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I read your post a couple of times, plus thought about your previous threads on the topic, and this is what I'm getting...
Okay. First of all, as you said, it's only been a couple of weeks. I do know how terrifying it can be, seeing your income drop dramatically. Snarf--you should have seen my panic when I quit my job and we had to subsist on Mr. MG's job only. I'm talking cold sweats, nightmares, insomnia, the works! We have a lot of debt and a house in mid-renovation (that sure came to a screeching halt--we STILL don't have tile in our bathroom, and we've been here 2 1/2 years), and I'm the one who writes the checks, so I was in a permanent state of freakout. Not to scare you, but our reduced-income state lasted quite a while--about a year before my freelance work took off. HOWEVER, we never got so "up against it" that we were in serious financial trouble...although I try not to look at our credit card bill, because some serious car repairs had to go on it, and of COURSE our TV had to shit the bed during our tight financial times. :eyes: Even now, a year and a half into this new way of life, we're still operating on a lower budget, but somehow it's working. So bear that in mind for your own situation! :)
Second, I don't think karma or the LOA punishes anyone for having a crisis of faith ;) -- and you know that at heart, right? But it is possible to convince ourselves only to see the dark side of something if we get into that mindset. You know how to pull yourself out of it of course, but sometimes that takes time.
Third (and don't hate me for this!), do you think there's any possibility that you kind of want to be right? You had mentioned that you were a little put out that your husband's instinct seemed to be more accurate in this situation than yours was because yours was usually always right. Do you think you might be seeing the situation from a kind of "told you so" viewpoint, when it's not the case at all? If not, then no worries. But if there's any chance that a little of that is sneaking in, it could be affecting how you view the situation when it's not really that way at all.
The most important thing to bear in mind is that it's only been a couple of weeks. Try not to panic (I know--easier said than done), and look at your financial situation as it is TODAY, not what you fear it might be down the line. Did your husband ever get that $400 they shorted him? If there's one thing I have learned from our financial situation, it's to be responsible and account for every penny. If you and your husband have been "casual" about money in the past, perhaps this lesson applies...?
We're all pulling for you here, LD. It really is a great place for support, isn't it? :grouphug:
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