My kitteh is 24 weeks old...he still hardly lets us hold him or pet him

[greenbriar]

he hisses at any company we have

we like that he has spirit, but we would love to have him sit on our laps and let us pet him with out him bitting us all the time


will this ever stop?

[Seedersandleechers]

1. I have a cat that was like that.

I just left her to herself and didn't mess with her. I fed her quality food, gave her a warm and comfortable home, and a clean litter box. After awhile she came around and graced me with her presence by lying on my lap. All cats have different moods. Give her/him some time and space. Also, my BF is loud and that bothers her. I've seen her come out from under the bed and attack him. She also hisses at him.

[greenbriar]

2. he wants to either lick me or bite me

he doesn't like to be held


but right now he is sitting beside me on the couch...I am trying to pet him and he just wants to lick then bite

[Seedersandleechers]

3. Geesh

My BF is kinda like that too.

[Fredda Weinberg]

4. Well, if you're female, it sounds like he's being ... you know ... male n/t

[Wcross]

5. Give him time.

You have to make him want you to pet him. Ignore him for a while & he will come around.

[stuntcat]

6. he's a good little guy :( and sometimes bites are for love I think!

We have a cat who's always been sketchy, he's 8 or 9 years old and he still acts like we could turn on him at any moment. I love him but I'm sorry for him, he's got nerve problems.
I have NO idea what makes some cats crazy though. I raised my cat Milla from the time she was born until she had a heart attack. She had the easiest life but she never relaxed :cry:

I bet your kitteh will chill out some, once he grows older. He could learn more all the time that you're just helping him, not keeping him prisoner or something.

[greenbriar]

10. when I come home from work, he follows me to every room I go to

like he wants to be with me


I bend down to pick him up, bitey bitey bite...

then licky licky lick


I just want to pet him and hug him

[Mrs.Matcom]

7. He's still a baby

he'll come around. I take it he hasn't been neutered yet? that may change things too. One of my girls was like that for almost two years, now she won't leave us alone at night. Wants to sit on you, and if you ignore her she pets you! She is a love bug now! :hug:

[greenbriar]

8. he was neutered about a month ago

his butt fur is finally back and he doesn't look strange anymore

[sasquatch]

13. Is that the one matcom wants to throw out of the house for waking him up at night?

:D

[applegrove]

9. Make a loud OUCH noise when he bites your hands. That way it will be no

fun for him. Seriously now is the only time you'll have to keep him from turning into a biter.

[siligut]

14. I agree, make a hurt noise and act hurt.

Your little one will respond after time. Good luck, a lap cat is a beautiful thing.

[Boudica the Lyoness]

11. You have to break their spirit

Oh yes! I tried to break our Andy's spirit last week and I still have a scab on my nose. I went eye ball to eye ball with him in an attempt to show him who's boss. Andy's still boss.

[LynneSin]

12. Not all cats are meant to be lapcats

He'll get there. If I could tame a 3 year-old feral cat to let me pet her anything is possible. I think with cats you have to let them do this on their terms - not yours. Evita will allow me to pet her as long as I don't try to hold her, force her on my lap or use more than 1 hand at a time. My rewards for following her rules is the loudest purr I have EVER heard from a cat

[LSK]

15. sounds like my sisters cat

Her husband could hold him and pet him and he loves it. Anyone else always got a quick claw swipe.

Once they went on vacation for 4 weeks and by the end of the 4 weeks he treated me like my brother in law. The day they came back, that ended.

The cat just got old and now just hides and sleeps all the time.

[hyphenate]

16. A few things

First, I want to say that most cats will come out of that kind of a snit, but others won't. There is a trait that some cats just don't do "affectionate" as we hope they would. My babygirl Jessica was never one to be pattable or affectionate--when we went past a certain tolerance level with her, she would retaliate by striking at us or biting. You might be able to google it, but i can't recall what the condition is supposed to be.

Another thing, my sister and her ex husband had a cat that they incessantly teased and had mock fights with. The kitten grew up with the mistaken impression that it was okay to bite, scratch or otherwise play rough. Once he was a bit older, this had stuck, and there was no way to change his nature. If you know the people who you adopted the kitten from, see if they did this, and if they did, there are often few ways of changing the personality completely. One thing you might try is letting them take the initiative and coming to you and if you pat them and they start scratching or biting, you would need to back off and leave them alone until they approach you again. Seeing that they aren't going to be able to pull your strings might help them to develop new traits.

Another thing, if an animal has feral roots, some of this behavior can be attributable to instinct. Two of my kits were from a feral father and partially feral mother, and were still "wild" in personality. Even though they were beloved housecats, they never came home when they managed to escape from the house. Looked for them for a long time, but deep inside I knew I would never see either of them again. One was almost 10, and his sister was 10 1/2 when she got out. So instinctual behavior can account for some of that "angry" behavior.

Regardless, cats are more sociable than most people give them credit for, and you might be surprised that the kit will eventually come to you for company. You just have to give them the sense that you're there for them when they need you.

Another thing you might try: if you're having just a couple of people visiting and it's a low level of noise, you can try keeping them from running and hiding, and kind of force them to be around the guests for a little while, at least. The most mellow cats usually have a lot of noise at home--I call it shell-shock, but it's true that those least fazed by kids, dogs, noise, etc. do tend to be able to stand more. My own were raised without a lot of noise, and often ran away from anyone other than myself. In essence, they were not as tame because their living conditions were quieter, and they never had the opportunity to become more laid-back.

Good luck--hope kit finds you way too cuddly to ignore soon!

[BrotherBuzz]

17. Juliano was the boss and was never picked up

He was my childhood cat and he lived to about fourteen, or so. He was social and would watch us and follow us around to some extent, but he had an inviable line that you never crossed. He did not enjoy being picked up, patted, or rubbed in any way. That was just the way he was. He was a super mouser ratter and that occupied most of his time, that, and sleeping on a fence corner with one eye barely open.

[trackfan]

18. Ours will be 10yo in June and he's still the same way.

He will get on a lap occasionally, but will never settle down.