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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Nov-12-09 11:06 AM
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Divorce Risk higher when wife gets sick.
When Dr. Marc Chamberlain, a Seattle oncologist, was treating his brain cancer patients, he noticed an alarming pattern. His male patients were typically receiving much-needed support from their wives. But a number of his female patients were going it alone, ending up separated or divorced after receiving a brain tumor diagnosis.

Dr. Chamberlain, chief of the neuro-oncology division at the Fred Hutchinson Cancer Research Center, had heard similar stories from his colleagues. To find out if these observations were based in fact, he embarked on a study with Dr. Michael J. Glantz of the University of Utah Huntsman Cancer Institute and colleagues from three other institutions who began to collect data on 515 patients who received diagnoses of brain tumors or multiple sclerosis from 2001 through 2006.

The results were surprising. Women in the study who were told they had a serious illness were seven times as likely to become separated or divorced than men with similar health problems, according to the report published in the journal Cancer.

Over all, about 12 percent of the patients in the study ended up separated or divorced, a rate that was similar to that found in the general American population during that time period. (Lifetime divorce rates in the United States are higher.) But the pattern changed when the researchers looked at the patient-divorce breakdown by sex. When the man became ill, only 3 percent experienced the end of a marriage. But among women, about 21 percent ended up separated or divorced.


http://well.blogs.nytimes.com/2009/11/12/men-more-likel... /

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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-18-09 09:54 PM
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1. I cannot even fathom finding out I had a brain tumor then finding out
my husband wants a divorce. It's so so bad without a tumor; I think I'll feel less sorry for myself now, thank you.

Men do suck, don't they.
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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-18-09 10:15 PM
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2. Yes, they do, b'sis!
Check back tomorrow! Court date!
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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-18-09 10:29 PM
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3. I don't know who is/was smarter, you for the prolonged drama, or
me for getting over it.

Now I'm alone, and despite my best attempts, I'm feeling very "BITTER". I'm pissed is what I am.

I need a job and to meet some peeps (I know, starbucks!).
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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Nov-18-09 10:51 PM
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4. I'm MAD!!!
Had terrible thought at grocery this eve that the 3 of them are spending Thgvng together, and not a word to me! So wrote to daughters: Hey, what are y'alls plans for Thgvng? Haven't heard! You know, we REALLY shouldn't do this to ourselves! (And it's gonna rain here tomorrow! oops, almost TODAY!)

Don't have enough $ to visit Dad in Iowa, OR to get Chanukah etc gifts for girls! DAMN, gotta go read something good!

Just checked VP Biden last night oh Daily show, on Hulu.

Later!
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Pool Hall Ace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-03-09 10:53 AM
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5. My husband tried to file for divorce while I was in the hospital recovering.
And my tumor wasn't even cancerous! And it's all gone now. I'm pretty much back to normal now (physically), but he had no patience with the healing process.

That will be the last time I marry a Republican.

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comtec Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Dec-10-09 04:31 AM
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6. I can't imagine leaving my wife when she needed me most
What kind of asshole does that!?
but we're still talking about a minority of men who do this, 21%.
that means 79% stay with their beloved wifes, and go through all the HELL that is involved with the process.

so yay for the majority of men who have souls!

There's too much bashing of what is now the minority of men, and not enough appreciation for the increasing (silent) majority of men who are NOT assholes, but are in fact caring, loving, catering people!
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lukasahero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Dec-18-09 03:01 PM
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7. And yay for the vast majority of women who have souls
Sorry, but it seems if we are going to praise the 79% of men who stay, we should at least also praise the 97% of women who do.
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