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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:47 PM
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I miss you Mom...
Every Mother's Day it really hits me how much I miss you. You passed away almost 11 years ago and I think you'd be proud of what I've done and the person I've become. I remember how exasperating you could be when I'd come visit. You'd give me a hard time about my smoking and my pot use and my "questionable friends" (it seems like all of my friends were "questionable" especially the female ones) but then you'd be proud of how clean my underwear was. I never regretted visiting you after I moved away but I always knew I was in for plenty of subtle criticism when I did. Now I know that you were just doing your job as a Mom. I also always knew that you loved me more than life itself.

The cancer took you away within a year of you getting those "belly aches". The doc gave you 4-5 months but you held out for over 11 months just so you could spend more time with the grandkids your ungrateful sons had finally given you a few years before. Plus you were always a tough ol' squaw. You had to be to endure the pain of the cancer. I remember you complaining about having to take the morphine because you didn't want to become a "drug addict". So typical.

I hear people complain about how their mothers hound them and try to micromanage their lives and how they "hate" them and I feel sorry for those people. I'd give anything to have just one more day with you Mom. I'd give anything to pick up my phone and hear "Why the hell haven't you called? What's wrong?". I'd give anything for one more hug.

I miss you Mom.
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polichick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:52 PM
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1. Beautiful tribute! k&r
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:52 PM
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2. I feel the same way and it's been almost 19 years here.
Just one more hug and chat would be lovely.

Thanks for this.
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glitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:52 PM
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3. This post speaks for me.
My mom died a year ago and I feel the same. I guess I always will. :cry: thanks for your beautiful post that put my sentiments into words.
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indepat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:23 PM
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15. It's been almost a year, but this is the first Mothers Day
:cry:
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glitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:58 PM
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24. :(
:hug:
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mdmc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:53 PM
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4. God Bless
Peace and low stress.. :hug:
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auntAgonist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:55 PM
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5. Just over 11 years since my Mum passed away...
Thank you for the beautiful tribute to your Mom.

oh what I'd give for one more hour, one more minute, one more hug... one more...


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bemildred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:55 PM
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6. Well, actually, she was wrong a lot, but I still miss the heck out of her. nt
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:46 PM
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19. I feel the same way.. nt
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BlooInBloo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:56 PM
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7. :) 8 years here.
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hlthe2b Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:56 PM
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8. For me, 22 years and it still seems almost like it just happened
The loss of one's mother is not something one just "gets over." Those DUers who have your Moms, please try to cherish every day you have. Ask all those questions you really want to ask and get to know her as a person and not just as your "Mom"... Those memories (and answers) will stay with you for a lifetime.

Mom, I will never stop missing you but your memory is with me always.



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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 10:38 PM
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33. Well said...
For sure ask all of the questions on your mind. Once their gone so is their history and legacy. My Dad once told me that his Dad could walk out at night and tell you what time it was by the position of the stars and the moon. It was one of his biggest regrets that he didn't learn that skill from my grandfather.

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slipslidingaway Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:58 PM
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9. knr nt
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Cha Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 06:59 PM
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10. How sweet to do this for your mom, XOKCowboy.
It's been almost 12 for me and I've been thinking of her a lot today.

Hey mom O8)
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mr1956 Donating Member (211 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:09 PM
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11. 29 years for me
She was a remarkable, intelligent, funny woman who could party and cuss with the best of them. I tell my grandniece stories about the woman she never met and it keeps her and the laughter alive in our hearts. The best thing I ever did, a few years before she died, was break with family tradition and say "I love you" out loud. I'm glad I got the chance to let her know how much she meant to me. Do it while they're still around, you won't regret it.
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:07 PM
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25. That's the way I feel about my Dad
With Mom I could always tell her I loved her and I loved the way it made her eyes light up because, as you said it wasn't expected. With Dad it took till I knew it might be the last time I'd ever see him alive. I remember how it shocked him but he didn't blow it off. He just hugged me and said good bye. We both knew. I wasn't there when Dad died but I go to tell him I loved him.

He's also with me every day. I was blessed with good parents and grandparents. Too many people can't say that today.
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:50 PM
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21. It's that day isn't it?
Here's to our Moms.
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Dappleganger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:11 PM
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12. Thanks for this, my mom passed away last August...
the family has been doing a great job of trying to keep me busy but today has been very tough. She was only 66 years young and we all miss her like crazy. :(
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:53 PM
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22. She's always there....
So's Dad but this is her day. :)
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Catshrink Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:13 PM
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13. 5 years for me
I still can't believe she's gone. I think about her every day -- when I think of something she'd do or I use one her dishes. At least she isn't hurting now.

Thanks for sharing with us, Cowboy.


:grouphug:
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:26 PM
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31. They'll always be with us....
Whenever I take a drive through the West my Dad is always in the passenger seat and when I throw my clothes on the floor Mom is always there to make me pick them up. :)
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malaise Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:14 PM
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14. What a lovely tribute
My mom died 13 years ago and I can still hear her gentle voice.
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:56 PM
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23. My Mom's voice usually wasn't so gentle... LOL
She grew up during the Depression and as a cowgirl. She could outcuss and out ride any ol' cowboy but could be sweet as a lamb when it suited her. :)
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Stinky The Clown Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:28 PM
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16. Coujld it be so many years? It seems as if I huggged her goodbye just yesterday.
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D-Lee Donating Member (457 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:28 PM
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17. I miss mine too ... Thanks for this tribute .... n/t
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:17 PM
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29. You're welcome..
I wrote it for me. It's for all Moms though.
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Frustratedlady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:29 PM
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18. Beautiful! The umbilical cord is physically, but not mentally cut.
We always have a special bond to our children.

Mine has been gone since 1982, but I think of her nearly every day.

Happy Mother's Day, Mom!
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firedupdem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 07:47 PM
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20. Don't I know the feeling Cowboy. I miss my mom everyday... n/t
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kcass1954 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:08 PM
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26. Six years, and this is the worst Mother's Day yet. I think maybe it's because my
grandmother died earlier this year. I need another hug too!

When I was a little girl, my great-grandmother gave her engagement ring to my mother. It's absolutely beautiful - 3 perfect rose-colored rubies set in a swirled design in rose gold. I fell in love with it the first time I saw it - because it was so beautiful, because ruby is my birthstone, because I loved my great-grandmother so much. My mother always promised me that she'd put it in her will that it would be mine. After Mom died, my dad wanted my sister and I to divvy up her jewelry. We found watch fobs for my brothers, and set aside the pearl jewelry for our sister-in-law, and a diamond pendant and ring for my niece. And Kim and I split what was left. Of course, I have the ruby ring.

A couple of years ago, I told this story to a good friend of mine, and showed her the ring. She ooh'ed and aah'ed and said how lucky I was to have this to remember my mother.

After half a lifetime, the ring is mine, but I'd throw it in the fucking ocean if I could have my mother back.
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ejpoeta Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:09 PM
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27. Oh, how i agree! I miss my mother so much! She has been gone for over 20 years, but
my heart still aches. I have heard people complain about their mother, and i tell them they should be thanking their lucky stars they still have their mother! I was 12 when my mom died. she had been sick for years, and I remember going to dialysis with her. she was in the hospital a lot. I cherish the things she made with her own hands with love... my hollie hobbie blanket... though i lost my doll amy in a fire a few years ago. I tell my own daughter about how my mom had 'magic fingers' with which she created all these things.

I just lost my dad a little over a month ago. And I know that he is with mom now. At least they are together again. But now i can miss them both. I wonder if his junkers of years gone by have made their way up to heaven too... oh boy would my mom be mad! but she loved my dad.... and all of her kids.

Here is a hug going your way today... your mom may be gone, but she is always in your heart and lives on through you.
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XOKCowboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 11:15 PM
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36. Here is a hug returned....
It must have been hard at 12 but you still have the memories. We were both blessed.
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RFKHumphreyObama Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:14 PM
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28. I know how you feel
My mother passed away two years ago from a very rare cancer-like disease that she defied the statistical odds to get, at the age of 61. She was so energetic and passionate about life and she lived life to the fullest. She had a vibrant personality and she would be the life of any party

She never got to see her first grandchild. She would have been the best grandmother -she adored kids and the feeling was mutual. She expressed her wish during her dying months to live to see her grandchild but she never got the chance. She was always wonderful with the friends I bought home -one of them told me after her passing that he considered her a second mother.

We did have our ups and downs and our relationship was sometimes tense but I never doubted that she loved me and that she had my best interests at heart. I was fortunate in that I was able to spend much quality time with her during the last week of her life -something we had not done in a long time. She didn't want to die, even during her last days, she talked about the future.

Mother's Day comes a few days after my Mum's birthday so obviously I've been thinking about her a lot recently

Condolences to all those who have lost their mothers and thanks for starting this thread with that beautiful tribute to your mother :hug:

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Flying Dream Blues Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:20 PM
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30. Thanks for the wonderful tribute to your mom.
We sure do miss them when they're gone. Sending a hug to you!
:hug:
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thevoiceofreason Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 08:31 PM
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32. XOK - A beautiful tribute.
I bet she was a character
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Missy Vixen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 10:42 PM
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34. XOK Cowboy, your mom is proud of you
I know she adores you still. After all, those who live on in our memories are never really gone.

I'd give anything for one more day with my mom, too. I lost her in 1991, and today, the ache is especially painful.

:hug:
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RB TexLa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun May-10-09 11:07 PM
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35. I've missed mine every day for 2 years 5 months. Cancer as well

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