MISSED romantic opportunities from your past. Any you regret, or were they better off missed?

[Amerigo Vespucci]

Poll question: MISSED romantic opportunities from your past. Any you regret, or were they better off missed?

I can think of both...opportunities I was too young / stupid / naive / all of the above to have recognized and appreciated at the time, as well as bullets I was LUCKY to have dodged.

How about you?

[proteus_lives]

1. There was a woman from a few years back....

That I wish I had said something to her about the way I felt.

Sigh. Life goes on.

[XemaSab]

2. It's easy to woulda, coulda, shoulda

:shrug:

[Amerigo Vespucci]

4. I know, I'm just looking for consistency...

...it's a loaded question, and I asked it in attempt to present it as such.

My feeling is that, as humans, we ALL have "someone" who might have liked us, loved us, been our friend...

...and we had our mind on other things.

Sometimes we look back and create something that never really existed ("They LOVED ME"...no, actually, they DIDN'T...)

Other times, we look back at how many different ways a decent human being attempted to become a part of our lives, and for whatever reason, we just kept on 'a walkin'...

I'm not trying to get people to wallow in "woulda, shoulda, coulda."

I'm just trying to see how many people understand that they let a good person into, and out of, their lives.

:toast:

[elocs]

3. In hindsight I am now happy that none of my relationships lasted.

Thank god I never married any of them because I always made poor choices. So in the end it worked out best for me and for them. No regrets because ultimately it all worked out for the best.

[Iggo]

5. Other.

I regret every single one of them.

[Blue_In_AK]

6. I was actually lucky enough in 2000

to reconnect with the "one who got away" in 1963. We've now been very happily married seven years.

In the 40-year interim, I made LOTS of mistakes.

[Amerigo Vespucci]

WOW...you definitely beat the odds. Congratulations!

And making "lots of mistakes" is what makes us ready for the right person, eh?

:toast:

[Orrex]

7. Mostly, I feel bad for her

She never got the chance to experience that charismatic dynamo called Orrex.

[kwassa]

10. Oh, is that the other Orrex?

the charismatic dynamo one?

:hide:

[Orrex]

14. No, you're thinking of the tepidly sedentary one

No connection.


And what in the world was in that deleted subthread?

[KamaAina]

8. Sometimes the past ain't even past...

nope, still not over it from last May. :cry: For a while my insides looked like downtown Port-au-Prince. And she wasn't even trying to captivate anyone, just giving a presentation.

Needless to say, she got a 5 on her evaluation. And I never give 5s. :loveya:

[bikebloke]

9. There were some coulda's I walked away from.

With hindsight, I'm glad for my wisdom at the time.

[abq e streeter]

11. More than one that I'll regret till the day I die

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[Fire Walk With Me]

13. Yes, definitely.

But now I'm a homeless, dual-diagnosis freak, so my sowin' days they be over.

:rofl::hi:

[MrScorpio]

15. A couple orgies that I missed out of in my youth

But why cry over spilled milk?

[MilesColtrane]

24. That wasn't milk.

[MiddleFingerMom]

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[cherish44]

16. I like to think there are a few kicking themselves in the nuts for passing on me...

for me, there are actually a few I kept that I should have thrown back lol

[Demoiselle]

17. Um, since I missed them, I have no way of knowing whether I regret them or not.

[LeftyMom]

18. I managed not to screw the important one up.

:shrug:

Well, barely. See, I was trying not to make a complete ass of myself, so I was trying to be subtle, which is never a good idea because I've never in my life met a straight man who was able to detect a subtle hint. So I tried less subtle things, which were still not obvious enough. So I had a blinking neon sign installed over my head that said "I really like you, let's &*$@." Okay, not quite, but almost. And he figured it out finally, and everybody was happy ever after.

[appal_jack]

25. Hey!

"I was trying to be subtle, which is never a good idea because I've never in my life met a straight man who was able to detect a subtle hint."

I resemble that remark!

Any chance that you'll be teaching classes on hints to reach oblivious straight males to other righteous sisters? I seem to let too many great chances slip on by. I could name 2 particular women/times/circumstances, but (even though this is a relatively anonymous internet board) I won't.

-app

[mix]

19. yeah

@ aduana in Sevilla, '99...a bullet was taken, but it passed through me...it was not meant to be, as they say.

What was her name?

[old mark]

20. I am very gladd I "Passed" on some of them. Our 17th wedding anniversary

is in March, so I guess something went right.


mark

[Bertha Venation]

21. I had a sweet dream last night that made me think of this very thing.

It wasn't erotic, it was just warm and sweet and full of promise. About an old friend from college who wanted to be closer and closer to me physically as we spent time together. It was wonderful. She and I never had the potential, but thinking "what if" thoughts can be nice.

[RobinA]

31. I Could Do Without

the "what if" thoughts. My "husband" is married to another woman. Can't say no one else coulda been my husband, but no one ever was. And I did look. I don't dwell on it, it was years ago, but I do wish he'd stay out of my dreams.

[MilesColtrane]

22. There is more than one woman I have regretted never having hooked up with,..

despite the inevitable heartache that would have ensued.

I guess I should just count my lucky stars.

[NNadir]

23. I have lived to thank God that all my prayers have not been answered.

Thus spake Jean Ingelow and I couldn't agree more.

[begin_within]

26. Quite a few, actually, that I regret not reacting to quickly, responding to or even realizing

until it was too late. And kicking myself either right afterwards, days later or years later. Oh damn, why did you have to bring up this subject!

[murielm99]

27. The only ones I can think of are a couple of guys I should have

dated in high school. They were nice and we would have had fun. I overlooked them because I was a kid.

Later, I was wise enough to run away from a couple of definite losers. It was just some gut feeling.

I have been lucky enough to marry great guys twice. The first one died young. I have been married to the second for thirty-one years. I would like to think it is not luck. Neither of us is perfect, but we have grown together. He is a good man.

[lazarus]

28. other

there's one I kinda sorta regret, as she would have been great for me, but I was in no way ready for a relationship at the time, so it would have ended horribly.

There were a couple of missed opportunities I should have taken, and a few opportunities taken I should have missed. But it all added up to who I am today, which is a very lucky man married to an incredible woman. I would never have deserved her (if I do today) had I not been through the stuff I went through in relationships past, and learned the lessons I needed to learn.

[Sky Masterson]

29. I think a lot of things are better in theory and in our minds.

than they would actually be in fruition.
Still we yearn for that one special soul to complete our own.
I think everyone has regrets.I know I do.
It's tough holding on to a "what if"or "if only".
It's better to let the old fires burn out and start new ones.
(Easier said than done) ;)

[RobinA]

32. Yeah, Especially

when he shows up in dreams. I don't think about him every day, or even every week or for that matter every month. But then he shows up out of the blue during sleep. He's married for cripes sake, why keep bothering me?

[HopeHoops]

30. Thread needs more flesh.

[MiddleFingerMom]

34. Missed opportunities or taken opportunities...

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I have very FEW regrets either way.
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Well... ... ... ... ... ... there was this one... ... ... ... ...
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Regrets I've had a few
But then again too few to mention
I did what I had to do
And saw it through without exemption

I planned each charted course
Each careful step along the byway
And more, much more than this
I did it my way
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Ah, you ask... was that "missed"... or "taken".
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It's...
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... personal
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(call me)
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[Skittles]

35. when I was an Air Force Airman I dated a First Lieutenant

I broke up with him when he went to pilot training - met up with him after he called me thirty years later - yup, we should have stayed together but we were young and stupid - we picked up like we had been apart for two weeks

[dixiegrrrrl]

36. I am.... wistful.....over one person from over 30 years ago.

Tho I know, in my right mind , it would have never worked out.
Perhaps, it may be more who I was at the time that I miss.

But...I don't do regrets and rarely do guilt, yet, occasionally ...wistful.

This month Mr. D. and I are celebrating our 11th year together, and at this stage in life we both are perfect for and with each other.

[Mike 03]

37. I voted "Other," a variation on one of your poll selections.

"Everything that's supposed to happen happens. I regret nothing."

In my case, I would change it to:

"Everything that's supposed to happen happens. But I massive regrets."

So, I made a huge mistake in my past, and I still regret it to this day, but for reasons way to complicated to get into here, in the final analysis, I am grateful that a terrible thing happened to me.

If that makes sense.

[Z_I_Peevey]

38. Makes lots of sense.

:hug:

[Taverner]

39. I didn't miss out on any genuine romantic opportunities, but damn did I miss out on some freak sex