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about a situation that I'm involved in....
In early September, an acquaintance of mine moved here with no real prospects or place to stay (that's a story in and of itself, but it was something that he really needed to do). He (we'll call him Jack) was supposed to stay with me and my then partner until he got back on his feet and then find his own place. Well, meantime, tensions were high with the hurricane and some other big issues, and my then-partner decides that maybe having another person in the house would be a bad idea at that particular point. Reasonable thought, but my partner didn't tell me this at the time. Instead, he calls a mutual friend (we'll call Peter, who lives alone in a 3 br house), explains the situation, and asks if he would take Jack in for a period of time. Peter agrees with no hesitation.
I'm told all of this after the fact, and though I'm taken aback that it was discussed without me, I am touched at the generous offer by Peter, and agree that it might be for the best. Jack moves into Peter's back bedroom. Jack is employed almost immediately, but quits his first job as it wasn't a good fit for him. However, he already had something else lined up before he quit, so he was back at work within a few days, and is still working. He has offered rental payment to Peter, but Peter has refused it.
Fast forward to about a week ago... Peter is ready to have his house back to himself. He readily admits that it's not that Jack is so much of a problem, it's just that he prefers living alone (fair enough). Peter tells me this, saying "He's YOUR friend- YOU need to be the one to nudge him and get him out of my house." Inwardly, I kind of disagree, but I've no problem finding a discrete and non-confrontational way of bringing up the topic and opening the dialogue. I tell Peter that I will bring it up somehow when it's appropriate (I don't see either Jack or Peter daily).
Now, Peter has become something of a bitch about it, and has gotten my ex-partner involved- with both of them saying that it's MY responsibility to let Jack know IMMEDIATELY that Peter wants his house back, but I must do it without actually suggesting that Peter wants him out, because Peter doesn't want Jack to think that.
My take on this: I wasn't instrumental in getting Jack into Peter's house (other than saying that he could stay with me when he moved here), so I say that the onus of responsibility isn't exactly on my shoulders; However, I readily agreed to speak with him whenever the time was right, and at the time Peter seemed OK with that. Then a week later- Well, he apparently didn't think I moved fast enough...
Thanks to anybody who read all of this and can offer any opinions- good, bad, or ugly! :hi:
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