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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:44 PM
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How can I help keep Leerers to keep their eyes up here?

I dress more conservatively than a nun..

yes, I'm heavenly blessed, but its not as though they are unique..
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SunnySong Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:47 PM
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1. This thread is useless without pictures.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 04:16 PM
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38. Good God. That's just WRONG on so many levels. Including the groom who,
I'm assuming, went along with the choice of gown.

Redstone
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texanwitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:48 PM
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2. Stare back at them.
Look them in the eye, men who do this want to be in control.

Take away their control.
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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 03:15 PM
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9. Interesting.....I met his wife once and she came across as a wallflower.


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Tobin S. Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:48 PM
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3.  Most guys can't help but look there
I have enough manners about me to keep the eyes up when I'm talking to someone, though.
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BurtWorm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:50 PM
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4. Wear a funny hat?
Edited on Wed Jun-30-10 02:51 PM by BurtWorm
:shrug:

A tee-shirt that says, "What's that on the back of your head?"
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:52 PM
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5. Quite literally...
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MiddleFingerMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 02:54 PM
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6. Wear a t-shirt with strategically-placed graphic designs...
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...of big ol' honkin' penises (penii???)
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Be prepared, though, for some of the Leerers' heads to ASPLODE!!!!!
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HughBeaumont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 03:03 PM
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7. You can't. Sorry.
Went to a wedding once. Bridesmaids wore these ridiculously low cut dresses. Eyes just kept going down there. I tried fighting it. It did not work. It was like some unseen force kept pulling the eyes down there.

"Eyes, eyes, eyes, eyes, not looking at your breasts, not looking at your breasts, not looking at. . . yep, looking at your breasts, goddamnit I suck".

One of them even called me on it (she was a friend, would have been far more embarrassing if it were a stranger). "DUDE, it's the dresses. You GOTTA know I don't mean to, it's just happening . . . like just NOW, DAMN it!!!"

We're wired quite badly, I'm told.

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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 03:13 PM
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8. I could understand if it was my dress
but I have these totally covered up...and now its summer if I think I'm wearing a top that comes close to being low, I wear a cami-top underneath
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HughBeaumont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 03:26 PM
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10. You could be wearing canvas and if it's form-fitting, some guys will still look.
I can't explain it. Lots of guys love breasts. The worst part about that whole wedding thing was, I don't even care about breasts all that much. I felt weird that it was almost like an involuntary action for the eyes to shift down there.
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SunnySong Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 05:22 PM
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11. Was it your own wedding cause that could cause trouble. nt
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HughBeaumont Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 10:12 PM
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28. Ha ha, nope. Friend's wedding.
That marriage lasted a whole 7 years. Mine's still intact. Maybe it's because I learned to divert my eyes :rofl:
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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 05:40 PM
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12. I've seen well-endowed women display cleavage, just daring men to look.
I won't play that game. Seen two, seen them all. Just variations on the same theme. Outside of artificial means, no woman can take credit for her large boobs. Besides, I've seen women who are relatively small-breasted who are as sexy as hell.

That being said, it would seem that most men have a biological and evolutionary imperative to look at large breasts. You can have class though and notice without staring. Like Seinfeld said, it's like looking at the sun.
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Kali Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:34 PM
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17. uh
some of us are just large and wish to not be choked by our clothing
not daring anybody to look (my that says something, but not about the women)
and know perfectly well, as the OP says - wouldn't matter a bit if chest was covered with a heavy burka, most would still gawk
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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:38 PM
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18. there's a time and place..the work environment isn't it..

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elocs Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:47 PM
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20. Even at work you can notice without staring, but the daring to look at the cleavage
happened at work, and that's not cool or fair for the guys either.
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HipChick Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 08:59 PM
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24. True...I've seen women wear stuff I wouldn't dream of
ever wearing to work..I'm a little bit too well blessed to need to draw more attention to my bust..that's not what this is about..
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Dr Morbius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 05:54 PM
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13. Honestly, you can't.
Men are pigs. We are, it's true. There are some of us who have grown up and learned some manners; we glance at your assets (hey, well mannered doesn't mean dead) but keep our eyes on your face in conversation out of respect for your personhood. Others among us have no manners, and will practically drool at the sight of fabulous mammary glands. I suggest you associate with mature men (who exist in all age brackets) and try to avoid immature men (who also exist in all age brackets).

I have to wonder what "more conservatively than a nun" means, though.
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baldguy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 05:57 PM
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14. Huh? I'm sorry, did you say something?
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jp11 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:10 PM
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15. You can't.
Unless you wear a box, or make a kind of shape hiding thing out of a kite or umbrella and wear it around.

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Danger Mouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:13 PM
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16. Scorpions with acid shooting stingers.
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Soylent Brice Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 09:03 PM
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25. lol
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Amerigo Vespucci Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:39 PM
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19. Perhaps dressing like an ACTUAL nun would help...
...and make sure you have the ruler. The ruler is what scares most of them away.

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DBoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:49 PM
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21. or a firearm..
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edbermac Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 09:10 PM
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26. Not this nun.
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Amerigo Vespucci Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 09:44 PM
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27. I'm reminded of that line in Shawn of the Dead
Liz: It's just with Ed here, it's no wonder I always bring my flat-mates out and then that only exacerbates things.
Shaun: What do you mean?
Liz: Well you guys hardly get on, do you?
Shaun: No, what does "exacerbate" mean?
Liz: It means um, to make things worse.

:rofl:
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SunnySong Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 10:19 PM
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30. Depends on your habit...



BTW Google pictures search for sexy nun was nothing but win.
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MiddleFingerMom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 06:57 PM
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Fire Walk With Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 07:11 PM
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23. Baffle them with distractions.
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david13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Wed Jun-30-10 10:18 PM
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29. It's primal. dc
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OwnedByFerrets Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 08:59 AM
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31. Why should you care?
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 09:40 AM
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32. If they're on display, I'm lookin'. (n/t)
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qb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 11:34 AM
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33. According to Desmond Morris, it's genetic.
Edited on Thu Jul-01-10 11:42 AM by qb
In The Naked Ape: A Zoologist's Study of the Human Animal, he makes the case that breasts evolved the way they did because they attract male eyes. Breasts mimic the prominent sexual feature of our female ancestors who walked on all fours (the buttocks).
I am sorry to say, I think it's hard-wired.

So, unless he is making a conscious effort to be respectful, his eyes are going to wander there.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 11:43 AM
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34. or they could have been made to feed babies. no no, you are right, breast were only for the man
rollin eyes

i bet if the guys bulges were evident the eyes of most all of us would be much lower than the face or chest.
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qb Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 11:47 AM
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35. You are correct, breasts did retain their original function after we became bipeds.
Based on the prevalence of enhancing features in men's underwear catalogs, I'd say you are also correct about male bulges.
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Iggo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 04:08 PM
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37. We know why they're there.
I think he's talking about why they look the way they do.

I think...
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 04:22 PM
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40. that would be silly. nt
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yawnmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:36 PM
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44. Actually, they do retain their size to attract men...thats the way it works...
They do have maintain their original purpose, to feed babies, but the shape that is retained after nursing is complete is to attract or arouse men.

Humans are one of the few animals that maintain breasts when not nursing and this is a very likely explanation.
You can ignore the evolution/natural selection, but it still exists.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:56 PM
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47. cause really, without those tits, male would have no sexual urges to mate. i hear ya. nt
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yawnmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 07:03 PM
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55. Thats very absolute of you, when in fact an increased attraction or slightly increased...
sexual urge would give a female an advantage to mating.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:30 PM
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51. eurika.... light bulb. no wonder you men feel so entitled to ownership of female breast
it is all about and for..... YOU. lol lol
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:30 PM
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52. eurika.... light bulb. no wonder you men feel so entitled to ownership of female breast
it is all about and for..... YOU. lol lol
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yawnmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:55 PM
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53. Deny the evolutionary roots all you want, but they will still exist...
we are talking about a fairly early form of man that wasn't as enlightened as man is today.
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:22 PM
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41. Morris has been generally disregarded
From wiki:

Some zoologists (notably Desmond Morris) believe that the shape of female breasts evolved as a frontal counterpart to that of the buttocks, the reason being that while other primates mate in the rear-entry position, humans, because of their upright posture, are more likely to successfully copulate by mating face to face, the so-called missionary position. Morris suggested in 1967 that a secondary sexual characteristic on a woman's chest would have encouraged this in more primitive incarnations of the human race, and a face-on encounter may have helped found a relationship between partners beyond merely a sexual one.<13> However, this theory has since been generally disregarded due to the discovery that other primates, such as orangutans, routinely mate in the face-to-face position even though the females do not have prominent breasts.

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yawnmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:42 PM
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46. yes, orangutans generally mate face to face...
but they are hanging from their arms from branches as they do it!
Their hands aren't free.
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seabeyond Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:57 PM
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48. not free to touch, ergo, breast not needed. geeez. this is funny. nt
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:12 PM
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49. speak for yourself :-p
One current theory is that the human breast developed as a secondary sexual characteristic once we began walking around on all twos (Homo erectus). Bipedalism hid the primary sexual organs so other sexual identifiers of reproductive capability evolved.
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yawnmaster Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:59 PM
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54. Yes, enen though Morris has been somewhat disregarded, the theory is still...
that the constant full non-lactating breasts is a notifier to the male.
So yes, full breasts on humans are theorized to attract or signify fertility to the male.
Why on earth would eternally full breasts be of benefit to the female (except indirectly).
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 12:24 PM
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36. boink 'em over the head or tug on their ears.
always works for me.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 04:20 PM
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39. I, myself, can ignore your rack, no matter how impressive it might be. I may be
Edited on Thu Jul-01-10 04:21 PM by Redstone
in the "something's wrong with him" category, but give me a well-shaped pair of shoulders, or that wonderful curve that runs from the lower back down to the hips of a woman any day...

The size of a woman's bosom is immaterial to me; it's what that bosom is attached to that counts.

Yes, I'm weird. So be it.

Redstone
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Dr Morbius Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:33 PM
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43. I will grant that the overall trumps the mammaries without question.
There are plenty of women with, um, noteworthy assets in the thoracic region who hardly would get a second glance from me, and IMO there are literally millions of beautiful women with small breasts. I myself am less a connoisseur of breasts than other female features, anyway. I am sure thinking such thoughts will lead me to be in trouble with my wife, so I'll leave off there.

The one thing that is kind of, well, repulsive is over-sized melons. Like, unnatural. What's the attraction with that? If they don't look real who cares how large they are? Well, some men do, clearly.
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Redstone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:38 PM
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45. Good God, yes, HFTs (Horrible Fake Tits) gross me out. They tend to
look like the woman had a pair of half soccer balls welded to her chest.

Yuck.

Redstone
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 06:15 PM
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50. back dimples!
... sagittally symmetrical indentations sometimes visible on the human lower back, just superior to the gluteal cleft. They are directly superficial to the two sacroiliac joints, the sites where the sacrum attaches to the ilium of the pelvis.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dimples_of_Venus
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Thu Jul-01-10 05:28 PM
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42. There's really little difference between a woman being stared at because of her breasts
or a man being looked at with disgust because some will fixate on his beer gut. They're both being dismissed as people. Those who leer or ridicule will rarely make an attempt to get to know the person behind the body, no matter how stimulated or repulsed they may be at the object of their gaze.
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