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absyntheNsugar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 04:49 PM
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Do you like really aggressive men?
Not assholes, but aggressive men who know what they want, and perhaps how to get it?
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 04:52 PM
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1. All my friends are assholes. It can get annoying, but it's usually fun!
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:09 PM
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2. isn't "aggresive men" code for "thug" or "rapist"
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m-jean03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:15 PM
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3. Nah, some girls really go for this type
Edited on Wed Apr-07-04 05:15 PM by m-jean03
As long as it's all consensual and part of the "game" it's all right. To each their own I suppose! Latin countries are FULL of this type. It's a little frightening until you realize they are all talk and they are simple enough to ignore.
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absyntheNsugar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:19 PM
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4. Again I'm not saying 'asshole' but 'aggressive'
Say for example a guy who comes up to you, is forward and is very direct...not meek and timid
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m-jean03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:38 PM
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8. Yes, like many of these Latin/French men
Not assholes, just very horny and charming about it ;-)

Some of them were totally charming, but I always caught a glimpse of something that I didn't like -- namely that I was being seen as a piece of meat. Sure they knew what they wanted -- I just didn't really want to give it, because I knew they weren't interested in much else besides carnal relations. Whenever a guy is very aggressive, I am pretty cautious...
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ott Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:25 PM
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5. The type tends to take advantage...
...of women that don't necessarily know how to say 'no'.

I've known too many that pry themselves into sex, and too many that have fallen victim to it. It's coercion as far as I'm concerned.

I don't see how anyone secure in themselves needs an aggressive front to get what they want anyway. But then, I wouldn't consider rapists very secure people to begin with.
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absyntheNsugar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:29 PM
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6. Actually most aggresive men I know
like aggressive women.

They want a woman who can keep up with them.

When I mean Aggressive, think "Big" from "Sex in the City". Then for aggresive women, think "Samantha." Big and Samantha would be much more realistic than Carrie and Big.
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:33 PM
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7. we know what you mean
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amazona Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 05:59 PM
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9. no
I like the shy guys. Aggressive, assertive, call it what you like, to me it's a turn-off.
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Orangepeel Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 06:10 PM
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10. confidence is sexy
but even sexier is a man who genuinely likes and respects women. If "agressive" means that they are all about themselves and what they want, then no.
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riverwalker Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 06:18 PM
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11. nope
I like the shy, quiet mysterious types. You know, the still waters thing. ;)
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Kat45 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 06:29 PM
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12. I don't like aggressive people at all, men or women.
In my experience, aggressive = asshole.
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fudge stripe cookays Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 07:57 PM
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17. Well said!
I learned early on that while they MIGHT have been my type in some smoky club, closer inspection reveals what complete jerks they are.
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 06:32 PM
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13. I guess aggressive men are getting shot down
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 06:48 PM
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14. You can take your aggresive men army back to the caves
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 07:07 PM
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15. aggresive men army
rrrreettttrrreaat!
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 07:51 PM
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16. kick
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m-jean03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 07:59 PM
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18. lol, rumguy
You are cute :-)

It's just with the way things are in the world right now --

Consequently DUers are sick of aggression of any kind. And it does seem to be
the aggressive men in power who are creating these hells.

Bad choice of words in war time on a liberal forum, I guess. Maybe on FR, you would get more response, absynthe? ;-) ;-) .

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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 08:34 PM
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20. thanks
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kiahzero Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 08:03 PM
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19. My girlfriend does
Unforunately, I'm not all that aggressive. I have to play it up every now and then to satisfy her.
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LWolf Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 09:02 PM
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21. No.
I have an immediate, unreasoning, negative response to aggressive men. And it doesn't go away with time.

Aggression to me means physical and verbal domination. The need to be "alpha." The need to hold the power in a relationship.
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Fleshdancer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 09:13 PM
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22. depends I guess
My husband is very aggressive in the work force which is attractive to me because I'm not that way at all. However, I wouldn't be married to him if he were aggressive in our relationship. I'm very allergic to power struggles in personal relationships, whether it be friendships or intimate. He's the same way in that regard so we get along very well.

But I was raised with parents who had very strong opinions about the importance of equality in a relationship so that's all I've really known.
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SarahB Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Apr-07-04 10:16 PM
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23. Not really
They have to have some semblance of confidence because I'm not aggressive, but I'm no wimpy pushover either. When I think of aggressive though, I think pushy A.H. which is definitely not what I like in a man. Sensitive and open and assertive- yes, but aggressive- no way!
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 09:58 AM
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24. he-man kick
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MissMillie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 09:59 AM
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25. No... I like men who are both confident and soft
They know what they want, how to get it, but they don't need to prove anything to anyone.
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 01:13 PM
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26. Conan
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supernova Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 01:16 PM
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27. Confident and assertive
in the practial appliation of his goals. If he does that, actual aggression is very seldom needed to get what he wants. Same deal for women, btw.

Agressive people often come off as if they are *entitled* to treat others like dirt. Major turn off to me.
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sniffa Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 01:28 PM
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28. depends
i Like to be the aLpha-maLe
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 01:54 PM
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29. Hercules
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 06:02 PM
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30. Agressive men army! charge!
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 07:53 PM
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31. aggresive men army
regroup!

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m-jean03 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 08:03 PM
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32. Still making me laugh!
Who is fighting your aggressive men army, anyway? Or are they just running around playing "Rambo" in the woods?
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rumguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Apr-08-04 08:31 PM
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33. rambos
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