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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-08-05 07:03 PM
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So where do you live?
If you fel comfortable sharing this on-line pls share. I'm curious as to what the climate is like in your community, city, state, etc. for interracial, mulitiethnic family/couples?

Are you happy where you are? Have you ever wanted to move someplace else?

I'll get things started--

We live in Southern California. While couples and families like ours seem to be growing in numbers it still seems to be hit or miss in terms of the social climate. Socal still seems to be rather segregated, particularly in the Orange County area. Which is weird to me. When in Anaheim one can see a great deal of diversity. But OC is still the area (rarely) that we may encounter a look/stare, etc.

Our immediate community we never get looks or stares. It's pretty diverse here but it's still too Repub for my personal taste. LOL!

We LOVED being in Northern California over a year ago to visit family. We saw lots of people that looked like us and it was SO friendly there! We would love to move there! We have discussed moving and are still considering it.

Bliss :)
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jmm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-08-05 10:42 PM
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1. In 1990 we had census workers stalking my neighborhood
I was only ten so I'm not sure why but they repeatedly came knocking on all of the doors on our block. My mom, like most of the other adults in the neighborhood, avoided them because she had already handed in her forms. One day while playing relievo a woman decide to question all of us kids. After asking where we lived and how many siblings we had she asked what race we were. Between all of us there were three black and white families and one Hispanic and white family. I won't say what we put the poor woman through but they left our neighborhood alone after that day :evilgrin:.

I guess the whole point of this story is that Boston, or at least the parts I grew up in are full of interracial and multi-ethnic families. This area has its fare share of problems but overall I like it. The only times I want to move are on days like today when it snows.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-12-05 08:43 PM
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7. jmm--your census story cracked me up!
I can only imagine the Census workers fleeing your community in confusion! LOL!

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legally blonde Donating Member (747 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-10-05 04:25 PM
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2. I live
in St. Louis but my boyfriend lives in Florida (yet another challenge of our relationship!). I would say that St. Louis is pretty liberal, overall, and fairly accepting of inter-ethnic relationships.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-12-05 08:40 PM
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6. Hi legally blonde! Glad to see
that you've joined us here! Welcome! :hi:

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TroubleMan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-10-05 10:57 PM
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3. West Palm Beach, FL

I've never seen any problems down here. South Florida is a very diverse community.
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NewJeffCT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-11-05 03:54 PM
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4. in Connecticut... my old & current neighborhoods are pretty diverse
In my old neighborhood, one could (if they had strong enough ears) hear English, Chinese, Polish, Portugese, Spanish, Korean, Vietnamese, Hindu and a few others that I'm probably forgetting. There were several inter-racial couples as well out of maybe 100-120 homes.

I'm in a new development now in a small town and it has maybe 30 homes now so far. We live next door to another inter-racial couple and two houses up the other way is another. It's pretty diverse as well - several Asian (Far East) & Indian families, as well as black, Hispanic & white. I'm guessing that 100% white families are less than 50%.

No problems at all in either neighborhood.
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bigwillq Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jan-11-05 08:09 PM
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5. I split my time between two places in CT
My folks place in Ansonia, which is a small, blue-collar town of about 20,000. Where my house is, it's really residential and mostly white folks.

But downtown, it's a real mix of people.


I also have a condo in Waterbury with my man. It's also blue-collar, but a bigger city.
Really diverse.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-12-05 08:55 PM
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8. From the responses thus far
it seems some of the big cities are becoming more diverse.

I know this is the case here (in southern California). I just wish that it wasn't still so segregated in ways. I realize it is changing and the biggest changes are going to take time--I'm just impatient I suppose! LOL!
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-05 03:19 PM
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9. northern cali
sacramento, to be exact...i was raised in southern cali, but moved here in my late 20's and love it!
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-05 07:36 PM
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10. Hi Shanti! When dh and I visited Sacramento
we were VERY comfortable! We LOVED it! No one batted an eye at us and we felt so comfortable. Very friendly people there too!
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kwassa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-05 08:30 PM
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11. what does "dh" mean? and isn't Sacramento hot as hell?
I see many people use "dh" and I have no idea what it means.

Right now in Maryland we have about three inches of snow

My memories of the central valley always range in the 100s, never cooler!

Though I am sure it is cooler now. How is all the rain?
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-05 10:41 PM
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12. actually
it's not that bad, and i don't tolerate temperature extremes well. if you can handle 100+ heat AT TIMES, you will be ok. i LOVE my air conditioner(s)!! the winters aren't extreme either.

i really like the IR climate here tho. :D
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jan-19-05 10:42 PM
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13. hey bliss!
what's up? sacramento is the state capital, so we have to represent :)
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jan-21-05 10:17 PM
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14. Shanti, where are you in Sacramento?
We are looking around to move, either northern California or possibly out of state altogether.

We liked the vibe we experienced there, except for the 'gated community' where one of my hubby's brothers lives. He's a total snot and despite growing up Dem, he has become an asshole and Freeper. His gated community friends seemed rather conservative too.

But the mall where his other brothers' wife works--not far from where they live it was SO COOL! Very nice vibe--friendly people, etc.

I've heard it's kind of like down here--some areas are liberal, some conservative.
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-25-05 07:58 PM
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18. i'm in rancho cordova
sorry i took so long to return your response...

rc's very interracial, but elk grove gets good reviews in that area too and it's "fresher". if i had the $$$, i'd be there, but i'm just a single mom.
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Ecumenist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-16-06 02:52 PM
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29. Wow, Shanti
I lived in Rancho Cordova, (in Sunriver) from 1988 to 2001... Small world :hi:
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Ecumenist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-16-06 02:59 PM
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30. Wow Shanti......
I lived in Rancho Cordova, (in Sunriver) from 1988 to 2001... Small world :hi:
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Champ Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Feb-20-05 11:07 AM
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15. Mesa, AZ
Haven't really faced too many problems other then the usual "You like Choclate?" :eyes:

Don't get the stares or negative responses.
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ffm172 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-21-05 02:34 AM
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16. I live in Germany and have am in a relationship with an American
here interracial relationships are not so uncommon, so I don't have any problems with stares or anything else. Which is pretty cool.
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shanti Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Mar-25-05 07:55 PM
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17. self delete
Edited on Fri Mar-25-05 07:56 PM by shanti
self delete
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Lisa0825 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-30-05 03:04 PM
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19. Texas City here...
Edited on Wed Mar-30-05 03:06 PM by Lisa0825
as back-asswards as this area can seem at times, racial issues seem to better here than many places.

My former boss (in Houston) was black. He is a doctor from New Jersey. He was being recruited by several teaching hospitals, and he said one of the deciding factors for him was that while looking at houses, the real estate agent did not try to steer him away from ANY neighborhoods, unlike in other cities he'd visited (including Dallas).

In addition, interracial couples here seem to be in all social and economic classes. In some places I have lived, it was more common to see the artistic types or higher-education students dating interracially, but the average blue-collar types seemed to still be segregated.

Down here, I often see folks of all types of backgrounds dating other races. I like that.
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Brewman_Jax Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Apr-19-05 09:39 AM
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20. Metro Atlanta
in Dunwoody, northern part of the "inner" metro area (expanded from the original 5 counties to the present 14 counties). Dunwoody is one of the better zipcodes in the area. I live in a complex that is very diverse in residents, but the area itself is not. I frequent a few of the locals bars and restaurants, and the clientele is not very diverse. In my favorite watering hole, I can be one of the few (or only) darker faces in the place. Doesn't seem to be overtly political. The few times I see political bumperstickers, they're both W and Kerry/Edwards.

Sometimes I'm asked how is it getting phone numbers. I actually say, "Look around. Go for it. Sometimes you get the elevator, most times you get the shaft." I REALLY want to say, "You're asking me? I'm the only not-white guy in here, I'm the wrong one to ask. I'd probably have a better chance winning the lottery than getting a phone number. Look around. YOU have got better chances than me, and I'm better looking than you. <sigh> The gods are not merciful. Now, quit wasting time and get busy! You're cutting into my beer drinking time."

I am sure that there's hope. Atlanta bills itself as "The city too busy too hate." Someday, that will be true.

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yorkiemommie1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Apr-22-05 09:45 AM
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21. in South Bay, So Calif
Yay, i finally get to post in groups! I had to sneak around to donate for fear my freeper husband would donate the the RW to get even!

it's ok here. no problems. when we first got married 30 years ago and there weren't that many mixed couples around, husb. and i would be heading for a checkout stand at a store, and people would get between us thinking we couldn't possibly be together! but, now, no.

hi, bliss!
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judaspriestess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue May-31-05 05:27 PM
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22. Las Vegas
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jeffrey_X Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jul-11-05 12:17 PM
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23. Chicago
We live in the diverse neighborhoods on the near north-west side (East Village, Bucktown, Wicker Park)

We love it, there is so much diversity around here. In fact, I'm a minority (white male) most places we go as much of the population is hispanic, african american or polish.
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Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-28-05 06:57 PM
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24. Baltimore, Maryland
There are a lot of interracial couples here, mostly black and white, but there is still also a lot of racism as well. We currently live in a mostly white neighborhood and many of the folks who grew up around here are still like that.

I want to move out of this state but I have to wait until I graduate.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-07-05 12:14 AM
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25. I hope you get to move somewhere that is more
comfortable for you!

How much longer do you have in school?
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Mutley Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Aug-10-05 07:22 PM
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26. I have six classes left to take.
I'm hoping to be able to squeeze five into this coming fall semester, then try and get my school to waive the last class. If I can do that I will graduate in December. If not, I'll have to take that last class in the spring and graduate next May. I've been trying to get my BA for nearly eight years, so I'm quite excited to finally get it done.
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Aug-12-05 02:00 AM
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27. You can do it!
I'm rooting for you! Let us know how it goes...

:thumbsup:
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Ecumenist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-16-06 02:48 PM
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28. Bliss...
I'm in Northern California. My husband and I are happy where we are, in terms of the region of the country. He's VERY protective of me and we've had very little problem. We're moving further north where things are a bit less liberal BUT we still feel fine. When we've gotten any "looks", it's been from black men. I think that it's more of a shock to black men when they see a black women with a white man and this is only happened on a few occasions over the 8 years we've been together. I love the north coast the most and this is where I feel most comfortable and am looking forward too buying a property there. :bounce:
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Mar-14-06 08:17 PM
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32. Hi Ecumenist--
Welcome!

When my husband and I were visiting northern California, we felt very comfortable there. The people were friendly, and we saw so many other diverse couplings that we felt welcome--we didn't feel like we "stood out" to anyone.

We would love to move closer to where you guys are! :hi:
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MarianJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Feb-18-06 03:02 PM
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31. A Good Thread to Start Accepting Your Invite, bliss_eternal!
We're in Central Maine. I'm White, ChicaAzul is hispanic (Puerto Rican to be exact) and our son is African American. We are accpted VERY well here in 97% white Maine and our son is one of the most popular kids in his class!

Whenever we go back to Philly though, I realize how much I miss being with African American people! I'm PROUD that my racist cousin thinks I'm a "race traitor". I'm amused that he doesn't say it to ME and thinks I don't know his opinions.



Here is our American Family Quilt of many colors. It's my favorite family picture, taken almost a year ago before our son's 5th birthday!

Peace
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Mar-14-06 08:20 PM
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33. Your family is gorgeous!
I'm thrilled that you shared a picture with us--Thank YOU! Your son is so cute! So glad that you joined us--so sorry I've been mia, and am only now seeing this post.

:hi: :bounce:
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MarianJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-01-06 11:04 AM
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35. Thanx!
I've been MIA for quite awhile, too!
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MarianJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Mar-29-06 07:52 AM
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34. Maine!
Here, in this 97+% white state, our family has been more welcome than back in the somewhat diverse Philadelphis suburbs.

We will NEVER leave Maine!
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bliss_eternal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Apr-08-06 11:28 PM
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36. Really?
That's wonderful...I'm thrilled to hear it! I wish dh and I could find that "perfect" welcoming place. Not that anyone hasn't been welcoming toward us--but you know how it is sometimes. :)
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MarianJack Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-26-06 09:46 AM
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37. ChicaAzul & I Have a Policy.
Anybody who doesn't like the make up of our family is entitled to their opinion.

They are NOT, however, entitled to dump it on US!

I have a racist cousin who had to find that out the hard way!
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GOPFighter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-12-06 12:23 PM
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38. Just outside Washington DC
Silver Spring, MD. At one time there were 3 other black/white interracial couples besides ourselves in our block, plus a few other interracial combinations. Our townhouse neighborhood is one of the most diverse neighborhoods I've ever seen. We look like what all of America will look like 50 years from now.
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Lost-in-FL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri May-19-06 07:30 PM
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39. Orlando, FL
Edited on Fri May-19-06 07:31 PM by Lost-in-FL
Never liked it here. What would you think when you see a sticker in a vehicle saying: "We should have

picked our own cotton" and a big confederate flag? My hubby and I enjoy our trips to Bass Pro Shop and

see the ignorant looks on people faces (specially the employees).
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judaspriestess Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat May-20-06 07:10 PM
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40. I live in Vegas
via San Antonio!!

yeah I'd like to move back to Texas someday but not anytime soon.

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