http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/28/arts/television/28poly.html?pagewanted=2&th&emc=thsome excerpts:
"It's a more realistic view of a polygamous family that lives out in society than people have known," said Anne Wilde, a widow who was part of a multiple family for 33 years. "It can be seen as a viable alternative lifestyle between consenting adults." <snip>
"Big Love" skims the surface of the intense dynamics in plural families, Ms. Prunty said. Their isolation, secrecy and complicated logistics make them breeding grounds for forced marriage, under-age brides and abusive men, she said. The writers of the series have said that those issues will be addressed.
"In reality, there's not a woman out there who's going to share a man without religion being a factor," Ms. Prunty said. "That's what's missing in the show. This seems like some male fantasy, some alternative marriage that is Hollywood."
...The show was conceived as a prism through which to look at the "struggle for the common good over the individual good" that exists in any family, Mr. Olsen said. He and Mr. Scheffer are partners in real life. "The pro-polygamists think it's too dark," Mr. Olsen said. "The anti-polygamists don't think it's dark enough. I think we've split the baby down the middle." The men said they spent almost three years researching the show, talking to experts and reading everything from sociological tracts to official Mormon records.
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I'm not watching it - but I think the debate is interesting.
I think if it was an arrangement with multiple men and multiple women - it wouldn't seem so patriarchal and controlling. Even the women - in the article - who had been in such arrangements were "chiding the competitive wives, urging Bill to take control". So that's pretty annoying. The direction of the culture becoming more about "men's fantasies" - would seem to be in opposition to equality and anti-sexism - otherwise known as women's "fantasies".