Some advice for ladies who want to get a guy's attention...

[Solon]

This could be satirical or not, but I figure this is good advice, with two threads I've seen in two days about this issue, I figured I could perform what amounts to a "public service announcement" about guys in general.

First thing you have to realize is that guys are dumb, clueless, and cowards, this is again in general, and since I'm a guy myself, I can insult "our side" all I want.

Knowing this, how do you get the proper attention from a guy? Actually its both easy and hard, it depends on the guy and on you, but one thing to realize is that if you "drop hints" they are most likely too subtle for him to notice. Even then, if he does notice the hints, you may end up confusing him.

The best approach is to be direct, you can do this in several ways, but the best thing to do is to make it unquestionable that you want to go out with him as a date, rather than a friend. This is important especially when you already are friends with him.

Guys have to be bashed over the head with a cluestick in order to actually get that you like them that way. I can give an example with my own experience. I was always shy, and back in high school, Sophomore year, a cheerleader was paying attention to me. I was on cloud nine, but still unsure that she actually wanted to go out with me. Yeah, I was stupid then, after several months of this, when I was sitting in the lunchroom one day, she actually sat down next to me, grabbed my hand, and shoved a piece of paper in my hand with her phone number on it, and then she just left. That was a big motherfucking clue, so I called her, we went out after that.

Guys like directness, we are actually quite simple in this way. Actually, there is one last thing, for the guys, women like directness too. There is always the risk of rejection, there is no getting around that, but life is too damned short to avoid having fun and obtaining happiness.

[rockymountaindem]

1. Good advice

since I'm one of those clueless guys you speak of

[Solon]

2. So am I, and I had to be beaten over the head with that cluestick more than once...

I've been asked out by women several times over the years, simply because I couldn't take the hint.

[jeff30997]

3. "its both easy and hard"

Well I'm both too, but were are all those cheerleaders so eager to shove their phone numbers in my

hand ? Oh.Maybe getting out of my apartment once in a while could help ?

[Solon]

4. Yeah, leaving the apartment will help...

I'm not saying for you to go clubbing or anything, but just go out and co-mingle with the opposite sex once in a while. Could be at the library, coffee shops, or any other place you can think of.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

5. I couldn't get a guy's attention if I whacked him across the forehead with a tire iron.

The other requirement for male attention besides being direct is being young and cute, which I am neither. I'm sure if I asked some guy for a date (after he stopped going, "Huh? Did somebody say something?"), the response would be either (1) "Uhhhhh... ya know, I think I'll be in Tibet that evening... not sure when I'll be back... but, uh, thanks for asking." or (2) "Are you fuckin' serious?"

[alarimer]

7. I am starting to feel a little invisible myself

Very, very few responses on dating sites. Naked photos might help but they are not usually allowed.

[The Velveteen Ocelot]

8. Naked photos would eliminate any minuscule chance of a reponse

I might otherwise have.

[alarimer]

9. I don't know

Most aren't that picky. I was only kidding anyway. I maybe cheap but I am not easy. Oh, wait, maybe I am. LOL

[lizziegrace]

6. If you're younger and cute...

middle-aged and average, no. I've followed this advice and have managed to embarass myself on a couple of occasions now. Won't make that mistake ever again because I won't do it ever again.

[LostInAnomie]

10. Directness is the key.

We aren't much for subtlety.

A female friend of mine once asked me how she could get a certain guy's attention. I told her that the easiest way would be to walk up to him, say "Hi, my name is...", then ask if he would want to do something sometime.

That's all that really needs to be done. It would save a lot of anxiety and trepidation if every woman would just do that.

[Solon]

11. I think many women are under the false impression that guys don't like...

to be asked out on dates. Its true that some don't like to be asked out, but, from my experience with my friends and myself, well, we guys usually jump at the chance when women ask us out on dates. Hell, in many cases, its a relief of sorts.

[LostInAnomie]

12. Indeed

It takes a lot of pressure off of us and saves time in finding out if the woman is really "interested".

[Lydia Leftcoast]

15. That may be a generational thing

As a fiftyish type, I still have long-ago but still painful memories of being shot down in very rude terms because I made the first move, the implication being that I must be desperate to do so.

[Ivan Sputnik]

13. The way I realized that my first real girlfriend liked me

is that she told a friend of mine that she was interested in me "that way". And he told me. So that's a way to be both direct and indirect at the same time, I guess. Anyway, it worked.

[DarkTirade]

14. That, and nudity always helps.

Just my two cents.