I was depressed as hell that I reached 30

[UndertheOcean]

and now , today , it just hit me , that in a couple of month I will be arriving at 31.


What is scary is that this whole year of my life , felt like just one week. Time just incomprehensibly flew , and if thing continue like this , old age is not far away.

The problem is , I feel I didn't really accomplish anything in my life still, my career still has a long way to go, still no stable relationship and kids , even not sure yet what I really want in those areas.



basically , in a nutshell , I am not satisfied with my life , if that makes any sense to you.

[tanngrisnir3]

1. Have you considered taking up juggling?

[UndertheOcean]

2. Wow , thanks doc , I am cured !

[IntravenousDemilo]

3. Sorry, snookums, I just hit fifty this week.

You have a long road ahead of you in this life and a lot of accomplishments yet to enjoy.

As do I.

[Droopy]

4. It makes sense to me and that's why I quit smoking, drinking, and eating junk food

I want to be alive and kicking as long as possible. Regarding relationships, I've been looking for a while now and I'm starting to think that it might not happen for me. I'm 36. So I'm just going to let it go and prepare myself mentally for the possiblity that it might never happen. I think I can be okay with that. Maybe I'll get a cat.

But, yes, life is short and time flies by when we are caught up in our work and dramas. We sometimes don't pause and take a look around. Here's a tune for you by the Talking Heads. "You may ask yourself, 'Well, how did I get here?'"

"Once in a Lifetime"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Kw54-rCIrPs

[bigwillq]

5. I just turned 31.

It ain't so bad. I love my life.

Just try and enjoy what you DO have.

[Radical Activist]

6. I deal with 30-31 by driving it out of my mind.

Damn this thread!

[suninvited]

7. I am almost 50

get over your f ing self.


yeah, thats the way it rolls.

[Deja Q]

10. Now there's a fine example of compassion

"Life is what we make of it".

Sorry yours made you so bitter.

Never too late to change...

[suninvited]

17. you are right

never too late

[Deja Q]

8. I'm approaching 37 at warp speed. I know how you feel...

The right person may or may not be out there. Or seems to be the right person to you, but the other person won't see you the same way.

My career has ways to go, but that's where extra education comes in. I will be worthy of the salary.

Accomplishment can be perceived in any number of ways and you may have accomplished things without realizing their full benefit.

Sorry to sound like a fortune cookie.

[Xipe Totec]

9. I was ecstatic when I turned 50

I managed to outlive my father and two younger brothers.

Not a small feat, coming from a line of short lifers.

I'll have plenty of time to be depressed after I die.

[Shell Beau]

11. I am 30. It is just a number. I joked about being "old" when I turned 30, but

it is still so young. The year has flown by, but you have a long time ahead of you to accomplish many things. There is no time table for accomplishments. We may think that we will do certain things by certain ages, but things happen. Don't add that kind of pressure to yourself. I thought I would be done having kids by 30. Ha! I just had my first one. And now I realize I am glad that it didn't happen for me until now.

[Left Is Write]

12. From where I sit, 30 looks awfully young.

Yes, I know time flies, and it flies faster the older we get. However, turning 30 and then 31 is a damn sight better than the alternative.

[Shell Beau]

13. Yep! I am glad every birthday I see. And most people I talk to, say

that the 40's were some of the best years. You have some experience behind you but are still young. And then I hear 50 is even better. I hope to see all of those numbers.

[CreekDog]

14. i was depressed on my 30th birthday too for a different reason:

12/12/2000



as for time, your observations are correct, it is relentless, but it is not hopeless either. one day can make all the difference when it comes to your hopes and dreams.

[SPKrazy]

15. Ah to be 30

but you know I was more depressed when I hit 25 than 30 or 40.

25 was like "a quarter of a century", I guess after that realization old age just seems like the inevitable survival of life....

today at 47 I feel OLD!!!! but not every day at 47 have I felt that way...

Hang in there, find what makes you feel good, what you enjoy, the rest will fall into place if you are happy with you. Better to be happy and single than married and miserable, trust me on that one.

[OmahaBlueDog]

16. The 30s are still cool

You are still somewhat trendy and attractive to those in their 20s, and you are still less than 50% of the average age of death. If you've played your cards right, you have 2 nickels to rub together, and none of your friends from high school are grandparents, yet.

At 40, it's like you woke up every day and took stupid pills. That weight you used to be able to just hit the gym and get off -- forget it-- it's a permenant accessory. If you're a guy, at checkups you have to go through routine medical procedures out of a bad prison movie -- and the doc soesn't even take you out for drinks or send flowers afterward. (I shudder to think what you gals get to go through -- what little Mrs. OBD has told me sounds humiliating and painful). You will also learn about why you were supposed to be taking care of your gums. Oh, yes -- 2 of my HS friends are grandparents now. This was 3 years ago - I'm .....well, I'm in my early 40s.

[annabanana]

18. I woke up one day last November and discovered, to my horror,

that I am 57. I've figured out why time goes faster & faster as we age.

When you are 15.. 5 years is a HUGE amount of time, you having only "done" it 3 time..

When you've done it 11 times.. 5 years is much much quicker.

[old mark]

24. Just wait - it gets better----I will be 62 late this summer and it's just

flying past.
At least I have finally learned to enjoy myself - hope I have a long time to do that yet.


mark

[jobycom]

19. Wow, and I think it's cool I'm turning 44 in a couple of weeks.

I think if I try hard enough I can manage to live an entire life without accomplishing one darned thing, thus shoving in the face of my sixth-grade friends their vote for me of "Most Likely to Succeed."

Then again, I don't worry much about what other people think I should have done by now, or what else I could be doing. Life goes on by, and I judge how I'm doing by whether I had fun today. I don't ignore long-term goals or past failures or current problems, and they get me down sometimes, but piss it. It's my life, and I'm going to have as many fun moments as I can, and screw anyone--including myself--who tries to convince me that success means something else.

Or that age matters one bit. It's just a mile marker on the highway, not a destination or speed limit. If you don't glance at the darned things, you barely even remember they are there. My tires are a little balder, maybe, but that just means I need to slow down over wet patches.

Just my thoughts. All this age-whining confuses me. See too much of it, never understood it. Do what you can, enjoy it, don't worry about what you didn't do. You've got a terminal illness and a death bed somewhere in your future, and you can dwell on it then.

[susanna]

25. OK, you rock.

And I'll make even it more legit:

[AwakeAtLast]

20. I'm hanging on to my 30's by my fingernails

You've got almost all of yours ahead of you - grab on!

[Silver Swan]

21. I will soon be 63.

If you think time is flashing by in your thirties, wait thirty more years.

I hope to live into my nineties, but it will seem like ten years, not thirty. Or maybe it will seem like five years...

[ConcernedCanuk]

22. I'm 58 - can't wait for 60 - that's when my Canada Pension kicks in - "CASH FOR LIFE"

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I'll never be broke again no matter what I do, because the checks will come in every month whether I work or not

I have another pension coming from C P Rail as well, matures when I'm 65, but I can also cash that one in for a reduced monthly payment anytime between now and 65

so - work hard, pay what you can into pensions/savings/investments

then when you get to be my age, get a paycheck and do whateverthefuckya want!

I was a union rep shit-disturber sorta employee - most employers weren't too fond of me, but I took the shit, and the employees benefited for decades after I was gone

I made my mark - didn't do much for my bank account

But I contributed, - - big time - - I can live with that

20 months to go . .

[Kat45]

23. I was also extremely depressed when I turned 30.

I felt like I was so old. And now when I think back, or see older pictures of myself, I get a bit pissed at myself for feeling old back then. I look good in the photos, look quite young, and I wish I had fully enjoyed all that I could have been enjoying back then.

When I turned 40, I was a little bit bummed out but my boyfriend threw a big party for me (at my request-lol) and I had a blast partying with all my friends.

When I turned 50, I didn't feel old. Perhaps it was because I was having more and better sex in my old(er) age, including a multi-year fwb thang with a man 15 years younger than me. Plus, My mother and two of my friends threw me a surprise birthday party, which was great because nobody had ever thrown me a surprise party before.

I guess I'm just trying to say don't worry. At your young age, you have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time for career, relationship, kids.

[Inchworm]

26. I dont really remember 30

sad, happy, weird in a way.

[Indi Guy]

27. You make perfect sense. This understood...

...never let the perfect become the enemy of the good.

I'm sure that your example of character and caring has influenced many people in your life.

It never matters when we gain understanding -- it only matters that we do.

(BTW -- I have fuzzy stuff in my fridge older than you )