:37 PM Response to Reply #130 |
131. The custodial parent is still paying for the kid to be fed and clothed, etc., |
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WolverineDG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:17 AM Response to Reply #130 |
203. New spouse has no duty to support someone else's kids nt |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:08 PM Response to Reply #107 |
127. How could a custodial parent get out of paying for any of that? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:46 PM Response to Reply #107 |
137. The custodial parent hasn't had to pay anything? How in world does that work? |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:47 PM Response to Reply #107 |
174. so the child is starved to death |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:42 AM Response to Reply #174 |
186. This person is apparently the new partner of a man who owes child |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 10:13 AM Response to Reply #186 |
212. she better do herself a favor |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 03:27 PM Response to Reply #107 |
264. well the kid is being clothed and fed and provided with a roof over their head. |
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Arkansas Granny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:14 PM Response to Reply #18 |
114. While my ex was paying a certain percentage of his wages for child support, |
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etherealtruth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:38 PM Response to Reply #114 |
118. An experience shared by many of us |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:47 PM Response to Reply #114 |
138. Indeed. And many ex's then rant if custodial parent shows up with new socks. "How DARE |
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emilyg (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:54 PM Response to Reply #114 |
177. Absolutely. |
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Wounded Bear (665 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:51 PM Response to Original message |
20. Yes.......nt |
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CC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:52 PM Response to Original message |
22. Yes child support should go to |
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WolverineDG (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:55 PM Response to Original message |
23. So deadbeats should be able to let someone else pay to raise/feed their kids |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:59 PM Response to Original message |
26. what an ignorant post |
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southernyankeebelle (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 05:59 PM Response to Original message |
27. When you play the game of mommie and daddie you got to pay the fiddler. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:02 PM Response to Original message |
29. lol |
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sudopod (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:07 PM Response to Reply #29 |
32. +lolz nt |
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demmiblue (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:12 PM Response to Reply #32 |
35. ++lulz n/t |
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azurnoir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:04 PM Response to Original message |
30. that depends is the 'child' fully independant at 18 has the child graduated high school? |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:12 PM Response to Reply #30 |
36. Why should owing back support have anything to do with the child |
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azurnoir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:04 PM Response to Reply #36 |
82. in the cases I am talking about it is the state not the parent or child that is |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:18 PM Response to Reply #30 |
44. No thrid player involved. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:20 PM Response to Reply #44 |
46. its not vengeance to want money that is owed to you. nt |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:53 PM Response to Reply #46 |
104. Owed for what? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:49 PM Response to Reply #104 |
139. Withholding legally mandated child support over envy that the custodial parent is able to |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:56 PM Response to Reply #104 |
151. Scarping by on $100,000 a yr? THAT is "scraping by"? Only $100,000/yr and barely scraping by |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:21 PM Response to Reply #44 |
47. I don't know. Was it about child support or vengeance when the hypothetical deadbeat parent |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:59 PM Response to Reply #47 |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:51 PM Response to Reply #108 |
122. Ok. If that's how it is, just keep telling them to fuck off and don't pay them. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:50 PM Response to Reply #108 |
141. Why did you get that far in arrears? How many months, yrs did you not pay? |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:22 PM Response to Reply #44 |
48. Well, it sounds like you are dealing with your own situation specific to you. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:25 PM Response to Reply #44 |
52. Paying back child support you owe isn't "vengeance" any more than paying any other debt is |
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etherealtruth (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:53 PM Response to Reply #44 |
73. This is sad .... |
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azurnoir (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:06 PM Response to Reply #44 |
84. That would depend on the financial status of both the parent and child |
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Gormy Cuss (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:18 PM Response to Reply #44 |
163. Easy. It's ABOUT CHILD SUPPORT . n/t |
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WinkyDink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:12 PM Response to Original message |
34. Is there a reason you're phrasing this as "either-or"? |
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Uben (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
38. It's supporting your family |
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pnwmom (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:15 PM Response to Original message |
39. If you owe back child support, that debt doesn't go away |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:17 PM Response to Original message |
41. Damn, guess I touched a nerve |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:23 PM Response to Reply #41 |
49. Your own, perhaps? |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:54 PM Response to Reply #49 |
105. Naw....not mine...my nerves are shot. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:24 PM Response to Reply #41 |
51. you touched my sense of justice nerve & my idiotic question of the day nerve. nt |
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Name removed (0 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:02 PM Response to Reply #51 |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:26 PM Response to Reply #41 |
53. What would ever make you think DUers feel paying your debts is a good thing? |
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Forkboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:36 PM Response to Reply #41 |
67. Stupid things do that on DU. |
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TBF (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:52 AM Response to Reply #41 |
209. Yes I'm sure you're very proud of yourself. |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:18 PM Response to Original message |
43. Who do you think was paying for the shoes, clothes and housing |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:28 PM Response to Reply #43 |
59. Well the Ex was giving stuff to the kids out of spite |
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notadmblnd (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:38 PM Response to Reply #59 |
69. No, what the real pity is.. is that these two people brought children into this world |
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Curmudgeoness (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:23 PM Response to Original message |
50. With your premise that even back support should end |
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Codeine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:26 PM Response to Original message |
54. Of course it's about vengeance. |
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La Lioness Priyanka (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:27 PM Response to Reply #54 |
55. why is it hurtful to help with expenses associated with your child? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:29 PM Response to Reply #54 |
60. How is it hurtful to be responsible for financially helping support your child? |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:34 AM Response to Reply #60 |
184. it's hurtful to the OP's gambling hobby |
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Forkboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:36 PM Response to Reply #54 |
66. Oy vey. |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:39 PM Response to Reply #54 |
70. Wow, you managed to outdo the OP |
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M0rpheus (264 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:52 PM Response to Reply #54 |
144. Sometimes, it is ABSOLUTELY about both. |
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KurtNYC (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 09:00 AM Response to Reply #144 |
289. I'm not into the binary thing |
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CelticThunder (460 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:44 PM Response to Original message |
71. Stop making it about YOU. It's about supporting a child YOU share responsibility for creating. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:47 PM Response to Reply #71 |
72. +1000 |
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dana_b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:49 PM Response to Reply #71 |
140. thank you!! perfectly stated. n/t |
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WorseBeforeBetter (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 11:20 PM Response to Reply #71 |
179. He's too busy bangin' the 27-year-old "cougar" to be reading this. |
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stanwyck (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:53 PM Response to Original message |
74. I can't imagine there is any parent who really thinks |
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ProgressiveProfessor (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:58 PM Response to Original message |
77. The child support system is pretty FUBAR |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 06:59 PM Response to Original message |
78. If only child support could turn whiny, selfish little pouters into real men. |
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Codeine (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:00 PM Response to Reply #78 |
79. It's not always men who pay child support. |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:03 PM Response to Reply #79 |
81. In fact, women are worse at paying court ordered child support. n/t |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:25 PM Response to Reply #81 |
167. Link? I see you posted downthread "If". Link to those stats please. thanks. |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:06 PM Response to Reply #79 |
85. True. In this case it is. Feel free to interchange "adult" with "man." The sentiment is still |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:20 PM Response to Reply #85 |
94. OK, but think about this. If only 54% or so of men and 45% of women ordered to pay are current... |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:48 PM Response to Reply #94 |
103. Sometimes theres a reason selfish assholes of either sex find themselves divorced and w/o custody |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:22 PM Response to Reply #103 |
129. At least you didnt respond to me with a sweeping generalization... oh wait... |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:52 PM Response to Reply #129 |
143. delete. I mistook you for the OP and was reacting thusly. |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:18 PM Response to Reply #143 |
162. self delete |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:20 PM Response to Reply #162 |
164. my apologies, I mistook you for OP. I was wrong. eom |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:22 PM Response to Reply #164 |
165. See my #94 n/t |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:24 PM Response to Reply #165 |
166. Link to reputable source regarding that statistic, otherwise it is just numbers |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:31 PM Response to Reply #166 |
169. Here you go. Numbers have moved slightly since I last checked but not materially so |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:35 PM Response to Reply #169 |
170. Thank you, those numbers are closer together than 54/45 you posted elsewhere. I found this |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:38 PM Response to Reply #170 |
172. The male figure has gone down in the last 3 years, probably due to the recession. I've heard that |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:43 PM Response to Reply #172 |
173. That could be. Now men/women's jobs are more even, incomes more even |
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stevenleser (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:48 PM Response to Reply #173 |
175. I knew I read it somewhere... here it is... |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:04 PM Response to Reply #78 |
83. And whiny, selfish little pouters into real women. nt |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:07 PM Response to Reply #83 |
86. Indeed! n/t |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:15 AM Response to Reply #78 |
191. You might be surprised that real men use their own definitions. n/t |
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auburngrad82 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:03 PM Response to Original message |
80. It's actually about taking responsibility for your actions |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:07 PM Response to Original message |
87. Only if you see a well-cared for child as an affront, I guess. |
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Modern_Matthew (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:07 PM Response to Original message |
88. Yes, but the money should only be used on the kid... |
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Maru Kitteh (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:10 PM Response to Reply #88 |
89. you'd soon become a proud deadbeat in jail - and I would laugh |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:17 PM Response to Reply #88 |
91. You abdicate all responsibility if other parent lives with another adult & does "things" with him? |
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dana_b (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:52 PM Response to Reply #88 |
145. and how would you know? |
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Mariana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:49 PM Response to Reply #88 |
176. "A lot of women use the money on themselves and that's not OK." |
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bobbolink (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:13 PM Response to Original message |
90. Deciding to be a parent is a LIFE TIME job. |
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MineralMan (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:18 PM Response to Original message |
92. The non-custodial parent still played half the role of creating |
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NotThisTime (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:18 PM Response to Original message |
93. When do you STOP being a parent to your child? Never... that's when child support stops. |
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seabeyond (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 07:23 PM Response to Original message |
99. of course the parent should have to pay back. that money the primary spent that was not available |
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KT2000 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:27 PM Response to Original message |
115. so if the non-custodial parent |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 08:49 PM Response to Reply #115 |
121. Yeah, the idea of making it so that you get off the hook for dodging until 18... |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:00 PM Response to Original message |
123. You sound like an ass |
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Bluenorthwest (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:04 PM Response to Original message |
124. Bookmarking for next time someone says 'Sanctity of Marriage' |
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Lydia Leftcoast (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:13 PM Response to Original message |
128. If you didn't want to support a child, you shouldn't have had a child |
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MadHound (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:39 PM Response to Original message |
132. It is about supporting a child, |
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Darkhawk32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:06 PM Response to Reply #132 |
156. Or as in my case, I have my kids half the time and still fork over 25% of my net income to their.... |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:08 PM Response to Reply #156 |
157. I bet your kids appreciate your being financially responsible for them. |
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Darkhawk32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:11 PM Response to Reply #157 |
158. I sacrifice so much... |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:43 PM Response to Original message |
135. In December you stated that you and your partner make 100,000 a year |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:50 PM Response to Reply #135 |
142. Interesting. The new partner of the non-custodial parent is sometimes |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:54 PM Response to Reply #142 |
147. Yeah. Otherwise known as "Starry's stepmother, 1984-1987" |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:55 PM Response to Reply #147 |
149. I had one of those too. It was awful. nt |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:15 PM Response to Reply #149 |
160. Here's another interesting post, blueamy66 getting mom's child support reduced: |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:16 PM Response to Reply #160 |
161. Interesting, and now she doesn't want to have to pay what he owes in arrears |
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Pithlet (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:26 PM Response to Reply #160 |
168. Ugh. n/t |
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Liquorice (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:36 AM Response to Reply #160 |
185. Oh good God, that brings back bad memories. That poor kid. I hope the father |
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ejpoeta (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 03:42 PM Response to Reply #160 |
265. i had a friend whose boyfriend was a real jerk. wouldn't work extra hours etc. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:01 AM Response to Reply #142 |
197. There's no "rift". |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:53 PM Response to Reply #135 |
146. "My fiance and I make over $100k a year". Wow. Good catch. I'd like to know how long child support |
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JVS (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:56 PM Response to Reply #135 |
150. Oh shit. That one. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:06 AM Response to Reply #150 |
199. Please expound. |
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Forkboy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:53 AM Response to Reply #199 |
234. Wow, you're actually 40 and think this way? |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:04 AM Response to Reply #135 |
198. 100k BEFORE TAXES AND SUPPORT |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 09:21 AM Response to Reply #198 |
210. $60,000 from your own math |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:35 AM Response to Reply #210 |
229. My last thing to say. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:39 AM Response to Reply #229 |
231. It brings you joy to cause suffering in others. You are so special. It brings you joy to be with a |
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Bunny (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:15 PM Response to Reply #231 |
248. . |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:55 PM Response to Reply #231 |
255. Thank you. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 03:01 PM Response to Reply #255 |
262. If you run up a bill, you are responsible for paying it, even if the reason is not current. |
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Starry Messenger (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:20 PM Response to Reply #229 |
241. You've got that straight. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:53 PM Response to Reply #241 |
254. FUNNY |
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treestar (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 09:57 PM Response to Original message |
152. It is about supporting the child |
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bikebloke (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:02 PM Response to Original message |
153. With my mother it was selfish greed. |
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Darkhawk32 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:14 PM Response to Original message |
159. With some women, it's totally about greed and vengeance. |
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mzteris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:37 PM Response to Original message |
171. It's taking care your CHILD! |
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shoutinfreud (151 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 10:55 PM Response to Original message |
178. It's about whatever you want it to be about. |
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mrmpa (707 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 11:34 PM Response to Original message |
180. A good story about child support.....my brother and his first wife divorced |
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TorchTheWitch (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat May-07-11 11:40 PM Response to Original message |
181. back child support is owed regardless of how old the kid becomes |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:04 AM Response to Original message |
182. Barf. |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:33 AM Response to Original message |
183. You must be posting this in honor of Mother's Day |
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Warren DeMontague (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:50 AM Response to Reply #183 |
187. They just don't appreciate the difficulties the 2nd wife can go through. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:07 AM Response to Reply #183 |
200. Well no....as my Mother is dead. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:08 AM Response to Reply #200 |
201. Thanks all for the replies. |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 10:19 AM Response to Reply #201 |
214. all we know about you is what you say on this message board |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:32 AM Response to Reply #214 |
225. Like I said.... |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:33 PM Response to Reply #225 |
245. Maybe you are wonderful |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:52 PM Response to Reply #245 |
253. I said that I wouldn't post anymore...but..I will |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 10:17 AM Response to Reply #200 |
213. And you aren't honoring other mothers, that's for sure |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:30 AM Response to Reply #213 |
223. I really don't give a shit, ya know? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:34 AM Response to Reply #223 |
226. Seriously, why should you honor the mother of your step-child? What did she do anyway? |
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Tikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:08 AM Response to Original message |
189. When I turned 8 my parents divorced..my father never... |
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lumberjack_jeff (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:13 AM Response to Original message |
190. Obviously it *should* be the former. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:32 AM Response to Reply #190 |
224. Another set of hypothetical examples and alternative endings for yours.... |
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Mariana (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:30 PM Response to Reply #190 |
275. My husband and his ex-wife did the money transfer |
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mmonk (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 05:00 AM Response to Original message |
195. It's about responsibility to one's offspring and their well being. |
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leeroysphitz (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:09 AM Response to Original message |
202. Why can't it be about both? n/t |
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trud (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:21 AM Response to Original message |
204. my, my |
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Courtesy Flush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:12 AM Response to Original message |
205. IOW: If you weasel out of paying for 18 years, are you off the hook? |
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jp11 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:20 AM Response to Original message |
206. Seems like punishment, if it were about supporting the child it would be paid |
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Courtesy Flush (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 02:16 PM Response to Reply #206 |
258. If the government supported the child |
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aikoaiko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:45 AM Response to Original message |
208. Unfortunately, there are so many stories of deadbeat parents with money |
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Ilsa (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 09:55 AM Response to Original message |
211. I know parents that are in debt up to their eyeballs because |
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WCIL (265 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 10:43 AM Response to Original message |
215. Wow. My husband is a prince among men |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:13 AM Response to Reply #215 |
220. Must be nice to be so rich that $850 a month doesn't bankrupt you |
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WCIL (265 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:34 AM Response to Reply #220 |
227. I realize I am lucky. |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:42 AM Response to Reply #227 |
232. He was lucky enough to be wealthy so it isn't a hardship |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:11 AM Response to Original message |
219. Child support should be abolished and replaced with a fair system |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:37 AM Response to Reply #219 |
230. You think that is fair? Wow. I'm glad that most places have a formula these days |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:52 AM Response to Reply #230 |
233. No one should have to pay for a child they don't want or don't get equal access to n/t |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:54 AM Response to Reply #233 |
235. Everyone should be responsible for their child, no matter access or desire. nt |
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Taitertots (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:30 PM Response to Reply #235 |
244. Everyone should be responsible for their choices, not the choices of other people |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 03:00 PM Response to Reply #244 |
261. Anyone who makes a child is making the choice to financially contribute to supporting their child |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:01 PM Response to Reply #219 |
247. Implicit in your post |
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Skidmore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:16 AM Response to Original message |
221. Exactly how much do you think it costs to support a child? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 11:35 AM Response to Reply #221 |
228. She's complaining about her new husband having to pay arrears on child support he avoided |
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Skidmore (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:00 PM Response to Reply #228 |
237. There are still childrearing costs that extend into early adulthood. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 12:02 PM Response to Reply #237 |
238. I am in very strong agreement. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:59 PM Response to Reply #228 |
257. I'm not married yet. Geez. |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 03:01 PM Response to Reply #257 |
263. I think you ought to reconsider getting married. |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:29 PM Response to Reply #263 |
274. Well, your not invited anyway. You'd ruin the mood. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:18 PM Response to Reply #274 |
277. I think he should reconsider marrying you. I wonder if you have shown him your nasty postings here |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 07:57 AM Response to Reply #277 |
280. Oh, I think every pot has its lid, ya' know? n/t |
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blueamy66 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:02 AM Response to Reply #277 |
281. Thank you. I am incredible. |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:40 AM Response to Reply #281 |
286. Your poor stepchild. n/t |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:24 AM Response to Reply #274 |
284. Too bad your 'degree' in Criminal Justice didn't teach you not to incriminate yourself. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Tue May-10-11 11:16 AM Response to Reply #257 |
290. Sure, thanks for the invitation. I'd love to meet your fiance. Thanks! |
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TNLib (683 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:26 PM Response to Original message |
250. It's about the Child and it's also about fairness |
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Kurska (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:38 PM Response to Original message |
251. Bullshit, if you owe back child support it means you didn't pay your child support |
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TNLib (683 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:44 PM Response to Original message |
252. I can't believe the dead beat Dads on DU |
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CreekDog (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 06:20 PM Response to Reply #252 |
273. Funny what comes out of the woodwork when certain topics are posted |
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quaker bill (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 01:59 PM Response to Original message |
256. It is about supporting the child |
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franzia99 (479 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 04:54 PM Response to Original message |
267. For starters, if there's back child support the other parent should be compensated for picking up |
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Synicus Maximus (828 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 05:53 PM Response to Original message |
269. Child support is about supporting the child. If some one is ordered |
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Taverner (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 06:06 PM Response to Original message |
270. Really depends on the case |
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Odin2005 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 06:16 PM Response to Original message |
271. I thought it ALWAYS stopped when the child becomes legally an adult? |
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tammywammy (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 06:19 PM Response to Reply #271 |
272. The OPs also upset because her partner has to pay the child support he's in arrears for. n/t |
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msanthrope (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:50 AM Response to Reply #271 |
287. No. Not always. It depends. |
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BlueIris (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 07:37 PM Response to Original message |
276. I am so tired of encountering people who whine about their child support obligation. |
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pitohui (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 08:59 PM Response to Original message |
278. the person who loves the child supports the child thru college |
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cherish44 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sun May-08-11 09:03 PM Response to Original message |
279. It about supporting the child |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:04 AM Response to Original message |
282. I take pleasure in the fact that someone who enjoys fucking with people is being fucked with. |
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w8liftinglady (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Mon May-09-11 08:14 AM Response to Original message |
283. I can only speak as the parent who went without child support for a few years. |
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