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Since the 19th, he's been on/off again dealing with work-related stress affecting his personality and functioning at home. He's a Taurus (5/14) and he's a real type-A personality, where I'm a real type-B Aries. He was promoted to an assoc. director level to appease our big boss' girlfriend (so she could 'manage' his crew of workers and have justification to get herself promoted to assoc. director). After his promotion, he was working the whole year without a job description or anyone reporting to him. Now the the week of Thanksgiving, he's been given 2 projects (8 guys plus consultants) to head up the project to upgrade our whole HR system and our whole Financials system concurrently within 26 wks. The consultants (who we're paying big bucks for) have estimated it will take 130% of his time PLUS he has some other miscellaneous duties not figured in. I think mental health is about keeping a balance, and sometime that week his balance flipped. That week one day he had a meeting scheduled every hour - no exaggeration. He also worked one night from 8am - no lunch break - took a dinner break then went back until 2:30am.
I swear when he's playing with our son (video games) over this xmas break, it's like there are 2 6-yo's in the room with the bickering going on. When we wake up in the morning, I think the first question my teen daughter and I ask ourselves is "Is this going to be a good day, or a wierd one?". And it's nothing that is really apparent to anyone outside of our immediate family (lack of seriousness, everything a joke or a pun, loses temper more quickly than before, sexual innuendo's attached to comments addressed to me - even at work and in front of the kids, etc.) He's also been complaining of butterflies in his stomach before meetings (didn't used to bother him), headaches, and innability to stay asleep at night. Previously when he's had work-related stress problems, it's always manifested itself in sleep walking or sleep talking (hanging drywall in his sleep, talking like he's talking to his boss, put his hand thru a window once). Needless to say, I learned to be a really light sleeper. I'd rather it be in his sleep though, than having to deal with it during the day and because of the sleep talking, I actually had more insight than now.
If it makes sense, it's like he's lost his 'depth' of personality or he's set up a wall there - doesn't want to talk about serious stuff, doesn't want to deal with work. Yesterday was a normal day, he worked outside alot and he loves that. Today hasn't been quite that way. My daughter said that she thinks its because we head back to work Tuesday and vacation is coming to an end and he's already anticipating the work load.
It's been a bad year. I had cancer surgery (but so far, so good), we lost 2 of our friends in a house fire a month before xmas, 2 days after xmas we lost a friend to brain cancer, Hubby's had his work upheavals and every three months we go thru the waiting game again hoping that my checkup comes back OK. I go for my 3rd checkup on Jan 16th. Oh yeah, and I dislocated my knee 2 wks before Xmas and have been ordered to phys therapy starting next week.
I'm sorry this has been so long. My daughter said I almost never cry and I almost never lose my temper or raise my voice, and I've been crying at the drop of a hat and I lost my temper the other day (at hubby, not her or our son). I'm really trying to hold it all in for them, but it's hard, and now that I read it all written down, it seems so minor, but it really isn't.
We just need any healing thoughts that you can spare.
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