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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:21 PM
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A year ago tonight my Father passed away.
And I'd just like to thank you all again for the love and strength you gave my family and I during a very tough time.

I still have the threads, and every time I look at them, my heart is filled with your warmth and kindness all over again.

I love you all.

:loveya:


Mods, I'm also posting this in the Lounge.
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:22 PM
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1. Wow, SCE, I remember that. Time flies.
:hug:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:23 PM
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2. Indeed sis.
:hug:
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Stinky The Clown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:25 PM
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3. One year out ....
:hug:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:27 PM
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4. Always Stinky
:hug: always.
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malaise Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:29 PM
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5. Damn it's been a year already
Love you back. I hope you're filled with beautiful memories as the pain eases from day to day. :hug:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:32 PM
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7. I have malaise.
And DU is one of them. Y'all made those days possible to bear.

:hug:
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Rick Myers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:31 PM
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6. It's tough...
So many dates become important... Lost my dad just over a year ago...

All good karma to you...

Rick
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:39 PM
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8. And to you Rick.
Bless your Dad's memory.

:hug:
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:41 PM
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9. Best wishes to you and your family.
:( :hug:

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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:44 PM
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11. Thank you bigwillq
:hug:

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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:41 PM
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10. The grief never goes away
but it recedes like a tide and is replaced by warm, happy memories. :hug:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:48 PM
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12. That is so true Pool Hall Ace
The moments come to you and form a tapestry of memory. A warm one :hug:
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rubberducky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:53 PM
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15. I find so much comfort by "walking backwards in my mind".
I can reach back to encouraging words, and "feel" the warmth of a gentle touch. Thank the dear lord for memories of all the love that we have felt in our lives. Yes, even our fur babies.
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:03 PM
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22. I see him in almost every place I go.
I do deliveries in the sections of Philly where he grew up, worked, and where we went to church as kids.

And according to my family, there is much of him in the mirror when I look there as well.


:hug:
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rubberducky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:16 PM
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29. Your sweet memories keep him alive in your mind.
I feel so sure that you will pass on your wonderful memories to your little 1-year-old.
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w8liftinglady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:49 PM
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13. Hugs and thoughts...
my dad's birthday's next week-the first since he died.Think of good times,and feel his loving hand on your shoulder. :pals:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:54 PM
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16. I'm sure it'll be there darlin'.
Thank you :hug: :loveya: :)
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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:52 PM
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14. Big hugs to you!
A year ago last month my mother passed away at 66 from a massive stroke. It's been one hell of a ride but am finally seeing a little sunshine.
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:56 PM
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18. And to you Dappleganger
It takes a while for all the emotions to make sense and fall into place.

Glad there's sunshine for you now. :hug: :)
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11 Bravo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:55 PM
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17. I remember that, Salmon.
I had a similar experience when my Dad passed one year ago this last June 25th, and DU was there for me as well. Try and remember the good times, it sometimes helps me ... a little bit.


:hug:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:59 PM
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21. It does help my friend.
:hug: DU is simply overflowing with great souls.

Thinking of you and your Dad tonight...
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nadinbrzezinski Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:58 PM
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19. Best wishes there
hugs
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:04 PM
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23. Thank you nadinbrzezinski :)
:hug:
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blogslut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 06:58 PM
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20. Hugs
Losing a parent is damned hard. The comfort comes when we realize that they never really leave us.
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:09 PM
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25. And he hasn't sweetie.
:hug: Thank you blogslut, you're a luv. :*
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spanone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:05 PM
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24. .....
:hi: :thumbsup:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:10 PM
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26. Thank you spanone :)
:hi: :hug:
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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:10 PM
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27. We love you lots my friend, lots
Edited on Wed Sep-16-09 07:10 PM by DainBramaged
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:12 PM
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28. hugscanhaz plz :)
Thank you DB, love lots get and sends kthnx :hug: :hug: :hug:
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H2O Man Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:20 PM
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30. Peace to you
and yours.

The loss of a parent is a difficult thing. Even a year later, there is a mixture of emotions .... the pain of separation, and the strength of good memories. As human beings, we experience both.

There will still be times that when something good happens, that you will find yourself wishing you could share a conversation with your Dad. In those times, you will feel his strength. And he, yours.
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:34 PM
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32. Many thanks my friend
He's always close by, in songs I hear, in images I see, and in hearing in my mind how he'd react to things.

We've had those conversations. We still talk in our own way. :)
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pipi_k Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:22 PM
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31. My thoughts go out to you on this sad anniversary...
I have a psychologist friend who says that it can take up to two years to fully grieve the death of a loved one.

Sometimes I think the process of grief is never truly completed, though.


Next month will be seven years since my dad passed away. At times I still find it hard to believe he's gone.


The pain never really goes away...it just dulls a little and doesn't feel so much like a knife to the heart after a while.

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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:38 PM
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33. There was a moment some weeks ago pipi_k
I was watching TV and a scene came on where 2 doctors were taking turns performing CPR on an elderly mn. It took me right back to that nigh a year ago, the paramedics working on Dad until they realized there was nothing else that could be done.

I cried like I haven't cried in a long, long time. I'm sure those moments will come to me for as long as I live. I'm glad they happen. It means he's still loved and missed.
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Obamanaut Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 07:54 PM
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34. Isn't it just the neatest thing how so many strangers can say the
sweetest things, just when you need them most.

I'm sorry for your loss.
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Sep-16-09 08:05 PM
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35. The kindness of DUers will be with me always
I can honestly say I would not have been as strong as I was during that time without their support.
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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-17-09 09:09 PM
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36. Hugs, we don't forget even after the day has passed.
:loveya:
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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-20-09 02:25 PM
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39. My friend
We hold our memories fond and dear, without them we give away pieces of ourselves.

:hug:
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Swamp Rat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Sep-17-09 09:10 PM
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37. .
:hug:

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SalmonChantedEvening Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Sep-20-09 02:23 PM
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38. Holmes
:hug:
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