My Prodigal Uncle called

[Taverner]

Poll question: My Prodigal Uncle called

He wants to know where Thanksgiving is being held this year. Should I tell him?

The backstory is this: for the past 20+ years, he had used my Grandma as an ATM, having her savings pay for his rent, food and clothing. Grandma didn't know this, and when her other two kids found out (My Aunt and my Father) they promised their mom they wouldn't turn him in. After she died, he DEMANDED to get his Third of the inheritance. He threatened to hold it up in court. This would mean no one would see the money - except the lawyers. Being a lawyer he knew this. So, despite his actions he still got one third of the money.

So simple persona non grata, right?

Well now my Uncle has no money, and who knows where he's living. He wants to go to Thanksgiving. Probably just for the food - but I don't know. I don't usually deal with this kind of shit.

I hate leaving a family memeber out of the circle and out in the cold, but then again come Xmas I don't want a fistfight either.

[some guy]

1. Call your dad and Aunt.

See if they want him there, then decide on that basis.

[Taverner]

2. Unfortunately, My Dear Aunt, Lifelong Progressive, died

And Her son and my dad think My uncle's actions brought her death on.

My aunt was always expecting the inheritance, to buy some small home and retire there. Once she knew the money was gone, as my Dad put it "the light at the end of her particular tunnel, went out"

[Taverner]

3. Let me add that my dad, an ex cop still in good shape, might just kick him to bits

He's that mad

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. then dont invite him. though i feel bad for him

i feel bad for everyone down on their luck, even if they are assholes.

[petronius]

5. I would leave it up to whomever is hosting this year, with input from the oldest

living family member...

Unless you're hosting, in which case he's out.

[siligut]

6. Has he called anyone else?

Does he think you are the soft touch in the family? He definitely sounds like an asshole and he is also dishonest, really tell him he is not wanted. Some people really are blackholes, it took me fifty years to figure that out.