35 and 24. Too big a difference?

[Droopy]

I am currently in "negotiations" with a 24 year old college student. I am 35 years old and a trucker. She's 24 and working on her Master's in psychology. She seems to be somewhat mature for her age. You guys know me and my little stories. She can hang with that and I've got enough of a college education that I can hang with her on an intellectual level- I think I am smart enough to engage her intellect for now at least. I might have to take in some text books a little later on down the line. :)

She's smart, pretty, and talented and I'd be a very lucky guy if she chooses to be with me. I already know I want to be with her. Is 35 and 24 too big of an age difference? I'm not experienced in these matters so I'd be eager to hear from those who are. For the record, she is okay with my age.

If you are in your mid twenties, tell me how you'd feel about dating someone in their mid thirties.

[LeftyMom]

1. Iirc (don't feel like doing the math) that was about the spread when flvegan and I got together.

Actually, I think it was 24 and 33. :shrug:

As everybody on the internet knows, that was a disaster and we hate each other. :rofl: So apparently it worked out okay. Probably because we're both immature. :D

[Droopy]

2. I thought you guys were still together!

So what are you doing next Saturday night. :D

[LeftyMom]

4. Do not answer the door for the large man who will be pounding angrily in a minute.

:rofl:

[KG]

3. why ask the miscreants that inhabit the lounge? go for what you want!

:headbang:

[Droopy]

5. You're right. I'm just curious about various opinions.

I'll probably do what I want to do anyway, which is go for what I want. :D Rock on, brother.

[KG]

8. heh. i only trust the lounge for computer advice and recipies.

and i'm kinda wary about the recipies. :)

[KitchenWitch]

12. Heh, I only give my GOOD recipes to the Lounge!

:P

[KitchenWitch]

6. Mark Twain stated it best...

Age is an issue of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it does not matter.

My own caveat, if you are both of legal age of consent...then hey, go for it.

[Zavulon]

7. When I was 32, I lived with a 23 year-old.

The relationship was a disaster, and she was a psych major too.

I don't think there's anything outrageous about the age difference, but twice I've dated hot psych majors and both times I found myself eventually thinking of ways to fake my own death. When you two have your first argument, I suspect you'll see what I mean.

I hope I'm wrong, BTW.

[lost-in-nj]

9. My parents were 13 years apart

and they did ok...

go for it ....
if shes ok with it then there is no problems!!

you deserve some happiness

don't you???

:hug: :hi:



lost

[Droopy]

10. Damn straight I deserve some happiness

Thanks for pointing that out.

I've had enough unhappiness to last for 5 lifetimes. It's my turn to be happy, dammit! Thanks for the affirmation, lost. :thumbsup:

[Lyric]

11. I'm 29. My partner is 42.

So long as everyone is "legal" and emotionally mature, age differences aren't that important.

[Generic Brad]

13. You're both adults

That is all that matters. Enjoy!

[marzipanni]

14. Similar to lost-in-nj's, my parents were twelve years apart

My mom was 26 and my dad 38 when they got married. I was the last of four kids, born when my dad was almost 48. It seemed fine to me, except as fate would have it, dad lived to the age of 75, and thirty years later my mom is still alive at 93.

[Tangerine LaBamba]

15. Go for it.

What's the worst that can happen?

It doesn't work out?

Well, life goes on.

[LostinVA]

16. I'm 43 and my wife is 25

I'd say go for it.

[LeftyMom]

23. *ahem*

Your trophy wife.

Also, I'm not sure how she's 25 when her mom is clearly not a day over 32.

[LostinVA]

27. Her mom sleeps in a special chamber like Michael Jackson

[CaliforniaPeggy]

17. My dear Droopy!

Sounds to me like you've got a great match there!

Go for it!

We'll be here for you whether it works out or not...

Good luck!

:hug:

[Withywindle]

18. I don't see a problem here.

As long as you truly enjoy each other's company and respect each other, go for it!


(Edit: Well, maybe with the psych-major thing. You need to work out some boundaries. Like: "you don't use your textbook psychobabble on me and I won't run you over with my truck." ;))

[bigwillq]

19. It's not about the age

It's how two people find a way to make it work. Although it seems like you're both at different stages in your life, it can still work. Sometimes it could, sometimes it can't. My boyfriend and I are 10, almost 11 years apart and we make it work.

[NewJeffCT]

20. When I was in my early to mid 30s

college-aged women seemed to find me a lot more interesting than when I was in my early to mid 20s. It was bizarre almost, but I didn't have any problems with it and they didn't either.

So, I say go for it.

[Schema Thing]

21. My parents had a 28 year difference

I'm not saying I recommend that, but it sure worked out well for me :)

[Number23]

39. Wow!

My parents had a 28 year difference

Unless that's a typo, that's mindblowing!!

[MissMillie]

22. It all depends on where you both are in your lives and

what you each want from a relationship.

[DarkTirade]

24. I'd be hesitant, but that's just 'cause I've had a few bad experiences with younger women.

Although that was all between the ages of 17-22ish, and people tend to have a pretty big quantum shift between the ages of 23 and 25. So who knows? :)

[littlebit]

25. Go for it

Girlfriend and I are almost nine years apart and about 70 points apart when it comes to IQ. She is really intelligent and I am just a big dumb trucker. It's worked out great for most of the nine years we have been together.

[1]

26. my personal philosophy is this...

paraphrasing from a seinfeld ep:

"if there's a woman that can take my presence for more than ten consecutive seconds, i should hang on to her like grim death... which is not far off by the way."

:rofl:

but that's just me...

[NJmaverick]

28. Age is just a number and shouldn't factor into the equation

[Sultana]

29. Nope,

My boyfriend is 34 and I am 22, no biggie. ;)

[NNadir]

30. I have been married 24 years to a woman 11 years younger than I am.

It has been pure heaven.

The age difference is nothing.

[Fox Mulder]

31. Why ask us?

Do what makes you happy. :)

[SarahB]

32. Not an issue at all in my opinion. Go for it! nt

[old mark]

33. There is a 9 year difference between my wife and me.

and we are going on 16 years of marriage, so, what the hell.

Do you get along, have a great time with each other, all that good stuff?

That is more important than the year you were born.

mark

[Darth Lenore]

34. Nope! Age only matters because...

...it's usually so closely tied to maturity. Once basic physical and mental development is out of the way, of course. Most of the time, people need to be knocked around by life and get out there and do and see things for them to mature. If someone's already sure of themself and is solid in their own life at a young age, then that's just who they are and they can compliment and connect with someone older than them in a relationship.

If you're both adults and you really connect on a mental and emotional level, then I wouldn't worry about the age thing. When I was 23, I started dating a 40 year old and we would still be together today if it weren't for geography (2 years of living in separate time zones with no end in sight did us in).

Best of luck to you both!

[Pushed To The Left]

35. That's up to the people in the relationship and nobody else. I was in a relationship with a

22-year-old woman when I was 34. On the other hand, I started a relationship with a 32-year-old woman when I was 23.

[elshiva]

36. I'm 26 and I think that is fine.

:) If she wants you, go for it.

:yourock:


buffy/

[Skittles]

37. OK Droopy?

you're way, WAY too concerned about the "intellectual" stuff - just be yourself. And at 35 and 24 you're adults and that's for you both to decide (if the age difference is too much) after you've known each other for a while. Lighten up and go with the flow!

[elshiva]

38. Yes, they are both definitely adults, but

I do like the fact that she's in college. I love a woman with ambition. :)

buffy/

[Skittles]

40. ?

I never went to college and I don't consider myself a shiftless bum :)

[elshiva]

41. Oh, no. Skittles. I did not mean that....

I don't know what exactly I meant there, sorry. You are awesome, Skittles. I did not mean to insult people who never went to college. I just should have said that was interesting information about her or something. It's interesting to know what she does.... sorry :(

Please don't kick my ass... :hide:

buffy/

[Skittles]

42. actually, I know what you meant

hence, the smiley face :D

[elshiva]

43. Thank goodness.

I did not want to come off as an elitist. Going to college does not make you better or worse than other people. It certainly is not a guarantee that you are smarter than other folks as we see with numerous politicians, Dubya being the most infamous.

:hug: :yourock:


buffy/

[Skittles]

44. you got that right!

my grandparents were such smart people but they never even went to high school :)

[elshiva]

45. Yes, I think my dad was the first to graduate from

college in his family. My grandparents are so smart. :)


buffy/

[Skittles]

46. Droopy is very smart too but I swear he does not seem to know it

let's kick his ass!!!

[zanne]

47. Droopy, after the "discussions" we've had on DU, I can honestly say...

You are definitely smart enough to have a meaningful relationship with her. The age difference is no big deal. Best of luck, spoony!

[FedUpWithIt All]

48. I am 36 this month and am in a serious relationship with a 23 yr old.

I am of the opinion that a good relationship is valuable. If two people get along, stimulate each other, enjoy each other's company and have more fun experiencing life together than they would alone...age should be irrelevant. The other things are just much more important.

I would rather be with someone who is a different age but matches me on an emotional and mental level than someone who is my age that i cannot relate to.

Enjoy your time together and focus on the things you DO have in common.

:hi:

[WinkyDink]

49. My husband of 35 years is 9 years older than I am.

[NC_Nurse]

50. That's exactly the age difference between me and my husband.

We've been together for 13 years and counting. He's the younger one, BTW. :D