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babylonsister Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-08-09 04:47 PM
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A Moral Crossroads For Conservatives
A Moral Crossroads For Conservatives
The genie that gay-marriage opponents still hope to stuff back into the bottle is out for good.

by Jonathan Rauch

Saturday, Aug. 8, 2009


Last October, Bill Meezan, my cousin, left his home in Columbus, Ohio, for a business trip to Philadelphia. Bill is the dean of Ohio State University's College of Social Work, and he travels quite a bit. In Philadelphia, he thought he felt an old cold coming back. Then he developed a nasty cough. On October 31, he went to the hospital.

He remembers nothing of that day, but Mike Brittenback recalls sharply how doctors in Philadelphia called him in Columbus to say they suspected pneumonia. Mike, an organist and choirmaster, is Bill's partner of 30 years. A few hours later that Friday, they called back to confirm the diagnosis. Mike was concerned but not alarmed.

At 3 a.m. the next day, the phone woke him up. It was a doctor in Philadelphia. Mike needed to come to Philadelphia immediately. Bill had gone into septic shock and might not survive more than a few hours.

* * *

"Here's the key principle," Peter Sprigg, a gay-marriage opponent with the Family Research Council, said in an April radio interview on Southern California's KCRW. "Society gives benefits to marriage because marriage gives benefits to society. And therefore the burden of proof has to be on the advocates of same-sex marriage to demonstrate that homosexual relationships benefit society. Not just benefit the individuals who participate but benefit society in the same way and to the same degree that heterosexual marriage does. And that's a burden that I don't think they can meet."

Can't they?

* * *

Having just been told, at 3 a.m., that his partner of three decades might die within hours, Mike Brittenback was told something else: Before rushing to Bill's side, he needed to collect and bring with him documents proving his medical power of attorney. This indignity, unheard-of in the world of heterosexual marriage, is a commonplace of American gay life.

The genie that gay-marriage opponents still hope to stuff back into the bottle is out and out for good.

Frantic, Mike tore through the house but could not find the papers. He would need to retrieve them from a safe-deposit box. Which was at a bank. Which did not open until 9 a.m.

Somehow Mike made it through the next six hours, "crying and frantic and all kinds of awful things running through my mind," fetched the documents, and got on the road. By some higher mercy, those lost hours did not cost Bill his life. When Mike arrived in Philadelphia on Saturday afternoon, Bill was still alive, though in grave danger.

Mike had packed clothes for a week.

more...

http://www.nationaljournal.com/njmagazine/st_20090808_9...
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BrklynLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-08-09 04:48 PM
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1. "Moral" and "Conservatives" are two words I cannot comprehend in the same sentence....
Edited on Sat Aug-08-09 04:48 PM by BrklynLiberal
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d_r Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-08-09 04:57 PM
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2. thank you
That was a good article
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Q3JR4 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-08-09 08:50 PM
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3. I've been saying this for a long time.
Wonder when the repubs will get the memo?

Anyway, +1

Q3JR4.
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Libertas1776 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Aug-08-09 10:56 PM
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4. What an incredible story
that, unfortunately, has to emerge from an unnecessary everyday occurrence for gays in America. When will this bs end?
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Control-Z Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-09-09 01:01 AM
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5. That made me cry.
The kind of love these two men share is greater than a lot of people ever find in a lifetime. I can't even imagine being loved that way. I know for a fact that if I were in the hospital for 6 weeks with pneumonia, even back while I was happily married, I'd be lucky if my husband visited more than a day or two - and it would be to bring the kids.

I honestly don't understand why anyone would want to deny this kind of love to another human being. Who cares where and with whom they find the love? That they find it is what matters.
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beyurslf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-09-09 02:59 AM
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6. What a great story!
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WillParkinson Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-09-09 04:06 AM
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7. Doesn't benefit society...
So working in our neighborhoods, caring for our neighbors, their families, paying taxes, none of that benefits society?

And if you're so up on marriage benefiting society, what benefits do marriages between the elderly and infertile bring to the fabric of society?

Give me a break. Logical thinking for the loss.
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