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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 12:41 PM
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My six year old daughter just found out that there is no Santa Claus...
she wasn't ready to hear this news.

She is crushed -- and angry!

She found out at school; I didn't expect to be having this conversation with her for a couple more years. She is absolutely heart broken.
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 12:52 PM
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1. Does she have younger siblings?
When my eldest found out, she, too, was heartbroken, but I enlister her to help me 'play Santa' for the younger two.

She got to stay up later, take a bite out of Santa's cookie, help me make the soot footprints on the rug, stuff like that.
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:34 PM
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22. Yes, we have a son who is five. My wife asked my daughter if
she wanted to help and she said, "but isn't that lying?"

Oy vey...
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 07:18 PM
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27. Has she seen the Santa Clause? The original one?
That gave me a few more years with my son who was skeptical from the age of two.

You could watch it as a family and kind of 'bend' the action towards getting her to believe again.
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malta blue Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 12:59 PM
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2. That sucks!
My 9 y/o actually made a gift for Santa this year - she felt bad because people only give him cookies and milk ;)

I am so sorry you had to deal with it this year. I hope you don't lose too much of the magic :hug:
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Rambis Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:12 PM
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3. Choose to believe what you want
My 8 and 6 year old ask me if I believe in Santa and I tell them... "you can believe what you want no matter what anyone else says"
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:14 PM
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5. Same here. (nt)
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Midlodemocrat Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:15 PM
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7. To receive you must believe.
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:33 PM
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21. The problem was, she confronted my wife at school when my
wife went to pick her up. My daughter asked my wife in front of all of the kids if there was a Santa Claus and when my wife told her to believe what she wants, the kids all started telling her "but there is no Santa!".

My daughter was so upset -- she wasn't ready for this at all!!
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Symarip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:13 PM
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4. Would you describe her reaction as
'inevitable grief' after finding out the truth?
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redqueen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:14 PM
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6. I knew this would get you started again. (nt)
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Symarip Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:15 PM
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9. Can't a person just ask a question for clarity?
Edited on Mon Dec-08-08 01:16 PM by Symarip
Didn't you wonder, yourself?
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:35 PM
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23. I don't know if I would call it grief...
she is sad and angry.
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:15 PM
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8. what did she care?
Did you explain that she gets presents whether Santa is real or not? Isn't that what matters to kids?
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:56 PM
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13. It is the fantasy of it! It is magical!
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:00 PM
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16. what's the use of magic if it doesn't bring presents?
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Shell Beau Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:15 PM
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17. It is all of it combined that kids love!
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harmonicon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:27 PM
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19. really, it made no difference to me
I only have the most vague memory of maybe thinking that Santa was real. I knew that he was just imaginary by age 4 or 5, I'm sure, if not earlier. I don't remember any heart break - I got presents. Christmas was still magical. Perhaps that only thing that made me question if Santa was real was trying to understand how my parents could have been awake and doing all of this stuff between 9pm bedtime and 5 or 6am when we'd wake up and be amazed by the presents under the tree.
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:36 PM
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24. You are exactly right -- it is the fantasy.
My daughter loves all that stuff and loved the idea of a jolly Santa Claus flying around the world bringing gifts.

She was not ready to handle the fact that Santa isn't real.
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Fire Walk With Me Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:20 PM
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10. Reminds me of the time my adopted parents told me Santa isn't real.
Smiling at me, on an escalator, with lots of other people listening and smiling at me as well. One day, you're supposed to believe it. The next, you should be publicly ashamed of so doing.
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KurtNYC Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:59 PM
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14. .. and then they tell kids not to lie
what a world.
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snooper2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:39 PM
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11. give her 3 more years
and she'll realize the bible is nothing more than an interesting story as well :rofl:
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:38 PM
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25. That is another tough subject because my wife and I are atheists.
But, she is very curious about God and Jesus.

She goes to church with my wife's parents and we will let her decide on her own what she wants to believe.
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Dora Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:46 PM
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12. Our son is three. I struggle with how to teach Santa.
He asked me a couple of weeks ago, "Who is Santa?"

I told him, "Santa is a character."

:shrug:

I don't want to lie to him. I don't want him believing in a magic man that flies with a sleigh full of presents. I never believed in Santa as a real being, but I always loved the idea of Santa. Even the gifts that were tagged "from Santa," I knew were from our parents.

I struggle with how to teach him about the spirit and sentiment of Santa, without duping him into believing that some guy in black boots and a furry suit will bring presents or not based on his behavior.
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ScreamingMeemie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 01:59 PM
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15. Well... someone did this to my son when he was six and we
concocted a plan to let him believe again and it worked. :)

:hug: for your daugther. :(
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driver8 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:38 PM
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26. What was the plan? I would love for her to believe again...n/t
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meow2u3 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:27 PM
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18. My roomie's 9-year-old son wants Santa Claus to come back to life
Edited on Mon Dec-08-08 02:30 PM by StopThePendulum
That's because Santa Claus was a real man--his name is St. Nicholas! Back during the days of the dowry system, he sneaked money down the chimneys of poor families so their daughters could marry the men they loved and have a good husband instead of being sold as slaves.

Full story is located here.
Origin of Santa Claus
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WannaBeGrumpy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Dec-08-08 02:29 PM
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20. WHAT!? THERE"S NO SANTA CLAUS!?.....
seriously though I was about that age too when i found out(because i am a snoop) and it really sucked but come Christmas, It usually won't matter who is giving the gifts.

It didn't for me anyway
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