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Jara sang Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:54 PM
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If your spouse cheated and lied incessantly would you STILL trust them?
Lets' say your significant other has cheated and lied to you and you caught them, several times. You are still with them for what ever reason, it's your house too damn it and you can't afford another one. If your partner lied to you incessantly and you knew it, would you trust them the next time they insisted they weren't lying to you? Or would you just believe them because it's convenient, you can't believe they would lie about this, this time is different, etc. I believe that is called enabling.
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Monkeyman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:55 PM
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1. One Word NO
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Philosoraptor Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:55 PM
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2. I believe that is called enabling. no shit.....n/t
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Jara sang Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:21 PM
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15. Subtle, very subtle.
I can see you. :hi:
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villager Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:57 PM
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3. I divorced mine.
n/t
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im10ashus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:59 PM
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9. Smart.
:-)
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Bluzmann57 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:57 PM
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4. She did
and I don't.
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elehhhhna Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:57 PM
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5. Sure! I would! xoxo, Condi
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Jara sang Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:58 PM
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8. Condi sends hugs!
LOL!
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Der Blaue Engel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:58 PM
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6. They could be telling the truth, but you'd be an idiot to believe them
based on past experience.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 07:58 PM
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7. I have a roommate who is only a friend...he is seeing a
married woman. As a result of his helping someone betray their marital vows I trust him less than I did before I found out about this tryst. He says he didn't want to be like his dad, who was a womanizer according to him. Yet, I assume he is a womanizer.

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Tandalayo_Scheisskopf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:00 PM
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10. Take it from me...
A man messing with a married woman is not bad news, it's the worst news.

And you can turn that around the other way.

Nothing good will come of it.
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ikojo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:05 PM
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12. I know. I've tried to tell him that no good can come
of this. I've watched way too many episodes of Cold Case Files.

Now it looks like he has another woman closer to home this time. Wonder what the married one will say if she finds out about the one closer to home, that is if the one closer to home is also involved with him.
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Tandalayo_Scheisskopf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-11-06 10:41 AM
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17. it sounds like your friend...
Has some really poor decision-making faculties.

Oh well, I guess it is gonna take a real crisis for him to change.

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AndyA Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:03 PM
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No - once lied to, the trust factor is no longer a consideration.
It depends to some extent how severe the lie was. Marital infidelity, no trust. Starting a war against a sovereign nation, no trust.
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im10ashus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:03 PM
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11. No.
But it sounds like the situation isn't about the lying anymore. It's about convenience. Is this a convenient thing to do by leaving? Well, where would I go. That's a valid concern. But it's better to start over, if one can, than stay and be miserable and unsure. Enablers are not healthy people.
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napi21 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:05 PM
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13. NOPE! Once trust is broken you can't get it back.
I used to tell my kids that too while they were growing up. I told them, no matter how bad they thought what they had done was, to tell the truth, because once you lie, I'll never be able to trust you again.
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bloom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:06 PM
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14. No nt
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The_Casual_Observer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Aug-10-06 08:37 PM
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16. It will be different this time!
"This is the real deal". Jesus, it's like spousal abuse in the form of government/media lies.
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