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Edited on Fri Dec-10-10 12:46 AM by xfundy
NOTE: I looked for a "legal advice," "elder issues." "caregivers," or "aging" forum, but couldn't find one, so I'm posting this here. Mod Squad, if you have a better place for this, move on.
(background) I am, I guess, the primary caregiver for my parents, not by choice, and I am the first to admit I'm the LAST one who should be taking care of anyone. But, as stated, I have no choice. Here is a rough draft of a letter I am working on to the state's dept of Human Services, which may have been dismantled by now. I would like legal/social input and help, if anyone wants to help me. If not, please move on. Thanks. ++++++++
I believe my parents have been, and may continue to be, victims of elder abuse by my sister. I hope I am wrong, but I live with them and give them a watchful eye, nutrition, etc., throughout the day, and have found what I believe is evidence of financial abuse, as well as observed emotional abuse.
My sister moved back here about ten years ago, saying she was doing it to help our parents. I was forced to move back here from the other side of the country five years ago, after suffering debilitating depression, which interfered with my ability to concentrate, and therefore do the work I'd done for years, followed by a fall that broke my kneecap and collarbone.
Thankfully, it was discovered that my depression was caused by chemical imbalance and has been successfully treated with medicine from the county clinic for the last two years (although I've been a client for the last five years, and four more before that, in (state). It takes time to find the proper medicine).
Recently some UPS or FedEx packages were sent to my parents' house, addressed to my sister. I opened several of them, and most contained non-FDA-approved "medicines" as well as cosmetics, such as day/night skin creams, etc., and other things I would characterize as "snake oil." I only thought to make a scan of the last such package's invoice statement, which revealed that she'd charged nearly $300 to my father's credit card for things that couldn't possibly be of benefit to an 88-year-old man.
The previous shipment, which I opened, contained two orders of pills for "probiotics" and for "brain retention for people over 40," merchandise cost $150, plus shipping, charged to his card.
She immediately took the duplicate pills, declared my father should take the probiotics, then took the duplicate package of the "for people over 40" pills.
There were other shipments that came here, one of which contained "AD+D," which is needed for my mother's care, but at a higher price than the local drugstore or even grocery store.
I may be slow on the uptake, but I have been constantly surprised; when I think she can't go any lower, she (apparently) does.
She has become a "dealer" of protein-shake powders, which she has variously declared to my father that, "this will help you sleep." and "this will give you energy," when talking about the same "snake oil" shake.
He has no idea what he's paid for these things. I would think that someone who has his best interests at heart wouldn't do a markup.
She has also insinuated her way into having her name on all of his financial accounts, even including executorship of his will, which was previously up to me.
(DU NOTE: She is a True Christian™ and has manipulated my father for years. My psych thinks she has Narcissistic Personality Disorder; from what I've read, and experienced, I agree. Legal thoughts? THANKS!)
On edit: clarified title.
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