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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:15 PM Original message |
I have a question about sexual assault - warning- this is fucked up |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:17 PM Response to Original message |
1. Did you go outside with them? If so, why? |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:18 PM Response to Reply #1 |
3. no. I was working. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:20 PM Response to Reply #3 |
5. Then how do you know about it? From him? From her? |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:24 PM Response to Reply #5 |
6. From the lower level manager |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:39 PM Response to Reply #6 |
15. Then it's up to the lower level manager to elevate it |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:57 PM Response to Reply #15 |
31. I'm in management training,.... so almost a manager, not that it means much. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:01 PM Response to Reply #31 |
39. Glad to give it--I applaud you for seeking others' advice before acting |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:04 PM Response to Reply #39 |
42. I certainly will, and I also hate making hasty decisions such as this |
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PeaceNikki (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:43 PM Response to Reply #6 |
18. Why is the lower-level manager sharing this with other employees? |
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Captain Hilts (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:17 PM Response to Original message |
2. If she forced his hand there, yes, it is. nt |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:18 PM Response to Original message |
4. The employee who left wasn't the problem, so you still have a problem at work. |
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FatherTime1408 (78 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:26 PM Response to Original message |
7. Too many holes in the story to say.. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:27 PM Response to Reply #7 |
8. I don't feel unsafe. |
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dsomuah (262 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:32 PM Response to Reply #8 |
11. The problem is ... |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:37 PM Response to Reply #8 |
14. Report it as to the best of your knowledge. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:42 PM Response to Reply #14 |
17. But report it to whom? And on what basis? |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:50 PM Response to Reply #17 |
22. No, it wouldn't be the same because her intention is obviously not to stir trouble |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:00 PM Response to Reply #22 |
36. 'Obviously not to stir trouble?' That presupposes that the account is true as stated |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:03 PM Response to Reply #36 |
40. No. The presupposition is that the OP is reporting the truth as she know it. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:06 PM Response to Reply #40 |
43. So if you and I were coworkers, and I told Person-A that you sexually assaulted me... |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:10 PM Response to Reply #43 |
45. You've watched too many legal sitcoms. These things get sorted out |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:25 PM Response to Reply #45 |
52. And you're diminishing it out of turn. These things should 'get sorted out' through proper channels. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:31 PM Response to Reply #52 |
56. The OP has several choices and urging her manager to take charge of the matter |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:39 PM Response to Reply #56 |
61. Then we're back to my question above |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:45 PM Response to Reply #61 |
63. No, I'm not conflating anything. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 06:03 PM Response to Reply #63 |
71. Right, right |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:12 PM Response to Reply #43 |
46. I agree, that it should not be me reporting it. |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:28 PM Response to Reply #46 |
54. After this current issue is sorted out... |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:38 PM Response to Reply #46 |
59. That's awful. How big is this company? |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:40 PM Response to Reply #59 |
62. Sadly, it doesn't have to be big at all |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:47 PM Response to Reply #62 |
64. Yes, I was thinking it sounded small enough not to behave as if |
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TWiley (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:31 PM Response to Original message |
9. Is a crime with no victim still a crime? |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:32 PM Response to Original message |
10. You have no way of knowing the truth of the story. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:46 PM Response to Reply #10 |
20. I don't have a bad opinion of female employee. |
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TexasObserver (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 04:11 PM Response to Reply #20 |
66. I don't really think it's your concern. |
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noamnety (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:33 PM Response to Original message |
12. Multiple answers here. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:48 PM Response to Reply #12 |
21. yes, there are rules against management sleeping |
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Rabrrrrrr (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:34 PM Response to Original message |
13. I think it's the guy's decision in this case, and since everything is hearsay, |
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ColbertWatcher (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:41 PM Response to Original message |
16. Is it? Yes. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:46 PM Response to Original message |
19. If it was forced, it was sexual assault. Age doesn't matter, or skankiness of offender. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:51 PM Response to Reply #19 |
24. I guess, I will urge my manager to report it. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:53 PM Response to Reply #24 |
25. That sounds like a good plan. You can't force anyone to get help, but you can |
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bunkerbuster1 (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:55 PM Response to Reply #24 |
29. Sounds like that's about all you can or should do. |
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EFerrari (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:13 PM Response to Reply #24 |
47. That sounds like a good solution. It is the manager's hat to take care of it. |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:50 PM Response to Original message |
23. It boils down to consent. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:54 PM Response to Reply #23 |
27. according to what he told my manager, no, he did not consent. |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:58 PM Response to Reply #27 |
32. Whether or not someone consents is |
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-..__... (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:53 PM Response to Original message |
26. I hope both these employees... |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:55 PM Response to Reply #26 |
28. lol, neither was working that night. |
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-..__... (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:59 PM Response to Reply #28 |
34. In that particular case they were off the clock. |
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FatherTime1408 (78 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:38 PM Response to Reply #28 |
60. Get ready for a policy change regarding off-the-clock fraternizing at work |
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galileoreloaded (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:57 PM Response to Reply #26 |
30. Are they hiring?? |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:00 PM Response to Reply #30 |
37. it seems like a double standard there. |
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galileoreloaded (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:08 PM Response to Reply #37 |
44. Agree. But if the victim is an adult, don't they have to file the complaint?? |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:15 PM Response to Reply #44 |
49. for a criminal action, yes |
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FatherTime1408 (78 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:35 PM Response to Reply #37 |
58. Wait a tick! Are you saying.. the... transaction.... was completed? |
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DU GrovelBot (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:58 PM Response to Original message |
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Orrex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:29 PM Response to Reply #33 |
55. You always say that. |
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Schema Thing (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 02:59 PM Response to Original message |
35. If you weren't watching, how do you even know it happened? |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:03 PM Response to Reply #35 |
41. it was reported by male employee to my manager |
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johnaries (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:00 PM Response to Original message |
38. If it was not consensual, it was assault. And although neither |
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aikoaiko (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:15 PM Response to Original message |
48. yes its a type of sexual assault and you should report it to the GM |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:19 PM Response to Original message |
50. I am appalled. |
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galileoreloaded (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:53 PM Response to Reply #50 |
65. Ever swat your kid or grandkid in public?? |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 04:31 PM Response to Reply #65 |
68. No, I haven't. And there is a big difference between sexually assaulting someone & "swat your kid" |
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Lex (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 04:29 PM Response to Reply #50 |
67. It's an issue because it's not assault if it was consensual. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 04:34 PM Response to Reply #67 |
69. Some here seem to be doing just that. Questioning that. |
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cwydro (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:19 PM Response to Original message |
51. Too many holes in the story. |
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Maine-ah (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:27 PM Response to Reply #51 |
53. see post 37. |
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uppityperson (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 04:45 PM Response to Reply #51 |
70. Age and power difference? |
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MadMaddie (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 03:35 PM Response to Original message |
57. If the lower level manager does not report this then that manager |
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TheWraith (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore | Sat Nov-15-08 06:34 PM Response to Original message |
72. I believe that the exact degree of this would vary under state laws. |
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