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ccharles000 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 12:01 PM
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Why do women complain about their purse hurting their back when they know it has too much stuff?
I was at the store today with my mom and sister,and they started talking about their purses hurting their backs. I told them they should not have so much in them,and they looked at me for a second than kept talking to each other. I don't get it.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 12:03 PM
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1. I get it.
They were ignoring you.

:P
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 12:14 PM
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2. Because we NEED that stuff.
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:14 PM
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17. Don't carry a purse, drive one. Keep a box of emergency pontoons under the
driver's seat.

There you go!
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 09:58 AM
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40. pontoons ... ??
:rofl: OMG pontoons !! :rofl:
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quakerboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 12:24 PM
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3. Hoarding has to start somewhere, right?
otherwise how would we get people to that 90 cat plus some skeletons point in life? And who wants to live in a world without that?
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pitohui Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 01:17 PM
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5. you just called his mom and his sister dumb
Edited on Sun Aug-23-09 01:18 PM by pitohui
probably not a courteous thing to do

in most societies women have to schlepp because men don't, then they're yelling at us, "where's the fucking sunscreen, you dumb bitch?"

damned if you do, damned if you don't

also for financial reasons women need to be better prepared, some guy with lots of money can leave everything at home and just buy everything he needs at double/triple the price at some convenience store, but damn few women have extra money to waste
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 01:17 PM
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6. Uh...kinda harsh, since he was talking about his mom and sis.
Just sayin'.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 01:22 PM
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7. My purse is probably a bit too heavy, add to that all the baby supplies
I lug around, but hey I don't complain about it. I choose to carry all of that stuff. And yes, most all of it is needed.
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BuelahWitch Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 01:46 PM
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8. I feel for the Moms who have purses and diaper bags AND baby to carry
Don't know how y'all do it.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 08:07 PM
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30. Ha! I have one really buff arm that is for sure.Carrying her
23 lb. little body everywhere really buffed up my left arm. I guess I should load down my purse and her diaper bag to weigh the same so the other arm matches!! :P
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midnight armadillo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 10:35 PM
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34. Ditch the purse for a backpack
My wife did that a while ago, ditching the "mom purse" for a nice North Face woman's backpack. It's much comfier for her, she has both arms free to tackle our 3 and 5 year old, and I can easily wear the backpack in a pinch. The purse I could schlep but damn it hurt my shoulder and it made me whiny.
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Sanity Claws Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 02:08 PM
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9. They're training you well for marriage later
I think you just learned that women do not necessarily want you to solve their problems. They just want to vent.
Also keep in mind that you may not think they need a hairbrush in their purse, they think they do.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 02:18 PM
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10. Of course you need a hairbrush in your purse!
Sheesh. :P
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 03:34 PM
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14. And makeup, sewing kit, band aids, meds or at least aspirin,
sanitaries, address book, cell phone, pencils, pens, notebook, calling cards, 38.

Ya know .... STUFF.

Damn. :eyes:
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:03 PM
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15. Don't forget
tampax. :P
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:23 PM
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20. I was trying not to upset the guys, so I said sanitaries.
They have a problem with that STUFF. Just ask your SO to get some and watch his face go eeewwwww.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:38 PM
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24. Lol! I understand.
But if I HAD an SO, it would be a SHE, so no worries on that account. ;-)
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:48 PM
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26. Yes, that would make shopping more efficient.
No need to explain the cryptic notations on the shopping list.
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PVnRT Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 06:25 AM
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37. I agree with a comic I saw on TV a long time ago
"Most men cringe buying tampons. I hold them up in line and shout 'I GOT A WOMAN!'"
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 08:34 AM
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38. .....
:spray: :rofl:

Excellent
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PRETZEL Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 11:09 AM
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42. my wife has more trouble asking me than I do getting them
if she needs them and I'm at the store, it's just another item in the cart.

It really isn't a big deal.
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The Velveteen Ocelot Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:22 PM
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19. Also, tape measure, Leatherman tool, camera,
loose change, sunglasses, passport, band-aids, sewing kit, granola bars, AAA batteries, spare keys, and cat toys. Stuff you really need.
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:44 PM
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25. Deck of cards, flashlight, pocket knife, and
hackey sack.
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Patiod Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 10:04 AM
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41. They're teaching you that THEY WILL CARRY YOUR STUFF
Just schlepped around a convenion yesterday with my SO's keys, cigarettes, lighter, and phone. He did, however, carry his own wallet!! Woo-hoo!

Plus if he needs eyedrops or a brush, he knows he can borrow mine.

Men don't need purses because so many of them have women who will carry stuff for them!!!!
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Parche Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 03:17 PM
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11. like george carlin says, they need a place for their stuff
:rofl: :hi: :hug: :loveya:
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Blue Diadem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 03:20 PM
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12. Did you know that purses can weigh a couple pounds empty?
I have one that weighs 3 lbs with not a thing in it. It's not big either but it has numerous pockets, dividers and sections to it. I have another similar bag but without the dividers and pockets and it's 2 lbs.

A lot of the purse related back pain has to do with carrying weight strictly on one shoulder. Men can have similar muscle and nerve pain in their lower back area from carrying and sitting on a wallet. It's called hip pocket syndrome.

I very seldom carry a purse anymore, then only hand held if I do. If I'm just going to the store, I carry a very small wallet type purse. My husband has switched to a non traditional wallet he keeps in his front pocket.





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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 11:20 AM
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44. Damn. That's more than a 4000ci backpack. nt
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 03:30 PM
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13. The universal need for STUFF.
For the same reason guys fill the back of the pickup with STUFF, then moan about the gas mileage circling the drain.
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Captain Hilts Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:10 PM
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16. I don't 'get' the whole huge purse thing. If you drive a car, why??
Edited on Sun Aug-23-09 04:13 PM by Captain Hilts
If you need to carry a pontoon, then just slip it in a pocket.
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crispini Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 10:32 PM
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32. Do you know how many women's clothes don't have pockets?
It really is a crime, but it's quite true that a lot of my pants, skirts and dresses have no pockets at all.
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begin_within Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:16 PM
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18. What did women do before the purse was invented?
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:24 PM
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22. Purses were invented along with women. We've always had them. n/t
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Petrushka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 05:00 PM
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27. Maybe they were marcupials till evolution kicked in?
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Petrushka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:23 PM
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21. My daughter used to tell her friends . . .
Edited on Sun Aug-23-09 04:58 PM by Petrushka
. . . "If there's ever an emergency such as a nuclear attack,
whatever we'd need is already in Mom's purse."


Edited to add:
That was years ago, before the fanny-pack was invented for Mom.
It's now the daughter who carries those huge shoulder bags with
everything but what she DOES need when she goes shopping with
Mom . . . I mean: a daybook? Why's she need a daybook in there?
Or the Wexler pink stuff? Etc.?

All that's necessary when one goes shopping or out to eat or even
to work is what now fits neatly into Mom's fanny-pack: Tic-Tacs,
Puffs tissues, Bandaids, Wash-n-Dry packets, Always, Tylenol or aspirin,
a nailfile & clippers, a small comb, car keys & house keys, a wallet
with change compartment (it's those quarters that weigh y' down, BTW),
a checkbook & pen, the grocery list & an envelope for cents-off coupons
plus another envelope for receipts, a small notebook & Bic pencil, a
safety pin or two, maybe a couple bobby-pins or a barrette, etc., etc.,
etc. . . . just in case there's a nuclear attack, y'know?!
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sarge43 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 04:29 PM
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23. Hey, you never know.
The weirdest thing I dug out of my purse once - a radiation badge.
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msanthrope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 10:45 PM
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35. I admit to fanny pack usage, too.
Especially when going to a park, or other kid/fun oriented place. Made Disneyland a snap.
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Roon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 05:11 PM
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28. I carry a fannypack during the summer because my shorts have no pockets
In winter I just stick all my stuff in my jeans pockets.I go to Boulder to see Jason overnight and I use this tiny little backpack to carry my meds and a change of clothes,that sure is handy to have!

I never overload though, I only bring what I need.
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theNotoriousP.I.G. Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 05:22 PM
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29. I don't complain
And I have a literal survival kit in my purse at all times. I'm happy to tug that fucker around cause it always comes in handy.

Of course, I make my husband carry it on long hauls so color me lucky. :9
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Strong Atheist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 10:26 PM
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31. OH NO, YOU DIDN'T!
:popcorn:
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Blasphemer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 10:33 PM
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33. No clue... I have always been happily purse-free
I just have a wallet and my keys (got rid of the cell phone) which I can put in a pocket. On the occasions when I have clothing without pockets, I carry a bag (not a purse) and I may stick an umbrella in there on rainy days. I can't think of anything else I need to carry around with me that would require much room let alone be too heavy to carry.
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msanthrope Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sun Aug-23-09 11:02 PM
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36. You are lucky they didn't make you carry one....
My purse has my wallet, which contains my money, credit cards, and various memberships to zoos, museums, and other places of kid fun.

Wet wipes. My kid gets sticky.

Tissues. My kid gets sticky.

Hand sanitizer. Other things are sticky.

Tampons. Pads. No comment.

Extra contacts. Can't drive without them.

Keys.

Cellphone.

If wearing makeup that day, then touchup equipment.

Inhaler.

Note pad.

Pen.

Bandanna. It's a towel variant (See, Hitchhicker's Guide to the Galaxy.)

This is the bare minimum.
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Rosie1223 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 09:19 AM
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39. Haha -- if my purse feels too light
I get concerned I've lost something.
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rrneck Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Aug-24-09 11:17 AM
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43. It's been a long time since Anthropology 101
but as I recall the first tools made by humans were not arrowheads and stone adzes but baskets made by women for carrying babies and food. Of course evidence for the woven baskets were harder for archaeologists to find so men got the unearned credit for the first tools for a long time.

Women have done the lions share of the job of feeding people since there have been people. That big purse is epigenetic if not genetically motivated.
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