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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:02 PM
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So The Other Shoe Dropped Today
the former GF and I are now officially former... and I am her "friend" now.

The excitement I feel about this situation is like that of being disemboweled so don't expect a lot of humor from me tonight.

I know the lounge is tired of me talking about relationship problems... since that seems to be all that I have is problems...

maybe its time to stay away from relationships.

Focus on me...

The landslide brought me down...

I took my love and I took it down
I climbed a mountain and I turned around
And I saw my reflection in the snow covered hills
Well the landslide brought me down

Oh, mirror in the sky
What is love
Can the child within my heart rise above
Can I sail thru the changing ocean tides
Can I handle the seasons of my life

Well, I've been afraid of changing 'cause I built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older too
Well...

Well, I've been afraid of changing 'cause I built my life around you
But time makes you bolder
Children get older
I'm getting older, too
Well I'm getting older too

So, take this love and take it down
Year and if you climb a mountain and ya turn around
And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills
Well the landslide brought me down
And if you see my reflection in the snow-covered hills
Well maybe
Well maybe
Well maybe the landslide will bring you down
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:05 PM
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1. I'm sorry, SPK. Here's to better days ahead for you.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:13 PM
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3. Time will tell
thanks Midlo

:hug:
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:10 PM
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2. God that sucks.
Sorry, SPK.

:hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:13 PM
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4. Yeah, it does
:hug:

but it seems to be par for the course
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:50 PM
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5. I'm so sorry, my friend.
Sometimes it's hard to see why we bother. :hug: :hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:53 PM
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7. I'm not going to bother anymore L
my heart is shattered

my life has been ruined

I am nothing but a pain in the ass to my friends

I'm really at a loss of what to even do with myself

I've always had a plan

now I don't care
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 11:31 PM
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8. Don't even think that.
It makes sense that you feel like crap right now, and you may for a while. But a couple of unsuitable women cannot keep the pawpicker down!

I know this because my heart has been beaten to crap and yet I recover, I hope. :hug: If nothing else, recognize that it's her loss.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:50 PM
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17. It's pretty much how I feel
although I'm a little better today

not much

:hug:
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Flaxbee Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 11:53 PM
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12. oh bullcrap
You are valued and cherished here, by your son, by your friends and family. I very much hope you find love from a special woman that is reciprocated soon, but YOU are loved, here. Not the same thing as having someone to hold at night, I know. But it has to be OK for now. :hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:51 PM
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18. Thanks
not sure it will happen, but I do feel loved here of all places. :D
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:52 PM
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6. I don't seem to be getting much traction with this here
so life imitates art, art imitates life...

I'm fucked

I'm done

I don't care anymore


enough said...

I'm through with all of it.

:hi:

later
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NMDemDist2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 03:53 AM
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14. when in doubt
go help someone else.

:hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:52 PM
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19. Who's to say I haven't
and in fact, strangely that ends up being one of the issues even... that I helped her

:shrug:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 11:44 PM
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9. My dear Southpawkicker...
Oh, sweetie...

I'm so sorry...

I know it's tough...

You know I"m here for you and if I could do anything, I would, in a heartbeat...

I've got your back...

Take care of you! You matter!

:hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:53 PM
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20. I know you would Peg
:hug: :hug: to you
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Wapsie B Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 11:49 PM
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10. Oh man I am sorry.
I've got noth'n except that I've been there.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:53 PM
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21. Been there twice in the last year and a half
and I'm divorcing

go figure
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Danger Mouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 11:52 PM
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11. Love sucks and is usually a waste of time.
:hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:54 PM
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22. might be right
at the moment, a communal life doesn't sound so bad
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leftofthedial Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 12:57 AM
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13. better luck.
finding the right person is not easy.

:toast:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:54 PM
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23. No, I really thought I had
twice now

:cheers:
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JVS Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:07 AM
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15. You know, there's no rule that says you have to be her friend.
Next time you see her in passing, feel free to flash your middle finger. She'll take the hint.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:55 PM
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24. I'm sure I won't do that
I love her kids and I'd love to be part of her and their lives somehow. My son loves her kids too.
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MrSlayer Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:12 AM
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16. Dude, 4-F club.
The Mentors are the mentors.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gw_oc6uOLos











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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 04:56 PM
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25. Hmm...
:shrug:
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 05:56 PM
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26. disemboweled? That's all?
What about having your still beating heart torn from your chest, nailed to a board (one of those giant nails - nothing little), and then jabbed numerous times with a power drill. *sigh*
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:22 PM
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28. Think That is what is happening today
trying to stay away from there
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:27 PM
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30. I'm sorry buddy
it sucks. *sigh*

I miss my dog (lost in break up). That dog loves me, unconditionally, but I'm not allowed to see her.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:38 PM
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31. that sucks
I miss her

I miss her kids

I miss her voice

so far not seen or heard anything

and why I need to talk to her is another problem, but I do. Or want.

Oh well
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:46 PM
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32. yeah, I know
:(

ugh.... life is a pain in the ass. Do you think there's a way we can turn ourselves gay? I like you.... don't want to move back to the US though. We'd just end up hurting each other. I'm sorry that I mentioned it.
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:55 PM
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33. I'm just not inclined that way
I mean I like guys, but I don't "like" them that way

friends yeah

lovers, no
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 08:00 PM
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34. well, same here,
but we're both available.


Unless the photos you've posted are fake, and you're really a lovely red haired girl who plays Chopin and lives down the street from me. If you were, I would be so inclined.
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GreenPartyVoter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 05:59 PM
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27. :^( *hugs*
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 07:23 PM
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29. Thanks
I could use a thousand of those right now

:(

:hug:
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rucky Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 08:02 PM
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35. Dames.
harumph.

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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 10:38 PM
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38. lol
:rofl:
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 10:34 PM
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36. Hey darlin'
I gave up on relationships three years ago and have been much, much happier.

I'm sorry for your pain and hope things look up soon.

And they will.

I do remember how awful the pain is. But you can handle it.

Stay strong and centered. :hug:
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 10:37 PM
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37. Thanks
I'm rethinking how things were, and realizing what was up

:hug:
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cwydro Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 10:39 PM
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39. I find it much more peaceful being alone.
I realize most of the troubles in my life, as well as the bad decisions, were linked to women - lol.

Sad, but true.
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LuckyTheDog Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Tue Dec-09-08 10:43 PM
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40. I'd make a clean break
Any time I tried to be "friends" with an old girlfriend, it was dysfunctional.

My advice: For a while, throw yourself into whatever work you do. Don't jump into another relationship till you know you are ready.
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