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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:07 PM
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So I'm really depressed, worried about money and not having a job
Edited on Fri Jun-26-09 11:08 PM by Lorax7844
I'm sad that my Grandmother isn't here to make it better. I'm sad that now the only time I call my grandpa is to ask for money. I'm just really bummed at the situation I find myself in. I'll be fine but I just wanted to let it out.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:10 PM
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1. Maybe you should write
a letter to your Grandpa, not asking for money, but maybe just telling him things about you that he might not know but would like to know.

Maybe you can write about what he means to you, or about the good times you had with him.

Or you could write about your hopes and dreams.

Grandparents want to know. Honestly, they really do.

And you might even feel better, like you're giving him something - which you are - instead of always just asking for help.

In any event, I hope you feel better soon..........................
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:16 PM
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2. I'm going to
I've been writing it in my head all day. My grandma was my link to him, to that side of the family she's been gone for a few years now and it seems like her essence is just gone. After she died it felt like she was still with me, now it's so removed, so empty.

This isn't a pity party, I posted this for me, just to have somewhere to say it.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:22 PM
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3. You don't sound like a pity party -
you sound like all of us feel at one time or another.

And she's not gone. You've just assimilated her, taken her into all of you so that you can no longer see where she ends and you begin.

She'll never disappear, not while you're alive.

Good on the letter. You're going to have a good time writing it, - and I will bet everything I own on this - your grandfather is gonna be thrilled to receive it.

But, you're not whining. You're just saying what we all say now and then. As you get older, you say it less frequently, but you think it .................................
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:30 PM
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4. I'll be thinking of her
I don't want to upset him, I'll be walking a fine line of trying not to be too melodramatic. I'm a naturally melodramatic person, i'm gonna try to just be honest but it will be a hard letter to write not a good time. not that he is a jerk or anything, he's cool, I just HATE asking for money AGAIN. I need it, I have a family. I'm looking for a job but there is nothing. I'm either over qualified for most jobs but not experienced enough to get hired in my own field. My employment situation is a mess.
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:37 PM
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6. Thank for listening, it's decent of you
I'll be ok, it's just hard.

Thanks again.

:hug:
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:10 AM
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16. You ARE OK, and your grandpa -
really - would never want to know that you are in need of anything.

You'll have fun with the letter. He'll be tickled.

And, honestly, we all have these times. I just hope yours gets better real soon.....................

:toast:
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:04 AM
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14. Oh, I didn't state it clearly -
just send him a letter.

Don't ask for money in the letter. Just make this something for him from you. Something special. Something straight from your heart, and if you think you're gonna go all melodramatic, write it, and then let it sit for a while, a day or two, and then read it - maybe read it out loud - and see what changes it might need. You'll be surprised at what you'll find.

It does sound like a totally suck situation, and I'm sorry it's that way for you. But, if you can just send him a letter - a gift from you to him - maybe that will take some of the guilt you probably feel when you have to ask him for help.

And, I'll bet you he wants to make sure you're taken care of and he's glad he can help you. That's how good grandparents are, and yours sounds nice.

But, the letter? Make it just for him, not asking for anything. Maybe including some stuff about how grateful you are for his help so far, and you're hoping it will be better soon, but you're trying as hard as you can?

If this sounds muddled, that's because it's late on Friday night here, and I'm sort of fried......................
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:07 AM
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15. Nice I wish I was lit, it would help fo sho
Edited on Sat Jun-27-09 12:08 AM by Lorax7844
I'll take your advice saving it and reading it out loud I never do, I'll try it this time.
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:35 PM
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5. Ease in dude
I was thinking of making bicuits

:hug:
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:38 PM
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7. dudette
;)

:hug: back at ya.
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:39 PM
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8. How far away does your grandpa live?
Is it possible to visit? I'm sure he misses your grandmother terribly, and he probably needs your caring heart even more than you need money and a job.

I hope you can find something soon... :hug: :hug: :hug:
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:46 PM
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10. Across the country
I would call but he is NEVER at home. He has an important job and even I would feel like a douche if I pulled him away from his work.

I'm going to write, that is the best way. I just want to make sure that my letter is thoughtful.

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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:26 AM
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20. How about email?
It'd be great if you could keep in touch that way.

Do you have any family nearby? It sounds like you really need someone you can feel close to right now.
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:29 AM
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22. yeah I have a great family
I'll be fine, just wanted to get it out.
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:11 AM
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17. Off topic COMPLETELY -
You're HOME!

I assume.

How was the drive, the gig, the dinner, the sunset, the traffic home?
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GoddessOfGuinness Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:28 AM
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21. I don't know yet...
My gig is tomorrow. :rofl:
But I'll let you know when I get home. I'm going to take a camera with me, to see if I can get a good pic. It's pretty down there. :D
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Tangerine LaBamba Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:32 AM
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23. But, but, but ......
You're HOME!

heh heh heh

Break a leg, kiddo.................
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1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:42 PM
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9. here's the thing... tomorrow might show up as the best day in your life. you don't know!
think back on all of the "AH HA!'s" in your life.

you didn't see them coming. otherwise they wouldn't be an AH HA!'s

tomorrow might be the best day in your life...



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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:47 PM
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11. maybe so, fingers crossed
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enigmatic Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:47 PM
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12. Good vibes to you
:hug:
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Fri Jun-26-09 11:49 PM
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13. thanks
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Dammit Ann Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:19 AM
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18. You will find your way.
Hold on, these days will pass. I promise, been there. MANY times.
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Lorax7844 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:24 AM
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19. she was the first person that I loved to die

i'm young, I don't guess it ever gets easier when you lose someone
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Dammit Ann Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 12:33 AM
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24. Death is never easy , baby.
The first is just as hard as all the rest. Just hold on, believe in life and yourself. You'll make it through.
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femmocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Jun-27-09 08:56 AM
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25. Sorry you are going through a tough time, Lorax.
I hope tomorrow is a better day. :hug:
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