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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:34 AM
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My ex thinks I am an unfit mother because the kids are sleeping on blow up matresses
only they aren't, it is just an idea he has in his head for some unknown reason! It boggles the mind, never mind the fact that he has given me $0 in support since the day I left in Feb., or the fact that he has been arrested for drunk and disorderly since then, or the fact that THEY AREN'T sleeping on blow up mattresses and even if they were, who the fuck cares?

There, I feel better now, thanks for listening :P

:rant:
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LynneSin Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:35 AM
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1. My nephews thought it was a treat to sleep on blow-up mattress
they'd spend nights at the grandparents just for the chance to use them.
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HopeHoops Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:36 AM
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2. Actually, those things are pretty damn comfortable!
Maybe he had a dream about blow up matresses after he passed out on his blow up doll!

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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:37 AM
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4. !
Thank you for that! :rofl:
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HopeHoops Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:58 AM
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22. Hit him with that line the next time he mentions it.
Asshole.
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:43 AM
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8. ROFL!
:rofl:
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:37 AM
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3. Lawyer?
Ranting is fine, but I hope you're protected from this sicko.
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:39 AM
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6. My lawyer is an ex-Marine and ex-State Trooper who rides a Harley
I am golden :P It doesn't hurt that he works for the best law firm in the state and has been doing this forever while the exes just got out of law school ;)
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BlueIris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:41 AM
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7. Ha ha ha ha. Hah. Good deal. (See Semi-Nightly Poetry break for more
moral support.)
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BarenakedLady Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:38 AM
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5. I'm sorry he's an ass.
I'm so thankful that (so far) my split is amicable.

Stay strong.

:hug:
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PaddyBlueEyes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:44 AM
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9. Baby
He is a poor excuse for a man, and human being and not worthy of being called daddy, by your amazing and beautiful children. They are not sleeping on blow up mattresses, I can attest to that. They are happy, healthy and loved. He's a worthless piece of filth, plain and simple...and he is getting real close to getting his head cracked. ILY
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:48 AM
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11. easy aggro-Celt...
:P
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PaddyBlueEyes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:50 AM
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13. Nope
Hes done...eventually and legally..but he is done.
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:53 AM
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18. aggro-Celt ?

Is it the Irish branch of Monsanto ? :P
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PaddyBlueEyes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:55 AM
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19. the irish branch of the sopranos
:P
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:56 AM
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20. Lol!
Edited on Tue Jun-09-09 12:01 PM by jeff30997
Good one! :rofl:

edit:This is my second lol in less than 30 minutes.Maybe I should see my Doctor?
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:44 AM
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10. He sounds like my ex-bil
Edited on Tue Jun-09-09 11:45 AM by lizziegrace
document EVERYTHING and always, always take the high road. Photograph the rooms. If he's like my sister's ex, it will only get worse.

www.wearenotmissing.com (her attempt to fight back)
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:51 AM
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14. how awful!
thankfully I have the GAL advocating for the kids and she is convinced that they have the best placement possible and is considering scaling back his visitation as it is. Your poor sister, give her a hug for me if you see her soon :hug:
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:57 AM
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21. I haven't seen her in over 3 years
her ex refused to sign passport renewals and the children couldn't travel for a Christmas visit. He immediately filed contempt charges (yes, he set her up) and his buddy the judge swore out a felony bench warrant for her. She can't come home.
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:59 AM
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23. that is so unfair...
makes my pissy little bitching post seem kind of irrelevant, I am so sorry lizziegrace :hug:
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:01 PM
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26. Don't compare the two! :hug:
it's just that it started out with the kind of stuff your ex is saying and escalated. I just thought that my sister's experience might be helpful if he continues his madness.

The felony warrant will never go away unless asshole drops the charges. He won't. He's rather be the long-suffering victim. Fits his narcissistic personality...

:hug:
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mzteris Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 02:41 PM
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39. omg -
Edited on Tue Jun-09-09 02:41 PM by mzteris
that man is seriously deranged!

How sad for your sister and her children and your family to have to go through this. Though it seems she's insulated them as well as she can against this crazy man.

:hug: to you, her, and her beautiful kids. :hug:

edit typo
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lizziegrace Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 04:36 PM
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40. Thanks...
I'm grateful there's an ocean between him and my sister and the kids. My parents have spent $40,000 in legal fees so far. My niece is autistic. He couldn't handle her for 7 days when he went to see them a few years ago. He took her back to my sister's after 4 days and said "I can't deal with her". He doesn't want the kids. He wants to make my sister miserable and bankrupt my family.
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motely36 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:50 AM
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12. .
:hug:
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Inchworm Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:52 AM
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15. He probably also thinks he is some sort of King
Skr00 what that asshole thinks.

If he ever gets the bawls to pay his share, consider maybe at least listening to him (if you choose that you want to).

Until then... let the dumbass live in his own screwed up world.

x(
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Left Is Write Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:53 AM
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16. "Pay your support and I'll buy beds. "
Even if they WERE sleeping on blow up mattresses, and even if there were something wrong with that, he'd be in a pretty piss-poor position to complain about it, seeing how he hasn't contributed anything to his own kids' maintenance.
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Aristus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 11:59 AM
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24. When my mother divorced my father, he went around telling everybody (including his second wife)
that NONE of his three kids were actually his. That my mother had conceived each of us with different fathers and betrayed him unmercifully.

Which is the worst lie he could possibly have come up with. My mother was, and still is, the most straight-laced well-brought-up Southern lady you can imagine. But my Dad's ego couldn't stand the fact that she found it possible to live without him. He died refusing to believe that my mother still loved him; even after 25 years.

I'm sorry your ex is being such a douche, mcctatas. I hope he quits soon...
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Strong Atheist Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:00 PM
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25. Well, I sleep on a matress right on the floor, no box-spring. It's
comfortable... :shrug:
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Arkansas Granny Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:04 PM
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27. Oh, you know how they are. When they can't think of any other way to hurt you,
they accuse you of being an unfit mother. Says more about him than it does about you.
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PaddyBlueEyes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:07 PM
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28. The funny thing is
The kids are happier now then they have been in a long time. You are an amazing mother, your love for them shines through in EVERY thing you do. You are the one, who takes them to school every morning and makes sure they have food in their bellies and a roof over their heads. YOU are the one who comforts them when they are scared, or sad. YOU are the one, they run to when life gets too tough, or they have questions or concerns. YOU give them love, support and a safe stable enviroment...YOU are simply the best woman in the world....their lives are rich beyond words...
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:09 PM
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29. Thank you baby///
but you are just a wee bit biased :P
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PaddyBlueEyes Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:11 PM
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30. Yeah but
what i said above is the truth... :loveya:
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:19 PM
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31. Oh boy.
You're a lucky lady. :)
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:19 PM
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32. Why are you blowing up matresses?
:hide:
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:33 PM
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33. better than blowing up ex husbands
:evilgrin:
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:35 PM
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34. Maybe you should put some air in them
:eyes:
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:37 PM
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35. wouldn't want to spoil the spawn!
If I give them air in the mattresses, what next, peanut butter on their bread? :P
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jeff30997 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:48 PM
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36. Check your PM.
:)
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Richardo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 12:51 PM
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37. They'll get nothing and like it!
:D
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blueraven95 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 01:07 PM
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38. since when are blow up mattresses
an indication of fitness?

:shrug:


hang in there! :hug:
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Fire Walk With Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 04:41 PM
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41. My ex thinks I am an unfit mother because the kids are sleeping on male blow up doll matresses?
Tell them to lighten up; times are tough and the economy calls for creative housekeeping. Martha Stewart endorses your effort!
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miss_american_pie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 07:57 PM
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42. The internets are not big enough
to list all the reasons I've been accused of being a bad mother.

Hope you enjoyed your vent, and fuck 'im.

:hi:
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quakerboy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 08:07 PM
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43. My MIL prefers them
She wont get anything else for her or her other daughter. She likes to move a lot though, so that probably adds to the appeal. They never did much for me.
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 08:08 PM
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44. That seems to be where exes go when they can't find anything to bitch about.
It is such a low blow when it isn't true. :hug: I am quite sure you are an awesome mom.
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mcctatas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Jun-09-09 08:18 PM
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45. Damn, I missed the deleted sub-thread!
:P
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