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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:00 AM
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20 years ago tonight in a gay bar in Jackson Mississippi (Jack's)...I met a guy....
Edited on Sun Mar-08-09 01:21 AM by Rowdyboy
It was a Monday and NOBODY ever went to the bar on Mondays. He had just separated from his wife of 17 years and it was his first night out as an openly gay man (chaperoned by two gay friends). I overheard him in a political conversation dissing Republicans and struck up a conversation. He was 39, an English teacher with salt and pepper hair; I was 35, overweight and very insecure. His friends HATED me! Before he left I kissed him. "How dare you let that guy put his tongue in your mouth!" (exact quote-we all became friends later). Michael and I exchanged numbers and I invited him to my trailer for dinner the next night. I did broccoli/steak stir fry on a hot plate and he loved it (how hard is he to please!). The night ended VERY well.

We continued dating others for a few months but I really wasn't interested in anyone else. My sights were set on him. Anyway, 20 years later and we're still together. He's 59, retired, and "salt and pepper" is pretty much salt these days. I'm 55, in decent shape and quite secure that I am loved.

Thanks to you guys like Mitchtv who have 30+ years with your guy. You helped me see it really can be done. Also good luck to you kids who've just been together for weeks or months. If its right, you can make it work. I know that relationships and monogamy aren't the answer for everyone, as many of my friends prove daily, but what suits you is what you should do. I wish you all the happiness I have known.

And I give you what he gave me....purple and white tulips

(God can it possibly get anymore saccharine than this? Very sad.....)

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AnnieBW Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:07 AM
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1. That is such a sweet story!
Congrats on all of that time together, and many, many more years together!

:toast:
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:13 AM
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3. Thanks-it really feels like yesterday that we met....
:toast:
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Kool Kitty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:12 AM
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2. Congrats to you both.
Ain't love grand? Yes, it certainly is! :hug:
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:15 AM
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5. I think its the grandest thing in the world....and I never expected
to find it, especially from a really hot guy. Sometimes life just works out well...
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fed_up_mother Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:15 AM
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4. Sweet. Congrats on your anniversary!
We celebrate the anniversary of our first date as well. :)
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:17 AM
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6. Since the state of Mississippi isn't likely to EVER let us marry, we celebrate
the day we met (3/7/1989) and the day we joined households (10/01/1989). You just build your holidays around what life gives you.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:18 AM
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7. awww
:D
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:19 AM
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8. Yeah...awwww!!!!
I'll kick your ass!

:hug:
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:31 AM
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11. I will kick yo' happy ass!
yes INDEED! :hi:
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:36 AM
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12. Life is so fucking good sometimes I could just bust!
I have no idea how I deserve what I've been given but I've learned not to question gifts.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:42 AM
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14. you're a good person, Rowdyboy!
you deserve it!!!
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:51 AM
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16. Thank you so much sweetness....you're a class act too....
People like you and Jitterbug and Proud Patriot etc have made the last 8 years tolerable. There is no way I can say how much it helped. Bless you all.
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Skittles Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 03:02 AM
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17. oh I hear you
the men in white coats would have taken me away long ago were it not for DU :o
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:22 AM
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9. Congratulations and thank you for sharing your wonderful story
I wish you many, many, many more years of happiness.
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:27 AM
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10. I've been celebrating since dawn and I wanted to spread my joy to my friends here...
Edited on Sun Mar-08-09 01:30 AM by Rowdyboy
I think we often forget to celebrate happiness these days. It may be rare, but its always worth noting.
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Hepburn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:42 AM
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13. Oh, my....
....to love and be loved.... :loveya:

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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:45 AM
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15. What a gorgeous photograph.....thank you for being part of our party....
That particular picture pretty much says it all. Thank you again.
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Hepburn Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 04:00 AM
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19. You are very welcome....
....your story is so wonderful, I am honored to be a part of your party.

I wish you and your beloved many, many more happy and wonderful years together!

:hi:
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Hawkeye-X Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 04:00 AM
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18. Congratulations!
This is my friend, Jim and his partner, Bruce. Together for a little over 20 years, chatting with my wife....



Jim was my Vocational Rehabiltation counselor, and had me started in college :)
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Jamastiene Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:08 AM
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20. I love love stories.
Congratulations on your many years together and thank you for sharing your story. :toast:
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tbyg52 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:24 AM
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21. Congratulations, and thanks for the story!
:hug:
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Hekate Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:31 AM
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22. Happy anniversary and thanks so much for sharing your love story...
Reading this very last post of the night (for me anyway), ends it on a happy note indeed. :hug:

To all true lovers: :toast:

Hekate




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flygal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 08:09 AM
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23. Congrats Indeed!
Happy Anniversary - and many many more sacharine filled days together!
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BR_Parkway Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 08:17 AM
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24. Congrats to you both - partner and I have our 10 year coming up
next month. It's always great to see other long term couples. I think we'll send Daddy D an anniversary card.
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Mnemosyne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:37 AM
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25. Twenty years is an amazing accomplishment, Rowdy! Congrats! n/t
Edited on Sun Mar-08-09 10:38 AM by Mnemosyne
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RandomKoolzip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 11:12 AM
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26. Wow...great story. Thanks for the lovely post and congrats.
:thumbsup:
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bicentennial_baby Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 12:12 PM
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27. Awww! Congratulations!
Lovely, just lovely. :)
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dickthegrouch Donating Member (838 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 12:31 PM
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28. Congratulations to both of you /nt
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lumberjack_jeff Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 12:56 PM
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29. Happy Anniversary!
Sometimes it can be hard work to stay together long term, but sometimes you just meet the person who is your missing puzzle piece. Ideally, if you're really lucky, you're able to be that missing piece for your mate.

:hi:
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Chipper Chat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 01:36 PM
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30. If you were touched by this post then watch the movie "Big Eden"
The story is similar and it will make you feel good all over.
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caseycoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 03:42 PM
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31. WONDERFUL!
Just wonderful!

Thanks for sharing this.
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Hamlette Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 03:58 PM
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32. on Jan 15 it was 36 years for me
I know just what you mean. Although I'm straight, for some of us, lifetime pairing is a powerful and seductive force.

I'll be here fighting for your rights, as you fought for mine, until the end, as I have been for more than 40 years (before "you" could even decided if you wanted marriage! We were all young then.)

Congrats. Hope you can legally marry soon, if that's what you want.
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meegbear Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 04:23 PM
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33. K&R with a bullet!
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Stargazer09 Donating Member (625 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 04:30 PM
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34. Congratulations!!!!
I do love a good love story, especially one with flowers!

:hi:
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 05:14 PM
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35. How sweet THANKS
I met my sweetie in Gay bar too, the Badlands in the Castro Dist.We have had some very rough patches over the years, but now we are inseparable, and the love more profound.
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Bette Noir Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 05:17 PM
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36. Happy anniversary, and thanks for the smiles.
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peacebird Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 05:27 PM
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37. Congrats to you both! and thank you for sharing such a wonderful story!
:grouphug:
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Number23 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 05:35 PM
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38. Ain't love grand??
So happy you found someone to make you happy and to feel loved. There is no greater gift.

Here's to 20 more... :toast:
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YDogg Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:03 PM
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39. I love posts like this!
Congratulations to you both! :hi:
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Geek_Girl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:07 PM
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40. Happy anniversary!
Edited on Sun Mar-08-09 06:08 PM by Geek_Girl
I love Tulips
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Pacifist Patriot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:08 PM
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41. I am such a sucker for a romantic story.
Congratulations on your anniversary and may you have many more.
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redwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:11 PM
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42. That's very sweet.
I'm glad you found each other! And I love the tulips! :hug:
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Glorfindel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:50 PM
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43. What a great story, Rowdyboy, and thanks for sharing
Even a grumpy old confirmed loner like me can tear up when reading it. All the best, always, from your fellow inhabitant of Darkest Mississippi (which does, after all, have a FEW bright spots).

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OwnedByFerrets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 06:59 PM
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44. Its rare in this world that you find "the" one....congrats
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Luciferous Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 07:51 PM
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45. Happy Anniversary! nt
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dsc Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 07:59 PM
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46. that is such a sweet story
Congrats you surely deserve it.
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madmom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 08:06 PM
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47. Congratulations, a long term relationship is a gigantic roller coaster ride, but
worth every minute if you are happy. Mr madmom and I celebrated 36 years last month. Hugs to both and keep up the good fight. :grouphug: :toast:
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kcass1954 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 08:52 PM
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48. I'm a sucker for a sappy story. Congratulations!
And may you have many more years together!
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Lydia Leftcoast Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 08:56 PM
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49. Congratulations and blessings to both of you
:party:
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unapatriciated Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 09:00 PM
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50. congratulations....
my guy gave me this and I would like to pass it on to you and your guy.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9ucqDoP2FZw
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tnlefty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 09:06 PM
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51. Congrats!!!
Best wishes for more happy years. :toast:
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Hobarticus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 09:15 PM
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52. Congrats! What a love story!!! eom
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Dystopian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 09:36 PM
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53. Beautiful story...
Thank you for sharing...one never knows when the love of our life will come along.
I was very touched by your words...and your gift.
Wishing you continued happiness...

:loveya:

peace~
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burning rain Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 09:43 PM
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54. Hey, glad for the two of you.
Sure, it's kinda soppy, but most of us get that way sometimes.
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myrna minx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:06 PM
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55. A K&R for true love.
Congratulations on to you for your beautiful relationship. :hug:
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elshiva Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:44 PM
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56. HAPPY, HAPPY!

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cliffordu Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:49 PM
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57. Congrats!!!!
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KillCapitalism Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:53 PM
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58. Right on man.
Hope you guys have many more good years ahead.
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:57 PM
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59. :)
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WestSeattle2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:57 PM
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60. Thank you for sharing your story!
And congratulations! I hope you have many more happy years together.
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UpInArms Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:57 PM
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61. congratulations!
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mitchtv Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 10:59 PM
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62. to one of my fqvorite DU'rs
Many happy returns of the Day :toast: :party: :beer: :hi: :loveya: :grouphug: :pals: :applause: :woohoo:
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foxfeet Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 11:25 PM
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63. Congratulations and all the best to you both
for many more years! My partner and I are in our 24th year together and agree that you celebrate what you have and are given. Someday we'll all have the option of legal recognition if we so choose, but you have found the heart of togetherness.
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Starry Messenger Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 11:29 PM
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64. That's a beautiful story!
Not saccharine at all. Thank you for sharing it.
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fortyfeetunder Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 11:44 PM
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65. What a wonderful story. Congratulations
and tell your SO the flowers are awesome!

:hug: :toast:
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Brazenly Liberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Mar-08-09 11:59 PM
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66. Rowdyboy, you turned a really crappy day into a very warm, happy evening
Thank you for sharing your love story with us. May you have another 20 years of love and another 20 after that.
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Vickers Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-09-09 12:29 AM
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67. Sad? That's like the HAPPIEST thing I've ever seen posted on DU.
:thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup: :thumbsup:

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VPStoltz Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-09-09 12:46 AM
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68. How sweet and timely. It's my eighth anniversary with my partner today.
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bluedawg12 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-09-09 01:11 AM
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69. Congratulations to you both on your 8th anniversary.
We're going on 23 and it only get's better!

:hi:
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Rowdyboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Mar-09-09 11:56 PM
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70. I'd like to thank everyone who responded....I did not expect your love but I really appreciate it...
Thank you all from the bottom of my heart.
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ThomCat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Mar-10-09 12:40 AM
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71. Happy Aniversary.
:)

That's a wonderful story. I am very glad you two found each other, and I'm glad he didn't listen to his friends.
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