I caught someone I volunteer with in (another) lie today.

[crikkett]

I'm really angry about this!

I don't know what to do about it. This person seems to be a pathological liar, causing harm in a volunteer organization.

The Jet Blue thing to do would be to out the lie immediately, publicly, but I know that it would be a swan song and I'm not interested in jumping down an escape slide.

Because the women I work with are not into confrontation, and to call out the lie is to put everyone on the spot. But I'm really pissed off.

Really.

:mad:

[OneGrassRoot]

1. I observed something similar....

Kinda. I hope I'm not posting too off topic.

("The Jet Blue thing to do"...:rofl:)

I get a lot of emails and daily subscriptions to inspirational things.

I belong to an online spiritual group and have even linked to them from here. Wonderful periodic inspirational emails and such.

I started noticing that this group, which I have admired so much, is using the text from ANOTHER email I get (totally unrelated) for their inspirational send-outs, without crediting this other source.

It's a small thing, but when we're supposed to be trying to live our daily lives with pure intent and integrity, I swear, that is just GLARING at me.

Very disappointed. :(

Your situation is more extreme and direct, and I'm very sorry you are going through it. Friggin bad apples everywhere.... :(

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[NJCher]

2. send them the MLA citation link

www.mla.org

I so identify with this part: "...live our daily lives with pure intent and integrity..."

Send it through an anonymizer. :)


Cher

[elleng]

3. Prolly not much help here, but,

I married one of those. Didn't know it at the time, and now, separated. He's been lying to daughters for years, about EVERYTHING, and they don't know which parent to believe. They're 22 and 25, and they can barely listen when I tell truth about things.

Just my story.

[MorningGlow]

4. Aw, so sorry you're going through this, Crikkett

That sux.
But I have to second the tee hee about "the Jet Blue thing to do"--I hope that catches on! :rofl:

Perhaps others in your organization also know that this person has lied in the past. Can you do a little reconnaissance work, without seeming to be trolling for gossip, to find out?

[southerncrone]

5. I'd say: Realize it's THEIR karma & don't make it YOURS.

Usually these individuals end up showing their true colors to all eventually. Maintain your integrity & do the good the organization is designed to do.

You may find this person despicable, but try to avoid confrontation. It will only hurt the good all of you are trying to do. Don't let the liar taint you by "falling prey" in their evil web. Let...it....go.

:hug: Sometimes doing good even seems difficult.

[Cleita]

6. I have tried to sort out the kind of lies told from past encounters

with pathological liars. If they are the type who lie about themselves to make themselves look better, or if they are just stories about innocuous events that probably never happened and if the lies are harmless, I give them a pass. However, if the lies are about others, especially slander or if they are like the lies the Republicans tell to advance their agenda, then they should be called out and sooner rather than later. If the person is a harmless liar, instead of getting angry, have some pity. That person is just trying to be liked and you could set off a psychological reaction that could backfire. A better way is to gently remind them that they said the opposite yesterday when you are alone and not in front of others.