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But here's a :hug:
I'm going to be in your situation pretty soon, and I'm keenly aware of it. When I was little, the entire extended family (cousins, cousins, cousins) got together for all the holidays, and my grandparents were the touchstone of the family. Christmas was a madhouse.
When my grandparents passed, everybody pretty much split into their respective nuclear families for holidays, with a bit of crossover. Now that I'm in my 40s and most of the older relatives have died, our Christmases are much, MUCH smaller. (This year is a major event because my brother and his wife and daughter are visiting from California--brings our tally up to a whopping EIGHT people. Quite a change from 30 to 40 people in the past!)
My mom is the center of the family now; when she passes, things are going to be very, very different. My husband comes from a very small family and is perfectly happy staying home for all holidays if I let him, and I can see Christmas in a very quiet house with just him and our son in the future as a very real thing. I don't want that. I fear it. But it's coming.
What's worse is up to about a year ago I belonged to a coven that was like my second family. For many years I trusted that when my "blood" family was gone, I'd still have my coven sisters and our extended family. But then things changed, soured, and I quit the coven. So now I don't even have that to fall back on.
I've been thinking about it a lot recently and have decided to join a UU church when the times comes that I need to go out and find a "family"/community for support and social interaction. Is there some social group you could look into joining to take the place of your extended family?
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