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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 02:55 AM
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Just found out a friend of mine was in a serious car wreck....
Edited on Sat Nov-17-07 02:56 AM by Wetzelbill
We used to rodeo together, he came from a traumatic family background, and as a result my family became a family to him. He has always been like another brother. A few nights ago he was in a car wreck and was paralyzed from the neck down. His condition has gotten worse and he's in pretty tough shape right now, it doesn't look too good.

The thing is though, I've expected something like this for a long time. He lived a life of chaos. He had some demons from his childhood, losing his family at an early age and being raised by a sister and brother-in-law who didn't treat him all that well sometimes. Most of the time he was a great guy, but when he'd drink, totally change. Do foolish and dangerous things. In the back of my mind, I have always known he'd go on a binge and jump behind the wheel of a car. I just knew it, and that's what happened. It doesn't make it any easier to deal with though.

I always imagined that one day I would get older, and I would kick back and reflect on life with my friends. People like him. That we could talk about how much fun we used to have and all that we accomplished in life. Now it won't ever happen, even if he lives, it won't be like I imagined. And I find myself torn. I feel bad, because I almost wish he would pass away. That a young man (31, I think) who was as physically active as he has always been, shouldn't have to live life in a wheelchair, without any movement of his limbs, without control of his body and it's functions. That a man who was successful with women, will never be able to hold one again. I can't think of him living like that. But yet, I don't want to think of him leaving this world forever.

In many ways, I thought of him as a soul in torment. Life wasn't easy for him in many respects. His background. His battles with alcohol. He always seemed to harbor a type of pain that none of the rest of us knew. And here I am on the other side of the country, we haven't seen each other in years, and only spoke on the phone a few times, I'm wondering, waiting, and hoping to hear something that will tell me it will be alright. That all of this is just a dream. That tomorrow I will wake up and he'll be ok.

We'll all be ok.

But that's not going to happen.

And right now, all I have are thoughts.

Thoughts, hopes, prayers, memories and regrets.

Some of those I'll send his way.

While the others I'll tuck deep down inside of me, and hope they never see the light of day again.
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Lyric Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 03:06 AM
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1. I'm so sorry Wetzelbill...
Please accept my good thoughts and well-wishes to you and to your friend.

:hug:
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Wetzelbill Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 03:12 AM
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2. thank you very much
:)
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Ptah Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 03:14 AM
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3. .


and

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tainted_chimp Donating Member (637 posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 03:29 AM
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4. It's mind-blowing to realize
how everything can change in an instant..

I'm so sorry to hear about your friend.

Such a tragedy.
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Syrinx Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 03:50 AM
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5. I'm sorry...
Edited on Sat Nov-17-07 03:51 AM by Syrinx
My best friend ever was killed in a car wreck twenty something years ago... though he lived on in a vegetative state for some years. I miss him. And this Rush song came out right about then.

Suddenly, you were gone
From all the lives you left your mark upon

I remember
How we talked and drank into the misty dawn
I hear the voices

We ran by the water on the wet summer lawn
I see the footprints
I remember

I feel the way you would
I feel the way you would

Tried to believe but you know it's no good
This is something that just can't be understood

I remember
The shouts of joy skiing fast through the woods
I hear the echoes

I learned your love for life,
I feel the way that you would
I feel your presence
I remember

I feel the way you would
This just can't be understood...
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abq e streeter Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 04:07 AM
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6. Unfortunately I have nothing profound to say---
but know that I'm one more person that is saddened to hear this, and cares about you and your friend ...
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Richard Steele Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 04:14 AM
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7. Sorry to hear it, Wetzelbill.
I have nothing comforting to say, I'm afraid.
There ain't nothing comforting that applies
to times like this, in my experience.
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lost-in-nj Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 07:08 AM
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8. ....
:hug: :hug:

good thoughts to you.......
and your friend...

lost
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RetroLounge Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 08:03 AM
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9. So sorry to hear this
:hug:

Good vibes...

RL
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SPKrazy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 08:10 AM
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10. sorry this happened
:hug:

shit happens and happens and happens

keep your thoughts hopes prayers and memories

jump on opportunity that you won't regret

but keep going

:hi:
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CaliforniaPeggy Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 01:37 PM
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11. My dear Wetzelbill...
What a beautiful and poignant thread this is...

Your friend will most likely die...if he's lucky.

I wouldn't wish the sort of life he would have if he lived on anyone...

To go from being so active to not at all is just a misery!

But he will live in your memory...

And in the memories of all who knew him, and who loved him...

I am sorry, sweetie...

Thank you for your incredible tribute...

:hug:
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SeattleGirl Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 01:40 PM
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12. I'm so sorry.
:hug:

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Cabcere Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 02:04 PM
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13. I'm sorry to hear that, Wetzelbill.
:hug: I don't know what to say, but I'm sending thoughts/prayers/good vibes your way and his, and hoping things work out for the best - whatever that may be. :pals: :grouphug: :hug: Peace.
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GOPBasher Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Nov-17-07 02:10 PM
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14. So sorry to hear of your loss...
My sympathies to you and your friend.

Don't give up hope of your idealized conversations with him in old age -- stem cell research shows promise for this type of thing.
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