also.....as I was in the hospital for a few weeks.....I missed two DBT groups, I then missed one because my masshealth ride never showed......out of my control......missed last week, because I went on vaca ( which sucked) but I had told her about that absence months ago.....I am now on probation, must do extra work and write an apology to the DBT group for my absensee.......If I don't they won't treat me at all.....I was told when I joined DBT I could quit at anytime......when I tried to quit they told me they would not treat me at all if I didn't partake......
6. funny last time I checked, I am pretty sure I was real
Message boards are a wonderful medium where you can converse with like minded individuals. In real life you are pretty much limited to those in a certain geographic region that you meet by chance. While with DU you get to pick and choose the people you converse with. Maybe you ought to tell her the internets is more than just a series of tubes. In fact many real life friendships and even marriages have resulted from people interacting on DU.
41. At the risk of sounding like a therapist, how do you feel about that?
I guess if DU causes you a lot of stress or otherwise impedes with your life maybe your therapist has a point. But she's wrong that we're not real. I'm not a poster child for impeccable mental health but I think DU actually makes me healthier and happier because it reaffirms that there are other people who share my values.
If DU really is bad for you then maybe you should leave because your well being is the most important thing but I certainly hope that we're not bad for you and that we can provide a special ray of sunshine in your life the same way you contribute to that ray of sunshine for so many of us.
I explained that *DU* does not making me angry. Stupid people make me angry, and I refuse to sit here in my chair in my apartment and ignore that stupid people are running this country.
"You should work on yourself a little more."
What does that even mean?
Screw the therapist (not literally).
I get "pissed" a lot when I'm reading DU, and I get into it with people who pull my triggers, but they are real people with real concerns, and they represent the real world. If it weren't for DU, I'd either be willfully ignorant or just pent up with an ill-defined rage and no outlet.
21. Years ago, I had a therp who encouraged me to read and post on
the newsgroup alt.support.depression. In time, I came to think that that particular group wasn't healthy for me (when a person miscarried and blamed it on an argument between her, me, and another poster). Not long after that, I quit my therapist. I came to think of him as nothing more than a glorified phone psychic. Every time my depression lifted, he'd find some new "issue" to "confront" which would send me back into a funk. I began to see a pattern.
Just don't get caught up into thinking your therp is omniscient. Some of 'em are crazier than any client to ever darken their door. Not all of 'em, but caveat emptor.
28. I think compared to therapy, a db has very limited therapeutic potential
Not zero therapeutic potential, but limited.
OTOH, a db's ability to harm a person who is using them to subconsciously reinforce or avoid confronting harmful thoughts and habits is almost unlimited. I have no idea if the OP does that or not, so my comments are generic.
29. I know therapists with very limited therapeutic potential.
Edited on Sat Aug-23-08 05:46 PM by mycritters2
Hell, I know a therapist or two with zero therapeutic potential. And don't kid yourself--therapy can be a great way to subconsciously reinforce or avoid confronting harmful thoughts and habits. I know therapists I wouldn't refer my coffee table to.
32. Isn't dbt supposed to be time-limited? Most cognitive therapies aren't
Edited on Sat Aug-23-08 05:59 PM by mycritters2
supposed to go on forever like psychoanalysis. This sounds like they want to keep treating you in a more open-ended way than I thought dbt was supposed to. Maybe I'm mistaken, but that was my understanding. And they're unhappy about two sessions you missed because you were hospitalized?!!
40. borderline personality disorder is very resistant to treatment, methinks
i know nothing abt this particular therapy but i was close to someone w. this DX and it is very very challenging
i would at least give the therapist's advice a try before just giving up and saying "to heck w. it she's an idiot who doesn't know what she's doing" -- my belief is that almost anyone w/ this DX at some pt would come to the same conclusion abt almost any therapist no matter how good
my two cents and maybe only worth what you paid for it!
The therapist I had to see (in order for the ins company to okay psych med rx) was CONVINCED I lived my life through thrill seeking and that was my problem. Completely ignoring the fact that I was a manager of a fucking video store (Hollywood) and got robbed at gunpoint 3 times. I sought out the excitement of working there at night not because I went to school during the day, but because I liked the thrill of it.
She was a patchouli stinkin' airhead with NO clue about what she was talking about.
48. You're lucky you're in a DBT program. Waiting lists are long in my state.
You were probably told when you entered into DBT that the process is rigorous, challenging and has rules about missing groups. All of the current research indicates that this form of therapy is quite affective in treatment of the individuals who have the symptoms that have lead to the diagnosis of BPD. You also already know that many with this diagnosis are highly resistant and oppositional to treatment especially when it gets tough. Ultimately it's your choice but you'll never really know if what you can learn through putting the work into your DBT will make your life more manageable unless you follow your treatment plan.
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