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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:05 PM
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Woe. Boyfriend is tired of waiting for me to divorce so I told him
he could take a break and see other people until that time comes. I wonder how long he'll stay away, or if he'll reappear at all. We still haven't filed though the plan is to do so right after the house sale is closed. One thing at a time, you know?

I don't see him - the bf - that often so I'm not dying of grief but tonight I'm lonely. Bah. Please post something funny - a pic, a joke, a video that will cheer me up! :cry:
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Symarip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:08 PM
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1. Here
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:17 PM
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9. Excellent advice!
:crazy:
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Ptah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:09 PM
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2. puppies!
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:18 PM
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10. I wanna widdle puppy!
As long as it doesn't grow up. Cute!!!
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IndianaJones Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:11 PM
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3. Chris Dane Owens
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:24 PM
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12. Cured!
:rofl: I thought it was an SNL skit at first.
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lightningandsnow Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:12 PM
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4. Here.
:hug:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9fciD_II7NI

Not so much funny per se, but adorable/awesome.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:28 PM
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14. I love it!
I've never heard of Feist before but love the voice. Thanks! :hug:
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greenbriar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:12 PM
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5. here
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:29 PM
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15. ...
:spray: Geez thanks! I need(ed) that! :rofl:
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greenbriar Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:45 PM
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any time
hehe
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:13 PM
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6. K
You can peruse a bit of my, boring, personal life at my facebook profile if you wish.

Lots o' pictures.

:P

http://www.facebook.com/home.php#/profile.php?id=808711...

Sorry to here about you man problems.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:31 PM
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16. Is that you? I can't access the pics w/out being a friend,
so I sent a request. :D
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:35 PM
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17. Aye, it's me.
New Facebooker, am I.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:49 PM
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24. I've been scoping you out.
Thanks for the add! The Spawn is freaking adorable & I especially love the nakedbutt shot. Every parent should have a few nakedbutt shots of their babies. :D
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:50 PM
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25. Yup. That's what I learned in parenting class.
Get a naked but shot of baby, to show future girlfriends.

:D
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:04 PM
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27. Laughing.
I've got this great one of my now fifteen-year-old son. He's two or three, and we have him outside, lifted up naked over a half-barrel full of freezing water which he is squirming to avoid. It's so cute! and well worth the torture we put him through.
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mainegreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:09 PM
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29. Bring that one out when he's engaged.
:D
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:15 PM
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7. Well, that's a responsible and emotionless decision
Do you love the "boyfriend" or not?

Here's a clown photo for your enjoyment:
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:36 PM
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18. How'd you get a pic of my boyfriend?
:o

I do love the "boyfriend" but we have fought and argued continually during our entire courtship, and this is the latest. I think we're both tired of fighting and can't figure out how to fix it.
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Canuckistanian Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:42 PM
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31. It's a delicate balance, I realize
You're leaving a relationship, but you have someone - but they're not your ideal soulmate.

Do you stay or go? Call off the whole deal or stay and try to work things out?

Me? I'd ditch anyone who doesn't support me during a difficult time.

And I'd say NOW is one of those times for you.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:48 PM
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33. I don't disagree.
But it's also a difficult time for him though I can't discuss it here. We have both continued to hope that time would smooth our lives and thus our relationship would be less difficult, but our lives refuse to smooth. I suppose that's your point, isn't it?
God help anybody who tries to have a relationship with me! because I am basically a cask of shit-bad-luck.
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Danger Mouse Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:16 PM
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8. A student came up to me at work today and said...
'Why does Santa have three gardens? Cause he hoe hoe hoes. GET IT? HOE? GARDEN?'
What better to cheer you up than lame kid humor? :P
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:37 PM
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19. You do know I have three kids, right?
:P

:hug:
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City of Mills Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:20 PM
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11. How does that work for you?
I've been separated for almost two years now, still married but I'd like to date. Not sure how to do so without being divorced? I do get lonely but I just can't bring myself to date yet. Maybe I should finalize things, but it's hard given my SO's current situation, and the holidays seem to be a bad time to bring it up.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:42 PM
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20. It's been interesting.
My husband and I are amicable and have had what we believe are good reasons not to yet be divorced. He lives in another town and obviously knows I have a boyfriend, and is okay with it. Our marriage was like a marriage between brother and sister and not much has changed. It's weird, I know. Really fucking weird. If you don't want to date then you shouldn't because the emotional baggage can be way too heavy. I fell for this guy the moment I saw him but my relationship/parental/domestic/financial situation has made our courtship a hell (when combined with his own post-divorce issues, I mean).

If you're doing the right thing by your SO, then perhaps you can work it out so that the divorce will not be completely devastating to either of you. That's what the husband and I have done, for the kids' sake and for our own. I wish you luck.

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City of Mills Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:56 PM
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26. Thanks for the advice
My situation is similar, maybe even simpler (no property, no kids), we get along great, we're good friends but there's no spark or romantic relationship any more. I've moved on, not sure if she has or not, but we're in different cities and living different lives. If we divorce I will continue to pay for her health insurance until she can get that on her own, her current job doesn't offer it and I can't bear to risk her being unprotected. Relationship-wise, I think I'd be relieved to know she was seeing someone, she's too good of a catch to stay single. I have at least one 'interest' and she knows my situation, and I think it's holding us back from moving forward. I understand though. I'm enjoying being single honestly, indulging in hobbies and finding new things to try and do, and I have a pretty full life - just lonely at times. It's reassuring to hear I'm not the only one who's been through it (not that I thought I was but you know...). Anyway, thanks and good luck with your bf. Hope the time away reminds him of what he has in you. He's a lucky guy!
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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:25 PM
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13. I am sorry for the bullshit.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:42 PM
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21. Awwww, is that Garfield?
For me? :D
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DainBramaged Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:45 PM
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22. That was my beautiful buddy who passed away last December on the 27th
And that toy was his favorite for the last 5 years of his life. EVERY time I came home, he'd run to me with that dirty cat in his mouth and gum it in my lap when I sat down and made me throw it.


I hoped he made you laugh too.
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 08:47 PM
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23. He did!
:hug: Thank you. :pals:
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Aristus Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:08 PM
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28. Oh sweetheart...
:hug:

Okay: what did the snail say when it rode on the turtle's back?

Answer: "Wheeeee!" :-)

Check your PM...
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:12 PM
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30. Wow. A snail & turtle joke I've never heard!
:P Checking.
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Dyedinthewoolliberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:44 PM
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32. Maybe you need a...
new boyfriend? :hi:
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crim son Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 09:49 PM
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34. I really think I need a job and a respite from the stress of the last
three years. I'm rather unfit as a mate right now, it appears. :hi:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 10:51 PM
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35. good for you and good for him. If it is meant to be then it will happen.
Edited on Mon Dec-08-08 10:51 PM by Tuesday Afternoon
Dating before the divorce is hard on everyone. I would go as far as to say that dating should wait until at least one year after the divorce is final. I have been on both sides of this situation and that is what I learned. YMMV. :hug:
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