My husband hasn't spoken to me for 24 hours because I told him to "get your own damn popcorn"

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

That's all jacked up!

[CaliforniaPeggy]

1. My dear DTBK!

Good for you!

And I suspect this is just the tip of the iceberg...

Your problems are way deeper than popcorn, sweetie...

I'm sorry...

:hug:

[SPKrazy]

2. Stubborn much is he

:popcorn:

I got mine

:D

[Fran Kubelik]

3. Well shit. That's out of line.

He needs to get over it. :nuke:

[DeepBlueC]

4. you deserve a break today

enjoy it

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

5. I think he's still miffed because I chose not to return to work after my LOA

Even though I would have been laid off anyway. We've discussed it a lot and I thought we had agreed that I wouldn't try to get another job until we move out of Texas. He knows I'm miserable here - please don't make me even more miserable!

[begin_within]

6. And your problem is?

[Haole Girl]

7. I was yelled at for crying tonight

Not to top your story or anything. He has since apologized. Good luck. :hug:

[Redstone]

15. No. Just fucking NO. And not because you're my friend; that's just

wrong. A real man does NOT do that to a woman.

Other opinions may vary, but that one's mine.

Redstone

[Haole Girl]

43. Oh, he knows how wrong he was

It wasn't a good night, I'll say that. I shouldn't have aired my dirty laundry. Sorry about that.
We've worked it out. I think he knows that is one thing I will not tolerate. I really couldn't help it at the time & I think I was scaring him a little & he just didn't handle it well. It's ok.. really. :hug:

[DFW]

8. I don't know what I'd do if my wife told me, "get your own damn popcorn."

First of all, we both hate popcorn, and second, in our 34 years together, we have never
spoken English to each other (we speak German at home). If I ever heard anything like that
from her, I'd turn around, looking to see who else was in the room.

[zanne]

44. Does she ordinarily "fetch" for you? nt

[ismnotwasm]

9. Reminds me of an old Ranier beer commercial

"Another spot I remember fondly was a Rainier Light take-off mocking some other beer company's reliance on athletes as spokesmen. Ours showed a cute housewife opening a Rainier Light for herself while cheerfully telling the camera how much she likes all those burly guys advocating Light beers; but as she says, "You don't have to be macho to enjoy Rainier Light..."

Just then, her off-screen husband yells rudely, "Hey, Marlene, get me another beer!" And she explodes back at him, "GET IT YOURSELF, BOB!" (Viewing the footage in slow motion, we amused ourselves marveling at how angry and distorted and reddened her face was for a slowed-down second.) Then immediately she is calm again, addressing the camera to finish her interrupted thought: "Sometimes it does help, though."

From someone's blog;
http://mrebks.blogspot.com/2007/07/rainier-beer-television-ads.html

Seriously that sucks. Maybe you should make him some popcorn balls.

[DeposeTheBoyKing]

11. I offered him kettle corn, but that wouldn't do

Sigh.

[bluesbassman]

10. You should have not only got it for him,

you should have pulled all the hsks off with tweezers so they wouldn't get stuck in his teeth and got him a beer. Sheesh, what's up with women these days?:sarcasm:

Really, 24hrs is a bit much for popcorn, but maybe he just had a bad day?:shrug:

[Redstone]

12. I must not be an American Male. I simply cannot ask Mrs R, even if she's in the kitchen,

"Hey, honey, can you bring me a beer?"

I just CAN'T ask my wife (or my kids) to do anything that could even remotely be construed as "serving" me.

I'll get up off the damn couch and get my own goddamn beer.

Does that mean there's something wrong with me?

Redstone

[KitchenWitch]

13. Not at all Redstone!

Nothing wrong with you.

[MonkeyFunk]

17. My father used to call from downstairs

for one of us to come change the channel. That was before remotes.

[Connonym]

26. My dad did that too

we laugh about it now. I figure he worked his ass off for years supporting 5 kids and going to college and then coming home to do all the outside work on the house. I suppose he deserved a little bit of pampering.

At my house it's perfectly acceptable to ask someone to bring you something from the kitchen if they're going in there, in fact most of the time we ask if anyone needs a drink or whatnot before we go into the kitchen. It works for us and I don't think anyone is put out by it.

[zanne]

45. OMG!

That's all I can say; OH MY GOD!

[ismnotwasm]

18. 'Course not

My husband has MS, sometimes he CAN'T get off the couch. I have to talk him into bringing him a glass a milk or whatever once in a while for the same reason--he can't stand the thought of being served as an expectation.

[Redstone]

21. You're in the same place as Mrs R is.

I have the same problem as your husband does, plus a few more.

Please tell him that I salute him for being as stubborn as I am, and that I remind him that he has a wonderful wife, just in case he doesn't already know that (though I suspect he does).

Redstone

[ismnotwasm]

22. Stubborn is good

Works miracles when they're in short supply.

My husband and I have a mutual admiration society going. It's funny after all this time, we still hold hands. Sometimes it's to help him with his balance. But not always, not at all.

MS takes a back seat to what we have together. All the best to you and your wife as well-- it's amazing what a little love and tenderness accomplishes.

[Redstone]

27. Well, didn't THAT warm my old, hardened heart. Thank you for this:

"It's funny after all this time, we still hold hands. Sometimes it's to help him with his balance. But not always, not at all."

I'm not sure I've ever seen more touching words on DU, or anywhere else.

And not just because I can, myself, identify with the meaning of those words.

No, not just because of that. Just because those word are a pure, unalloyed expression and explanation of what the nature of true love is, that it makes me ashamed to call myself a writer, because I'd never have been able to express the concept of love in such a lyrical way that you did with that one sentence.

I stand in awe. I kid you not.

Redstone

[reyd reid reed]

25. Nope. Nothing wrong with you at all.

That's called respect.

When my oldest was still a baby, I swore I'd never ask him to bring me something that I wouldn't allow him to have. I've done my level best to stick to that.

[Care]

34. You Don't Sound Like An American Male

You sound like a progressive-American male. That's the way we like them. Except for the cuss words. We don't like them.

[KitchenWitch]

39. Quite frankly, I do not mind cuss words.

[petronius]

14. What a coincidence - my wife was making me a bowl of popcorn when I opened

this thread. For good reason, however - I'm lying on the couch watching The Office... :)

Sorry your husband is such a git.

[Redstone]

16. A "git." That's one of those perfect Englishisms I like so much.

(No sarcasm whatsoever here.)

Redstone

[petronius]

29. It is a good word, isn't it? Seems to fill an otherwise yawning gap in the insult spectrum... (nt)

[KitchenWitch]

19. OKEE DOKEE!

:rofl:

[backwoodsbob]

20. hey honey..get me a beer and we can talk

good for you

[Lex]

23. Wow, what a Princess.

yikes

[KitchenWitch]

24. I am sorry

That sucks.

[MrSlayer]

28. How rude of you.

Why couldn't you get the guy some popcorn? Did he do something to deserve this?

[WinkyDink]

30. My husband would never win this silent treatment battle. And he could BUY his own popcorn

henceforth, as somehow the stores I would shop in just "wouldn't" have it.

[leeroysphitz]

31. Fair enough. N/T

[Cant trust em]

32. Married people crack me up.

I love hearing your stories.

[Name removed]

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[Care]

33. He Should Get His Own Popcorn

You shouldn't have said "damn" to him. That was your mistake. I'm sorry that happened. :(

[Rhythm]

36. That's just petulent... a grown person should not act that way.

Your husband needs to grow up... seriously.

[TroglodyteScholar]

37. I never really had a problem with doing things for my ex-...

...but looking back, I'm a bit puzzled by how often she would ask me to do something for her just for the sake of having someone else do it. I think she learned that from her dad. I was so wild about her, I'd just go ahead and satisfy her every whim.

That shit won't happen again :D

[callous taoboy]

38. I live alone and am getting damned sick of me not doing more for myself.

[Arugula Latte]

40. Don't speak to yourself for 24 hours.

That'll show you. :)

[zanne]

46. My husband gives me the silent treatment sometimes, too.

After 28 years it's no longer effective because I've learned to use that time to catch up on my eamils and phone calls.

[callous taoboy]

50. Funny you should recommend that:

I have been living alone, in a tiny conservative town with no friends whom I can relate to (talk to) and over the last 5 or 6 years I have developed the very bad habit of talking to myself. I've only done this at home and lately, after adjusting several other bad habits, I've finally decided that I have to quit doing this. It is nutty behavior and, I think, really unhealthy.

So I've set up a "talk to self jar." Each time I say anything out loud I plink a dime into the jar. I will, after a given amount of time, add this money to my usual donation to of $20 per month to the local SPCA. I know you're usually supposed to donate money from the "swear jar" to a charity you despise, but I just can't do this.

Yes, this habit breaker is working fine.

[Arugula Latte]

51. Aww.

Maybe you can get a pet? That way, when you talk to it, you're not crazy, just being companionable (is that a word?)

[callous taoboy]

53. Pet not feasible at this point. Sure miss my old cat, though.

[Fran Kubelik]

41. Is he talking to you now?

[skooooo]

42. Sounds like really immature behavior....nt

I'd enjoy the peace and quiet.

[CC]

47. My husband tried that silent treatment

stuff once in a while in the early years of our marriage. Kind of fails pretty badly when the other person has to be told they are getting the silent treatment, then laughs when they are informed and says no wonder I had so much time to get what I wanted done finished. I usually then ask if he could keep it going for a few more days as the peace and quiet was nice. If one or the other are up and in the kitchen we will ask if the other needs something but if he were to direct me to get something for him for what ever reason it would be met with an unbelieving look, questions of if his legs and arms are broken and laughter.

[Redstone]

48. DING DING DING! You win the prize, because you've discovered the Big Secret,

which I've used for many, many years. You may not know how to express the Big Secret in words, even though you clearly know it, so I'll spell it out for you:

Nothing frustrates someone more than, when they want to have a fight with you, you refuse to give them one.

Works like a charm, and every single time.

Redstone

[CC]

49. That is so true and well known here.

I always refuse to argue with someone that loses their temper. His used to be bad but a couple years of me telling him he lost when he lost his temper and walking away nipped that in the bud. The most I ever added was we would discuss it when he came back to adulthood and left the 2 year old temper tantrum behind.

[callous taoboy]

54. Tough marital love. I like it. n/t

[Midlodemocrat]

52. I think I'm missing some backstory here.

[SarahB]

59. My thoughts as well. nt

[BlueIris]

55. You're kidding, right? If you're not...

what is he, 12 years old?

[NewJeffCT]

56. Hmm, I think if I asked my wife to get popcorn, or anything similar,

she would know I was probably pretty sick or something, because I almost never do things like that.

[SarahB]

57. A little kindness goes a long way (for both).

If my husband asked me to get something for him and I was otherwise busy, I'd say, "Sorry, I can't right now." That would be it. He does things for me. I do things for him. I think people need to remember to treat the person they love with kindness and tenderness. If there's a continual pattern of misogyny and demanding behavior on his part, I can understand where you'd be ticked off and respond as such. However, if he's an otherwise nice partner and you responded like this, I can understand why he'd be ticked off. Seems like lots of stuff is left out here and the two of you need to better open up the lines of communication and say what's really on your mind- together!

[timtom]

58. Sounds like you got some boyking deposing to do right there.

I've never asked a woman to go get me anything.

[Gormy Cuss]

60. Well THAT's annoying.

I hope that he's talking to you again.