Any insight from my fellow spiritual DU'ers would be appreciated -

[holboz]

I lurk more than I post on this forum. I find the information and forecasts that everyone shares here quite fascinating. It seems that the majority of you who post here have been aware of your gift for most of your lives and often faced a great deal of adversity growing up. This is what inspires me to seek your help and insight in regards to my daughter.

There are so many situations I've been through with my daughter that give me every reason to believe that she's spiritually sensitive/intuitive. Like me, she's very sensitive to the energy transmitted by others or by environments. And she seems like a "wise old soul". She's extremely articulate for 2 and a half, carries herself very well, and extremely polite and proper. When I took her to Starbucks this morning she walked up to the counter and said, "Excuse me, Mam. May I have a Rainbow Cookie and a caffeine-free soda, please?" I think everyone within ear shot nearly fell over. Every adult she meets seems to be taken with her - she just has "something" about her, even at the age of 2 and a half, that make people gravitate towards her and take to her immediately.

Does any of this echo the childhood of any DU'ers? I know there was a thread in which many of you lamented how difficult it was growing up with your gifts and how you felt like you didn't have the support or understanding of your family. What suggestions would you have for me and my husband? Fortunately my husband shares my spiritual beliefs and he believes there is something extraordinary about her, too. My biggest concern is protecting her - the fact that so many people just seem to "gravitate" to her and want to engage her worries me greatly but I don't want to shield her, lock her away, or make her paranoid.

Sorry if this post seems to be all over the place - these are just things I've been thinking about for quite some time. I eagerly anticipate any insight you all may have.

[LaurenG]

1. Oh how very wonderful for ALL of you

My only piece of advice would be to teach her everything you know and believe and help her to realize there is so much more to learn. Help her to trust herself and the "knowing" that she has. Teach her to think and let her experience her world as she grows.

Of course it's much more complicated than this but if she knows she is loved and you have good boundaries with others she'll learn some very important things through your example as well.


:hi: :hug:

[I Have A Dream]

2. I have a few suggestions.

First, always be honest with her and walk your talk. If you make a mistake, admit it to her. I am not a metaphysically "gifted" person, but I've felt like an adult my entire life. If my mother hadn't been such a good example of love in action, I don't think that I would have turned out nearly as well adjusted as I did since I felt that I was more adult than most adults in my life -- my mother was the exception. (My mother was not at all into metaphysical things, but love really is the most important thing in the world, so she gave me what I needed first and foremost.) (I'm not sure if this makes sense; I'm all over the place here.)

Secondly, don't expect her to be perfect. My guess is that she will very quickly sense it if you are disappointed in her. She needs to have room to grow and experiment without being held to adult standards even though she is probably wiser than most adults.

Thirdly, unless she feels uncomfortable with people or you really feel that her safety is compromised, allow people to gravitate to her. That's probably one reason that she's here: she's to be a lighthouse. (Some lightworkers are candles & some are lighthouses, in my opinion. Both are needed in this world; she sounds like a lighthouse to me since her light is so apparent since people notice it so easily.)

Good luck with this special little person, holboz. She sounds as though she's a gift from the Universe. :)

[cassiepriam]

6. Yes with precocious children we have to keep in mind they are

still children. It is human nature to start treating them like mini adults.
That is what happened to me and I never really had a childhood. But in all fairness childhood things were not of much interest to me. So it is a tricky business parenting this kind of child.

[rumpel]

3. I agree with the above posts and

would suggest if you see any particular abilities as she grows to support her. Show her as many things about this world as possible, teach her well, discuss the inter-connectedness of the universe and the equal treatment of all sentient beings - and she will contribute a great deal.

On potential difficulties with other children: If that should occur, perhaps you may want to tell her that everyone has a different place and role in this life, and it is ok for those that may cast her out to be what they are, that someday, they, too will understand, and she will find her own circle.
And do not be afraid, if the circle she chooses are plants or animals or "imaginary" friends.

Just the other day, I saw a piece on A&E (I think) about gifted children. There seem to be support organizations - I forgot the name they mentioned in the program. Perhaps when you google children+psychic or gifted will lead you to that organization, should you need support at some time. They drum with a Hopi teacher at the center, they work with their abilities, they have professional therapists and doctors, who are absolutely horrified that "main stream" psychiatrists often label the gifted children as having ADD and other such illnesses. It sounded like a very good center.

[stellanoir]

4. ditto

Aaaand love her, love her, love her, and make her laugh.

[cassiepriam]

5. In addition to all of the above

since you are concerned about protecting her, you might want to start helping her set good boundaries with others. What is appropriate, what is not, etc. And you can model being polite, and appropriately social but when
to draw the line in a respectful way with others. Many empaths or sensitives can be somewhat co-dependent so self protection is a legitimate issue.

I would handle it all in a matter of fact way for right now since she is so young.

I could write a book about how it feels to be like your daughter, many of us here could!

[holboz]

7. Big hugs and thanks to everyone for the input!

:grouphug:

I really appreciate all of you taking the time to offer your help, suggestions, and encouragement! I truly love this community and wish I had more spiritual insight of my own to share but unfortunately I'm not particularly skilled in any certain area. But I think everyone here has a big heart and there is so much hope on this board. When there's a lot of negativity and anger on the regular DU boards it's nice to venture into the ittle spirtuality and alternative healing corner where there is always some light and positive vibes.

THANK YOU ALL ONCE AGAIN! I love having you guys around!

:)

on edit: fix my smiley!

[I Have A Dream]

8. holboz, I'm not skilled in any particular spiritual area either.

Just having your energy here adds to the sacredness of this forum, so I hope that you'll "drop by" more often to bless us with your energy.

Oh, and I hope that you will keep us up-to-date with how your precious daughter is doing as she grows in the world.

:hug: