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deepthought42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Jan-15-07 11:17 AM
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Just when I start to enjoy being alone again...
I go through phases where I want to hang out with people, and then I just want to be left alone. Right now I'm going through the latter. Yet it seems that now is the time people want to hang out with me. Example, Saturday I worked 10am-6pm. I work two jobs, and having no plans for that night, I just wanted to go home and enjoy the peace and quiet. Alone.

During my shift, I had 3 different people calling/texting me (that's alot for me, especially in 1 day) to see if I could hang out with them. One was being a little too needy, since I just saw them a few days ago; another, my best friend, understood I was tired and wanted a night in; the 3rd I just didn't answer the phone. I called them back later though; I didn't want to be rude.

I don't want to be rude. But I don't like hanging out with people all the time, especially since my free time is limited to Sundays mostly. The needy person couldn't understand why I could make time for someone else, but not for them. Maybe because the other person wasn't being needy?

I don't know...like I said, I just want to be left alone. I wish some people could understand that.

:rant:
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bemildred Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jan-18-07 07:07 PM
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1. Well, you gotta talk to people about it.
And then you gotta find people that value you enough to respect your feelings. But meanwhile, you are not obligated to hang with anyone when you don't want to. But you should try, within reason, to give them the warm-puppy feeling about it so they don't take it personally. It's not personal, is it?
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deepthought42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-01-07 01:35 PM
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3. Nah...just feel like going into hibernation for the winter
I can only go out w/other people so often before I start feeling annoyed, closed in, yadda. I like my peace and quiet. My best friend understands, but she lives cross country now, and I find myself around people that don't know me that well. So it will take time. In the mean time I am trying to be a little social.
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Chowlie Donating Member (47 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jan-20-07 06:58 PM
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2. A lot of what you're saying sounds familiar to me
...part of the reason I get so lonely is I tend to isolate myself. Going beyond what you said into my own stuff: people annoy the living hell out of me sometimes. Maybe that makes me a jerk. Even my wife really annoys me a lot but I feel very close to her. I really would not want to face life without her. I'm kind rambling, I guess.

I rarely answer my phone or my door because I don't like interruptions. I like games, but I usually avoid games that have other real-life players in them because people piss me off so much. Christ, I'm a wreck. :)

How can I have friends if I can't tolerate other people?

I exaggerate though, there are people who I tolerate very well. One weird thing about this is a lot of them are like me, and when I invite them out, though we talk often at work, they decline always, and they seem to basically never go out just like me.

My best friend is completely buried in his work most of the time.
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deepthought42 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Feb-01-07 01:38 PM
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4. I've got a few close friends, that's fine for me.
Edited on Thu Feb-01-07 01:39 PM by deepthought42
I just don't feel motivated to keep in contact with people right now. Ever since I started using the internet it's been easier for me to keep in touch w/people, cuz I've never been a phone person (and now I'm a receptionist...ug). On Sundays I don't work, and unless I feel like going out, I try not to turn on my phone.

I'm going to grad in the fall. I'm going to grad school in the fall.....

edited cuz I can't spell...
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