So hypothetically if i told my lady, i may not get her a gift, to prevent her from spending money on

[La Lioness Priyanka]

me, but i do anyway.

is that ok?

[IndianaJones]

1. no. nt.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. well i'll tell her i got her somethign

[IndianaJones]

3. just come clean...if not, you'll end up selling your hair and she will end up selling her watch. nt.

[La Lioness Priyanka]

4. oh no!!!!

[Gormy Cuss]

9. Nice post, O. Henry. n/t

[datasuspect]

5. why don't you both donate to the human fund in my name.

kthxbai

[La Lioness Priyanka]

8. she is a selfish american and i am a american job stealing indian

so we dont do these donation things.

[datasuspect]

10. what do you want for christmas?

[Gormy Cuss]

6. No, no, no.

She'd have a good reason to be annoyed and you don't want that, do you?

[La Lioness Priyanka]

7. no, you guys are right.

[ThomCat]

11. No.

I can understand that you might not want her to spend money on you. But if you then spend money on her she's going to feel like a mooch. It makes the relationship unequal in a way.

If you're buying a gift, then you have to let her do it too. If you don't want her to spend money, then you can't either.

How about, you both decide that instead of exchanging gifts you'll pool some money and buy something for both of you? :)

[La Lioness Priyanka]

12. i already got her something.

[ThomCat]

13. Then you should let her know, because she'll

want to get you something too.

I understand that there might be an income difference, and you don't want her to stress her finances. That really can't be helped. :(

[La Lioness Priyanka]

14. ok. i called her and told her something i want.

[MazeRat7]

15. Always get your lady a gift at Christmas

And her birthday, and Valentines day, and the anniversary of the day you met, married, got engaged, had a first date, first sex or whatever.... At a minimum. Surprise gifts are also required for no particular reason. Just because you love her.

What are you thinking here ?

Get her something nice, my personal recommendation is a gift certificate for a local luxury spa.

MZr7

[La Lioness Priyanka]

21. she is not a spa girl but thanks :)

[MazeRat7]

22. all girls are "spa" girls.. they may just not know it yet. :) -nt

[La Lioness Priyanka]

23. not if they are highly ticklish and dont really like girly things. nt

[IronLionZion]

16. That's fine. It's sort of what I'm doing.

I politely but firmly asked my girlfriend not to BUY me anything. I suspect she's going to make me something...or just give me some passionate quality time that will rock my world. She's an amazing woman.

I'm still going to get her a bunch of clothes...because she needs it and I want her to have some nice new clothes to wear when we go out. I want to wait for the after Christmas sales but I think that may be tacky.

America depends on consumption. All our holidays are consumerized and commercialized for only one purpose, for us to spend lots of money. Fuck...this...shit. I'm giving my parents donations to charity in their names and have politely asked for no one to BUY me anything.

[AllegroRondo]

17. No. Tell her to buy you some jewelry.

you need lots of jewelry. :)

[hisownpetard]

18. NO! She'd feel like a low-life if you buy her something, tell her you didn't, and then

she believes you and doesn't buy you anything.
UGH! Terrible scenario, despite your good intentions.
How about discussing the situation and setting a limit on the amount you'll each spend on each other?

[AspenRose]

19. I told my husband I didn't want us to exchange gifts this year.

So he went out and got me a present anyway....and told me so.

I felt I had no choice but to go and get him something too....and I was rather disappointed he did not honor my request. Not because I didn't want to go shopping for him, but because I was hoping we could cut back on spending and focus on the spirit of the season, not on the material stuff.

[BOSSHOG]

20. My wife and I have told each other for years that we would not exchange gifts

then a whole bunch of wrapped gifts come out of closets and hidey holes all over the house on Christmas Morning addressed to each other from Santa Claus. Amazing how that works.

[Mutley]

24. No.

She should be allowed the joy of giving you a gift as well. :hi:

[Fleshdancer]

25. no, but the two of you could agree on a spending limit

:shrug: