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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-03-09 02:20 AM
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Can a woman screw her marriage up by being honest about how much her life sucks
I'm supposed to be a liberal ... Not taken advantage of right?


LOL
:cry:


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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-03-09 02:23 AM
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1. scene
oktoberfest drive home ////

Too much to drink ,, but nothing , not genuine
\\\\

I think my marriage is over


I'm miserable

Daily resentment
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elleng Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-03-09 03:48 AM
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2. Don't understand.
WHO had too much to drink? and what's 'but nothing, not genuine?'

Daily resentment about what?
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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-08-09 07:37 PM
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6.  daily resentment of being his mother instead of his partner in life
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blondeatlast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Oct-03-09 06:50 PM
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3. Oh, P, I'm so sorry.
:hug: I know it's been so very rough for you, too.

My STBX will be arriveing 10/10 and we are going to finalize everything. I don't want to, I still love him even though it is stupid. I went on a date last night and it all came back to me how crappy dating was.

Take care, sis--love from Phoenix way coming to you.
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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-08-09 07:38 PM
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7. Thanks
you hang in there too
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AwakeAtLast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Oct-04-09 09:02 PM
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4. Remember there are always two involved
You cannot screw up anything all by yourself. Being honest is fine, but I think it has to be coupled with a willingness for both parties to accept their parts of the problems, and also commit to working on them. Don't think about throwing in the towel too soon!

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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-08-09 07:41 PM
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8. It's been a long time in coming
a few years in fact . We have a child . We will be friends forever .
I just can't be married to him anymore . I'm not property , I'm not a maid , I'm not a lot of things I was having to live everyday .

I'm not quite sure who I am yet but I need to find out .
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proud patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Oct-08-09 07:10 PM
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5. Sorry folks I posted this UI
My husband moved out this Monday after I got very honest with him
Friday night. He decided to stop speaking to me and moved out .


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raccoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Feb-05-10 09:32 AM
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9. Best of luck to you, PP. How are things going now? nt
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uncommon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-20-10 09:33 AM
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10. That's what happened to me, more or less.
I couldn't hide the fact that I was unhappy stuck at home with a small child with no financial security or life of my own.

He would go out and do as he pleased while I was home taking care of our daughter.

3 years in January since we split up and our divorce was just finalized last month. And we still end up fighting at least once a month or so about custody or some other parenting related nightmare.

On top of that, he has a 6 month old baby with his new fiancee and their relationship seems approximately as stable as ours was, so I imagine he will be going through this again in a few years.

Hang in there. :hug:
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