Poll: Choose - being with the love of your life but poor/struggling vs. being alone but rich

[Flaxbee]

Poll question: Poll: Choose - being with the love of your life but poor/struggling vs. being alone but rich

What say you, and why?

[JTG of the PRB]

1. Money isn't everything. I'd rather be deeply in love and happy.

[Flaxbee]

8. Being alone is really tough. If you've found real love, it's hard

to beat. I remember the line from Sense and Sensibility, though, where Marianne says of Willoughby that he'd soon tire of a wife he loved when the demands of the pocketbook became too pressing (or something like that).

[evlbstrd]

2. Love of my life, hands down.

[Flaxbee]

9. Nice to know.

I've found the love of my life, but these past few years have been really tough. Can't imagine life without him, though.

[LeftyMom]

3. Easy choice.

I mean really, have you seen the love of my life? ;) In all seriousness, I'm already broke and he's awesome, so I know whereof I speak. Short of my son, nobody and nothing in this world brings me such happiness.

[Flaxbee]

10. Yup, I have

and you're a lucky woman! ;) He seems like a wonderful guy.

It's great having that person, I know from experience. But damn if being broke doesn't get really scary sometimes.

[MilesColtrane]

4. Since I have neither, I'd take either one.

[Flaxbee]

11. I hope you find either.

Love is best, but money sure does make life easier.

[MilesColtrane]

18. Thanks Flaxbee.

That's awful nice of you.


:pals:

[Blue_Tires]

27. +1

[Lorien]

42. Same here. nt

[redqueen]

43. I have neither... but I'd rather have love.

Money can go fuck itself. Once you get much more than you need it is too much like a disease IMO. An addiction. I dunno... it probably makes no sense, but I've always felt this way about it.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

5. My dear Flaxbee...

The love of my life, no question, no hesitation...

Money is a poor second to the incandescent joy love can bring.

:hi:

[Flaxbee]

12. hi, CalPeggy!

:hi:

Even if, day by day you were worried about making ends meet?

The stress and the worry and the anxiety and the fear?

I've been in both places - money and alone, love of my life and struggling. I much prefer the love of my life, but I'm so tired of struggling.

[CaliforniaPeggy]

16. I have to admit that would be tough...

I cannot even imagine how tough, though...

We've never been that close to hitting bottom.

I'm so sorry, sweetie...

:hug:

[Flaxbee]

17. thanks

:hug:

We'll get out of it one way or another, but after several years of this I am exhausted. Just worn down to the tiny little nub of my former self. And that's really hard - I feel like I'm losing myself.

[Kat45]

6. Love of my life--I hope I find him someday soon.

[Flaxbee]

13. I hope you do, too, Kat45

It is a wonderful thing to have.

[Iggo]

7. The love of my life screwed my brother and two of my best friends.

Show me the money!!!!

[Flaxbee]

14. Sounds awful.

I'm sorry. :(

[Iggo]

15. Thanks, and I'm mostly over it.

:hi:

[onestepforward]

19. I am with the love of my life and we are poor! That's O.K. n/t

[hobbit709]

20. Next stupid question.

[onestepforward]

53. ...

:hug:

[auntAgonist]

54. I saw this thread

and thought of you and Donna. :hug: :cry: :hug:

[abq e streeter]

21. I have more money than I've ever had; not rich but finally comfortable

and I'm alone and absolutely miserable because of that. I'd trade every cent I've got to be in love again...

[pitohui]

45. if you have lots of money there's always sometone there to love you

i'm talking relatives in their 80s found new loves, money brings love

however love don't bring money

just flash your $$$ a bit more, you'll be surrounded

[abq e streeter]

47. sad but true about having lots of money...

Unfortunately, as I said in my post, I'm not at all rich, not even close...just finally not somewhat poor,and as someone who never figured they'd ever have much, just being at least comfortable is a shock...but yeah, it's true, money CAN buy me love, or at least the illusion of it ( i.e. companionship and sex even if the other person is ultimately more interested in the money than you,and would be out the door in a second if the money disappeared). I actually had a friend, who was really my roommate's buddy more than mine, but he did an experiment one night at a local nightclub...he'd been in the middle of a real dry spell and had the DJ at this club, who was his friend, make an announcement that 'we're celebrating J.K.'s having just won the lottery for 2 million bucks" or something like that. John said for the rest of the night he couldn't fight the women off fast enough, and had so many phone numbers he couldn't remember who half of em even were. I don't want to sound sexist here, men, myself included, have our own shallownesses; I'm as guilty as any for the times I've blown off a sweet, nice, but not particularly attractive woman for a futile attempt at going after one of the "hot" ones.... I'm not even sure I'd know how to "flaunt" my money if it ever got to the point of really having lots of it; I've been without it for so long, that I still behave for the most part as if I still didn't have much( and a lot of what I've finally managed to save is currently going to make sure some executives in the health care and insurance mafias are getting and staying obscenely wealthy). But to conclude, your point is very valid and it's sort of a sad commentary.

[RFKHumphreyObama]

22. Love

I've never experienced true love, in the romantic way, in my life and I'm not sure I ever will. I would give anything to experience it and that one day, against all the odds, there will be someone special for me. I'm probably deluding myself but whatever

Yes, it would be nice to have lots of money. But essentially, although money can give you a better quality of life and lots in terms of material products, it can't compensate for having a partner who you chose and who chose you and who can go through life with you and whom you can share your life's ups and downs with.

[Drunken Irishman]

23. Money can buy a lot of one-night love fests. ;)

[JCMach1]

24. You are right sir!

[KansDem]

30. I refer to them as "one-night soulmates?"

You can get them at SoulMates "R" Us...

[Bunny]

25. On Thursday, I'll have love AND money!

Powerball is Wednesday night! ;) :loveya:

[Sky Masterson]

26. I'm just waiting on a friend

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DYYMbUVZIA4
:)

[TZ]

28. I'm not rich in most senses of the word

But I don't worry much about money..and I'm alone. Definitely prefer option one.

[KansDem]

29. 20 to 40 years ago I would have opted for "love of your life but poor/struggling"

Now, it's "alone but rich."

Life teaches us so many lessons...

[Deep13]

31. I chose the love of my life while I was poor and struggling.

:loveya:

[PRETZEL]

32. Ask this question a few years ago and the answer would have been different

now, for me, I voted rich and alone.

If the love of your life doesn't share the same feelings toward money and what's important in a relationship, being with the love of your life doesn't pay the bills.

If she was willing and accepting to live within one's means then I would say in a heartbeat that I'd rather be poor/struggling (not living beyond one's means) than to be rich and alone.

I'm tired of fighting that battle and losing.

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[RFKHumphreyObama]

34. OK, well we know which one you'd chose then

[Bertha Venation]

35. Right now the only thing getting me through the money struggle is

being with the love of my life.

[graywarrior]

36. Ummmm....hold on...I'm thinking.

:hurts:

[OwnedByFerrets]

37. I actually made a similar choice.....

Live with the love of my life OR live with a rich woman who I was not in love with.....I chose love and have never regretted it. But damn, that 911 sure was nice.:rofl:

[NJmaverick]

38. Can I split the difference and just be reasonably well off and have a companion I can tolerate?

[redqueen]

39. Love!

:loveya:

[rebel with a cause]

40. I would chose being with the love of my life and rich

whether than my reality of being alone, poor and struggling. So I didn't vote. ;)

[melman]

41. Rich

[pitohui]

44. while in real life i chose love sometimes i'm very sorry i did

my life would be v. different if i'd just given up and sold myself to my abusers/exploiters

love in the end of the day doesn't make life any easier, while money does

so sometimes i do wonder

i do not know why life asks such cruel choices of us, even crueller is the reality that if you are poor with someone, it does affect yr feelings for them and not in a good way, so many people in this situation end up losing both the love and the chance at $$$

[Deja Q]

46. Being alone and rich.

[MrScorpio]

48. I've never been rich, so I wouldn't miss it

But I have been in love, and I would definitely miss that

[Gormy Cuss]

49. Rich means you never have to be alone. There are always people willing to hang on to you.

Eh -who am I kidding? I don't ever want to be poor or struggling again but I'd choose the one who makes my heart sing over money.

[susanr516]

50. I've been in both situations

I chose love. It's true that money can't buy happiness, it can only give you an excuse to stay miserable.

[MrSlayer]

51. I can buy a new love every night..

There is no downside to being rich and you can't eat love.

[Wapsie B]

52. You can still get fulfillment by giving to worthy causes

and making a positive impact on the lives of others. If others cannot see your worth through that generosity and giving of yourself and maybe find you as someone they'd like to know better then so be it. Nuts to them. Wouldn't be the first time someone went their entire life without having a soulmate.

[Bucky]

55. I happen to have the best of both worlds.

My life is unfettered by love, companionship, & emotional satisfaction... all while I know that my income can go no place but up!

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

56. Having been kicked to the curb by "the love of my life,"

I'll take the money. It has been my experience that money is more reliable than love.