How long has your SO been tolerating you (or vice versa)?

[WillParkinson]

Paul and I have been together 24 years. He's yet to kill me which makes me think he's definitely in it for the long haul. :)

[Maine-ah]

1. 15 years.

and we've been friends since we were 12 :) Congrats to you on 24 years!:hi:

[HopeHoops]

2. Since December of 1984.

And I STILL haven't figured out why she tolerates me!

(must be the sex)

[Lyric]

3. 11 years.

We've been together since I was 19 years old. It was absolutely love at first sight, and we're still incredibly close and loving over a decade later. Sometimes you really CAN find your soulmate when you're a teenager.

:hi:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

4. My dear WillParkinson!

My god, it's been 45 years!

We are having so much fun...

:toast:

[WillParkinson]

5. Wait...I thought you were 29?

I'm so confused.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

6. LOL!

Ah, well.........once upon a time, a looooooooooooong time ago, I WAS 29!

B-)

[elehhhhna]

7. Since 1983.

25th wedding anniv. next week.

[Tikki]

8. 43 years....

He's easy to (what did you call it!)...tolerate..:)

Tikki

[6000eliot]

9. 16 years for my partner and me!

I don't know how we put up with each other.

[tigereye]

10. hmm, almost 30 years now. We are certainly not the same people we were

when we were in our early 20s, or when we were married almost 20 years ago, so it's been interesting. But we are still quite fond of each other most of the time, have the same politics and musical tastes, manage to resolve most of our differences and are still good friends.

[Bertha Venation]

28. that sounds like the very summation of a marriage

A good description. :)

[tigereye]

33. hey there married lady!

:hi:

[Bertha Venation]

38. *big fat grin*

Thank you! :hi:

[tigereye]

39. How are things?

[Bertha Venation]

40. well...

Between us? Bliss. I've never been out of love with this woman, but somehow I feel so much more in love with her.

Other than that? Sad, rough. http://www.democraticunderground.com/discuss/duboard.php?az=view_all&address=105x9527028 (If you want to reply, reply to that here, please. I don't want to kick it.)

You, tigereye, make me smile. :hug:

[tigereye]

42. It is hard to cope with aging, ill parents. My mom has Alzheimer's Disease

and my father has had a few TIA's which leave him more weak that he used to be, which is hard. It is good when you have people to help, I have a bunch of siblings and my SIL is a nurse, so that makes it easier. It's also hard when those kinds of concerns have to be balanced with other parts of your life.


Life is always interesting, eh? Take care. :hug:

[Dulcinea]

11. 18 years.

We got together at a Halloween party in 1992. We dated for 3 years, were engaged for a year & a half, & have been married since 3/22/97.

He was dressed as the Grim Reaper. I was dressed as Sinead O'Connor. (That was the year she ripped up a picture of the Pope on SNL.)

[trackfan]

12. 15 years. n/t

[guitar man]

13. 20 years

We moved in together in October of '90, married in December of '91 :crazy:

[nolabear]

14. twwweeeennnntttyyyy ssseevveeennnn yyyeeeaaaarrrsss...

LOL! Actually we're well suited and love one another, even though there is some toleratin' goin' on.

[WillParkinson]

22. LOL, that's a LOOOOOOOOOOOONG TIIIIIIIIIIIIIME

Congrats!

[livetohike]

15. 37.5 years

Now that I typed this, I can't believe it's been that long :-).

[seabeyond]

16. 16. easy enough. nt

[Deep13]

17. In February it will be 19 years. nt

[yankeepants]

18. Yipes! 21 years in December.

How's this for a pick up line:

"Stop by tonight and I'll show you my flying squirrels."

That was our first date. He came over to the house I was staying at and I put out some sunflower seeds on the table on the deck and we stood a few feet back in the dark and watched those beautiful creatures glide down from the pine trees through a light snow, land and eat. We were absolutely silent. It was an exhilarating moment for any nature lover.

That's when I knew he would be Mr. Yankeepants.

[Bertha Venation]

29. what magic

*sigh* thanks for telling that story

[mikeytherat]

19. 20 years officially as of yesterday.

But we've known each other for closer to 30.

mikey_the_rat

[dddem]

32. Happy anniversary

[Rambis]

20. 23 years and she's not killed me in my sleep

:evilgrin:

[Old Troop]

21. 34 years, including 31 married.

[Kaleva]

23. 4 1/2 years.

[Irishonly]

24. 25 Years

We met in January, got engaged in March and married in July. And people said it wouldn't last.

[mokawanis]

25. 30 years

Moved in together 1 month after we met and married 3 years after that. We're still very happy to be together.

[Luciferous]

26. Almost 13 years...

[Bertha Venation]

27. Mrs. V. and me: ten years.

And married a little more than a month ago. :loveya:

[Petrushka]

30. We tolerated each other for over 53 years---until he just could not take it anymore and gave up

. . . gave up the ghost two years ago, on Veterans Day. :cry:

[K8-EEE]

46. Oh, so sorry!

What a difficult adjustment that must be after being together for so long :(

[Petrushka]

50. Adjustment isn't easy; but he was sick for so many years and so close to dying so many times . . .

four times on life-support, three times in cardiac care, 13 emergency runs to the hospital in two-and-a-half years, etc. More than once, we were saved the necessity for planning a funeral and those times took far more "adjustment" than his actual death did. For instance: In 1989, when we thought he'd never come off the oxygen, my daughter and I were being told by doctors that he wouldn't live to see Christmas. Next, doctors said the medications he was prescirbed would eventually kill him. He had a choice to not take doctors' orders and die now OR take the medicine and live a little longer. But, they said, do nothing strenuous, no lifting, go home, sit and enjoy your retirement.

He sat around for nearly a year, growing angrier and angrier. Then he said: If I'm gonna die anyway, by God I'm gonna die doing what I wanna do, what I damn well please! He grabbed a chainsaw, went down over the hill to our woodlot and began cutting enough firewood to feed the furnace until the following year. Since childhood, my husband fought against anyone who told him what he should or should not do, what he could or could NOT do, what he WOULD not be ABLE to do. He seemed to be determined to always push himself to the limit and beyond. It was his plain, ole cussedness and ornery stubborness that kept him alive until he, literally, COULD not take any more suffering.

By the time he'd gone through a course of experimental radiation treatments---which he insisted on completing because, despite the pain of radiation burns and being too weak to walk, despite there being no chance the treatments would help him, he said the research might help somebody else. Eighty-two years old, 5-foot 10-1/2 inches, weighing 103 pounds---no fat, no muscle, he was a skin-covered skeleton who ended up refusing oxygen. He was tired of fighting.

After he made the decision to discontinue everything but the morphine, he held my hand and our daughter's hand, frequently glancing at a clock on the wall behind the ICU nurses' station. He'd been checking the time all day. Long-story short: Before he died, his eyes widened as if he saw something; he let go of our hands, rose up as if he was going to get out of bed, and took his last breath reaching out toward that clock---or was it the crucifix above it?


It does get easier . . . especially after those days when you can't help breaking open a new box of Puffs-Plus. :hug:

[sarge43]

31. 34 years

"All records are lost and there were no survivors," Eleanor of Aquitaine (Hubby's favorite quote)

[Beer Snob-50]

34. married 21 years

and dating for 2 before that. She had preety much found and discussed all my faults with me, so I assume she wants to keep me around.

[av8rdave]

35. Almost 13 years

[Tuesday Afternoon]

36. we just decided today to quit tolerating each other. so, it was only about

a year. A year seems to be my number.

[DFW]

37. 36 years

28 of them married

The fateful day was July 25, 1974 in a cabaret in (then) West Berlin, when a young woman I knew told me
"You really should meet my girlfriend here..." I took one look, and thought to myself, "oh, yes I should!"

[HuckleB]

41. 21 years.

[triguy46]

43. Well, tonight is the 39th anniversary of our first date.

Went to a movie in the student union, then pizza. The rest is, well the rest is a long story.

[Dr Morbius]

44. Married 19 years, together over 20.

But in truth, my whole life, because surely that was a different person who was single back before July 1991. It doesn't feel like those memories, shrouded as they are in the mists of time, are even mine.

[K8-EEE]

45. 24 years!

I can hardly believe that's true as I'm typing it....time flies! I guess that's good though :hi:

[Canuckistanian]

47. 13 years and counting

And still no signs of mysterious poisons purchased on our joint account.

What? It's not like I check regularly.

[Manifestor_of_Light]

48. Sixteen years, much to our mutual amazement.

Which is far longer than both of my previous marriages combined (5 years).

Dearest Hubby says I can't beat the sh*t out of him, because that's an all day job. :rofl:

I keep him around because he tells me awful jokes and makes me laugh. Besides, he's an engineer and he can solve problems and FIX THINGS!!!! YAY!!

And he loads the dishwasher because I'm lazy. We both cook. He can eat anything, I have a pretty restricted diet.

[Faygo Kid]

49. 15 years. The first one went 18.

I had crushes and early relationships, but only these two women have I truly loved.

Think I'm done after these. But, not through with the second one yet.