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The Straight Story Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:17 PM
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Money Makes Women Seek Out Hotter, Older Partners
Money Makes Women Seek Out Hotter, Older Partners

Money Makes Women Seek Out Hotter, Older PartnersA new psychological study has identified the scientific-sounding "George Clooney Effect," which leads us ladies to seek out older, more physically attractive partners as our financial independence increases. Surprised?

The researchers conducting the study certainly were, at least on the age issue. "We'd assumed that as women earn more, their partner preferences would actually become more like those of men, with a tendency towards preferring younger, more attractive partners rather than those who can provide and care for children," says Dr. Fhionna Moore of Scotland's University of Abertay Dundee. But after surveying 3,770 participants (1,851 women, 1,919 men) about their backgrounds, lives, and earnings, the researchers found the opposite was true.

Titled "The Effects of Control of Resources on Magnitudes of Sex Differences in Human Mate Preferences," and published by the journal Evolutionary Psychology, the study says that as women become more financially successful, they care less and less about "instinctive preferences" such as a partner's ability to provide security and material resources. Autonomy gives women greater flexibility to focus on less pressing matters, such as whether their partner has nice eyes. By focusing more on the looks stuff, financially independent women become more similar to menexcept that men are said to be drawn to younger partners. "The popular stereotype of powerful women adopting male patterns of behaviour is strongly questioned by these new results," the study concludes.

Why would women want older partners as they move on up the ladder? The article doesn't spell it out, but one plausible reason is that older men are likely to exhibit the levels of success and self-assurance that these more confident women might seek.


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FreakinDJ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:18 PM
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1. Wowt - "I'm in Demand !!!
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KansDem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:19 PM
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2. So am I!
Especially in summer when it's really hot!
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mmonk Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:01 PM
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19. LOL.
I guess I shouldn't color my graying hair. All I can say is it's about time.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:22 PM
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3. the age difference in marriages are shifting opposite of this poll, and
i can see a secure woman looking for an older man that is going to be more grown up..... so better chance of maturity in the relationship.

two off top of head, not that there is much in this study
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Lucky Luciano Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:25 PM
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4. I have heard successful women in NYC say they still like their man to make a lot of money.
Too many men, they say, get insecure or feelings of inadequacy when the woman makes more. So, rather than put up with that crap, they go for a successful mate.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:26 PM
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5. i have read that has become more and more of an issue last couple years
with the economy shift....
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w8liftinglady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:27 PM
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6. where did I go wrong?
I should have been looking for the rich one.
Instead,I settled for a public school war vet who was as liberal as I was (in a sea of red).
I could have had a repub,closed my eyes,held my breath...and spent his money.
damn.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 01:29 PM
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7. sigh. and i married younger man. ya know, not fittin that uncomfortable role
others want to put us in. lol
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lukasahero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 04:48 PM
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15. My (older) husband and I are both successful
Edited on Sun Jan-02-11 04:48 PM by lukasahero
Neither of us is a republican. Sorry if to you liberal = poor. To me liberal = certain values (i.e. - how one chooses to spend the money they do have.)
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w8liftinglady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 06:43 PM
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16. lol...no,"liberal" doesn't equal "poor"
However,according to this article,I would have done better holding out for a rich,older guy.Come to Texas some time.I'll show you how this plays out.
Yes,we have rich liberals here,too.Just ask Willie Nelson.
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provis99 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 02:04 PM
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8. someone better explain cougars, then.
Where do all these old women chasing after young guys come from then?
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bluestate10 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 08:57 PM
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18. Cougars are out for sex.
Need for sex and need for a stable relationship are not the same.
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Blue Meany Donating Member (986 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 02:11 PM
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9. Could Men's Responses have something to do with this?
Successful women have complained for years that they intimidate men with lesser status or income; perhaps they have learned who is likely to be comfortable with their success.
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FreakinDJ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 02:21 PM
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10. My wife has a BS in Architecture is 9 years younger and I still make more money then her
I guess I just can't seem to fit in the mold most people would like to place me in

"Some Day. I promise, I'll fit in your Honor"
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flamingdem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 01:18 PM
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36. good point nt
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mainer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 02:39 PM
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11. A hot young stud sounds pretty boring to me
Accomplished women who have means and education want someone who'll keep them engaged and interested. I'm not surprised at all that they'd opt for men with a little gray in their hair and a little experience in their brains.
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GeorgeGist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 04:00 PM
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12. In times gone by ...
it was called Prostitution.
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WinkyDink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 04:08 PM
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13. "Hotter"? Bwahahaha! Yeah, that Hef is HAWT!!
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 08:08 AM
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26. that is what i was thinking. hawt and old dont jive. gender doesnt matter. nt
Edited on Mon Jan-03-11 08:08 AM by seabeyond
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fatbuckel Donating Member (518 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 04:17 PM
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14. And the internet makes me not care.
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 07:01 PM
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17. Successful women prefer money & status to sex with young men, what's so surprising?
Edited on Sun Jan-02-11 07:02 PM by Hannah Bell
Most women do.

I'd say most women of any kind prefer money, status & financial security to sex with young men.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:04 PM
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20. speak for yourself
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:35 PM
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22. lol. women *say* otherwise, but they tend to pick security -- when given a choice.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:36 PM
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23. I've never married, so I am not "most" - and resent being stereotyped like that
Edited on Sun Jan-02-11 09:36 PM by Skittles
some of us do NOT seek "money", "status", "security".
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:39 PM
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24. if you're not "most" why do you take offense?
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:40 PM
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25. because it is STEREOTYPING
Edited on Sun Jan-02-11 09:40 PM by Skittles
who knows what women would really want if not for societal restrictions
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Selatius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 09:39 AM
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31. To be fair, Hannah did qualify the statement.
Now, if it were a statement like all women prefer this or that, yeah, that's overgeneralizing.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 08:12 AM
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27. there are a lot of uneducated poor men getting married. they tell us this.
i know i didnt want to marry a man that was lazy, didnt work, and couldnt pull his weight. i was taking care of me fine. wasnt going to put myself in a position to take care of another.

but that is different from marry for status and money.

i think this is a conditioned role given to us women.

there are some that will be bought to be in a relationship just as there is some men that will marry for eye candy and pay. but not women as a whole. those are users.
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lukasahero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 09:35 AM
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30. Exactly this!
Edited on Mon Jan-03-11 09:37 AM by lukasahero
I did marry a lazy loser who preferred to fish while I worked. I divorced him shortly after realizing this.

It wasn't about his money - if he were doing something worthwhile (like going to school or volunteer/charity work), I would have been happy to 'support' him but all he wanted to do was smoke pot and fish.

I wanted a house. I wanted a garden. I needed a partner to make that happen. I have one now.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 09:56 AM
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32. another thing about this "evolution" study. i am not seeing numbers. 38% marry older? 37% marry
same age? 25% marry younger?

they get a high and say.... women are biologically made to marry old men... and that old for man is "hawt" and reality? not much difference. some do. some dont. different reason abound.

but

evolutionary behavorists want to create a patriarchal rule in our behaviors. regardless of how intellectual it truly is.

to not even take into consideration from beginning of time to historically recent time, a woman was not allowed to work or be educated. like that has NOTHING to do with the numbers. they are changing, as freedom and independence and education is had by women. a swift "evolutional progression" like never seen before. 3 decades later and all that was "biological" is being challenged. scaring a lot of people. working hard to put us back in the roles.
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 01:06 PM
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33. most young women don't have the opportunity to marry older men who offer
them status & money

& mistakenly think their current young man will do so
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 01:14 PM
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34. i dont buy it. nt
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mainer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 08:16 AM
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29. except these women already have money and status
they don't need to get it from a man.

I think that women who are successful want to be with a man they respect as an equal. They don't want a pretty boy toy.
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Hannah Bell Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 01:17 PM
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35. same difference.
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Odin2005 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Jan-02-11 09:06 PM
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21. This is typical human behavior, there have been TONS of studies on this.
Edited on Sun Jan-02-11 09:06 PM by Odin2005
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 08:14 AM
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28. biological or conditioned? if from beginning of time women couldnt get jobs or be educated
and dependent on man to take care of them until just recently, do you THINK this might have something to do with choice? that is not biological. that is society creating an environment where females have no choice.
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Shandris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 02:37 PM
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39. Given that your argument predicates itself on the fact that until recently...
...women HAD to have a man take care of them...

...doesn't it seem a bit on the completely backwards side to say that what they do once they're free from that is conditioned? This article is basically the opposite of your contention, or at least as I read your contention. When financial security is taken care of, there is a trend towards choosing attractive older men. How then does that make an environment of 'no choice' and 'get back in your role'?
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dawg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 01:24 PM
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37. Sounds like a bad headline to me.
I would bet that a truer summary of this study would be to say that rich women prefer men in roughly the same age range as poor women, unlike rich men who chase after the young hotties.

But in case I'm wrong ....

I know there must be some rich, attractive young women out there ....

I'm 43, not George Clooney good looks, but close enough for some ...

I give great backrubs and I would *love* to help you spend your money. :evilgrin:
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kimi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 02:31 PM
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38. What ever happened to personality?
Edited on Mon Jan-03-11 02:33 PM by kimi
Sense of humor? Love of animals? Progressive political views? Ability to do laundry? Oh, and decent hygiene and good looks slotted in there too?

:shrug:

Hotter, Older? I don't care so much about that stuff anymore, it's other things that attract me.

He's gotta want to change the litter box occasionally too.

Edit for spelling *blush*
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JustAnotherGen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-03-11 02:45 PM
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40. Good
It's a fair trade. I run an ezine/community for single women 35 and older. . . They KNOW that at 35 they have a MUCH better shot with the 50 year old guy than they do a 35 year old guy . . . who wants a young chick with perky boobs and no lines on her face.

I.E. They date the men that want to date them that allow them to be the 'younger chick'. Same with my friends in their early 50s -

They know the average 50 year old guy is just as shallow as the 25 and 35 year old guy - AND - the 65 year old guy . . . who looks at them as the 'young chick'.

Oh and your damned if you DO date someone that's 25 when your 40 - then vulgar smug marrieds call you a cougar! :rofl: Oh hell- it's a man's world - some of us know that - and we do what we gotta do to get by.

As long as no animals or people are harmed - no big deal - you know?
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