How do you tell if a guy likes you?

[XemaSab]

Especially, how do you tell if he likes you as a friend or as something more?

Thanks.

[quip]

1. Do you have a pulse?

We have a winner!

[Dr. Strange]

42. Or another alternative:

can you fog a mirror?

[MrCoffee]

2. if he's humping your leg, that's a good sign.

just hit him on the nose with a rolled up newspaper.

[redqueen]

3. Is that really the right question?

I think the better question is... how do you tell if he likes you as a friend that he'd have a cheap fling with, or does he like you as something more?

[MrCoffee]

5. what's so cheap about it?

huh?

[redqueen]

7. Well if it's a 'fuck buddy' type thing...

that's cheap.

[MrCoffee]

8. i just died on the inside a little.

[redqueen]

10. But why?

I'm sorry.

[quip]

16. You owe me a new monitor

[KitchenWitch]

20. As long as it is "fuck buddy" and not "pity fuck"

[Amerigo Vespucci]

25. I heard that P. Diddy is changing his name to Pity Fuck...

...of course, I get most of my information from sources that are "somewhat less than informed."

[Perseid]

4. eyeballs

he looks when he thinks you aren't paying attention

[XemaSab]

9. Shit! That happened!

For about 15 minutes (when he wasn't sitting right next to me) he sat across the room. I glanced over at him and caught him glancing over at me and we both looked away awkwardly.

[Capn Sunshine]

22. oh yeah. That's a great clue

But you're supposed to lick your lips or something.

[Oeditpus Rex]

6. He asks you to wave when you drive past his house

some 30 miles to the east.

[Fire Walk With Me]

11. He becomes more pathetic than usual. That, or he gives you a dick in the box...

...T-shirt.

[XemaSab]

18. But what if I'm more pathetic than usual

and chalk them being pathetic up to me being pathetic?

[Fire Walk With Me]

21. You might both be in lurb. Contratulations!

[Critters2]

12. He doesn't. Trust me.

Don't go getting my hopes up.

[Xipe Totec]

13. If he becomes incoherent and starts acting like an imbecile

he likes you.

If he can carry on a conversation with you without totally losing his composure, then he likes you as a friend.

[conscious evolution]

47. True words here

[ohiosmith]

14. Pulls your pigtails at recess, makes faces at you during class, calls you bad names when his buddies

are around.

[Parche]

15. I LIKE YOU

[XemaSab]

17. Aww, thanks!

[Heidi]

19. He gets a mutual friend to pass you a note. (nt)

[Capn Sunshine]

23. wait , wait I forgot

do YOU like HIM?

These days, it helps to tell him so.

[XemaSab]

24. It's more complicated than that

[Capn Sunshine]

27. only if you make it so

you impress me as a no-bullshit kind of woman. You could do this. Really. Uh-huh.

[Maraya1969]

33. You could ASK HIM.

Or have a friend ask him. Or just flirt with him a little and see what he does.

[conscious evolution]

48. More true words

[Ellen Forradalom]

26. He spends the whole dance

against the wall across the gym, horsing around with his buddies or staring at his shoes.

[Capn Sunshine]

28. that's so crushie

you forgot "he punches you in the arm in the hall between classes"

[Solon]

29. There are some tells that can make you tell...

First, is he clumsy when he is around you? That's a BIG tell, guys lose all coordination when they are around someone they really like. Another clue would be if he finds any excuse to hang out with you, or to see you, I'm not talking about creepy stuff like stalking you at home, but like, if you work in a public access place, like a store, he ends up being there almost every day. Other clues include being incoherent around you and not complimenting you when you think he should. I know that last one is weird, but if the guy isn't sure you like him the same way, he will avoid, at all costs, complimenting you, even though he wants to.

OK, those are some of the clues, others have already been mentioned.

Good luck! And a bit of advise, life is too short to torture yourself in this manner, if you like him "that way" then go for it. Guys LIKE directness, 9 times out of 10, remember, we guys are dumb, and any subtle hints you are dropping will either go unnoticed or will only confuse him.

[XemaSab]

30. What if it's like, an anti compliment?

Yesterday he said when I walked in the room I looked like a deer caught in the headlights.

Later, he was sitting across the room and I was checking my email and had just noticed that half of my recent saved emails were from him when he suddenly sat down next to me. I closed the computer rather suddenly, and he said I looked guilty.

[Solon]

31. Sounds like he's overcompensating...

Like I said, guys are dumb, so yeah, those types of things are clues about how he really feels. Not outright insults, but from what you say, he's downplaying his own feelings for you, probably to prevent himself from getting hurt, if you don't reciprocate. I figure that he has some feelings for you, but doesn't know how to properly express them, a sign of immaturity, but guys don't mature until they are about 75 years old or so. Anyways, I would suggest that you find a way to "clear the air" with him. If you are feeling uncomfortable around him, or are having a crush on him, then I suggest you be direct, just don't over do it, you may scare him away. Did I mention guys are cowards as well?

One thing you could do is ask him out on a date, a real date, not a "friends hanging out" thing, and see what he says. That will, at the very least, clear the air with him.

[billyskank]

32. If he can't keep his eyes off you, that's a sign.

If you hear from him a lot, more than you would expect from just a buddy, that is another.

Is it someone you like back?

[One_Life_To_Give]

34. Baggy pants make it hard to tell? nt

[MissMillie]

35. they all like you

until the next morning

[Shine]

36. It's not something you can find out by posting here

it's more of an intuitive, in-the-moment thing. If you really want to know, ask him out for lunch or coffee or something and see how the energy flows.

And hell, if you're really courageous, you could always be direct and ask him...or tell him what you feel.

Good luck!

[Inchworm]

37. Depends on the scene I'd say

Where do you see the guy? Surroundings matter.

You know, if you guys only see each other in church thats one thing, but if you meet at a club, school, etc, thats something different. You also have the whole "is the guy a little on the shy side" thing to deal with.

Best bet.. Bite lip then charge in and ask him.

[NashVegas]

38. Flirt With Him Relentlessly

And if he doesn't ask you for a date, forget it and move on to someone who's not going to leave you guessing.

[SteppingRazor]

39. Yeah, especially if you pile on the flirtatiousness and he doesn't ask you out, he's either...

a) a complete commitment-ophobe who can't even get a relationship started, much less make one serious.

b) a total coward.

c) has enough self-esteem to consider himself marginally better than a sea slug.

d) not interested in you.

And in any of those cases, you probably shouldn't bother with the dude.

[NashVegas]

49. e

Already in a semi-committed relationship with a woman who has 10x his income

[SteppingRazor]

50. I figured that would fall under "d"

[Fawkes]

51. Word.

n/t

[yellowcanine]

40. "Like you as a friend" Does that actually happen much? I am skeptical.

Not so much, imo. I am definitely in the school of they almost always want "something more" at some level. They may be mature enough to know how to control it because the friendship part is of value to them, but it is there. Always.

[SteppingRazor]

41. Course it does.

I've got female friends that I'm simply not attracted to, and I see them entirely as friends.

[yellowcanine]

44. Good to know. Maybe there is hope for the male of the species.

[IronLionZion]

45. Would you view a guy friend negatively for telling you how he feels?

Would it ruin the friendship for you?

just curious

[yellowcanine]

46. Well I am a guy myself so it probably would create some awkwardness for me.

Not sure it would "ruin" the friendship but it definitely would introduce a new dimension. Likewise if it were a woman friend.

[IronLionZion]

43. Be a woman and ask him

the dude might just be a little too timid to make the first move. It's difficult for some guys since we don't want it to come across badly or ruin the friendship. It's best to just talk to him sometime when you're alone and feel comfortable. Don't wait too long for the "right moment" because it may never come.