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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:25 PM
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What does this phrase mean to you --
"It is a real disconnect for me"

What does that mean...
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:25 PM
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1. Whoever said that
is "just not feelin' it."
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:40 PM
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2. Is it meant to be a put down?
Does it mean they don't understand.

Or that they do understand and disapprove...
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:59 PM
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5. No, I don't think it's necessarily a put down.
Edited on Mon Nov-12-07 01:04 PM by Heidi
I think it means they don't "get it" or that they're not connecting with the issue at hand. In my opinion, it's about that person's perception of (or inability to perceive) the issue at hand. I guess it could also mean that the person sensing the disconnect could be disapproving of the way the issue was presented, but I definitely would take that phrase as a cue to present the issue or circumstances in a way that person could more easily relate to or understand. :hi:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:22 PM
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10. Thanks. Heidi
The first time I hear the phrase was in regards to another person's accent. I guess in this context it meant...he did not like the accent? He did not understand the accent? He did not approve of the accent?

I like Rabrrrrr's take on it ,,,for this example :D
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:43 PM
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3. It means "I'm too dumb to speak with precision, and so offer faddish meaningless platitudes
in an attempt to mask the true deficiency in my communication and intellectual skills and the fact that I'm entirely undifferentiated."
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 12:47 PM
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4. somehow, I knew you would have a comment
and that it would be dazzling in its brilliance :D

Thanks. That makes me feel better, even if it were not your intention.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:03 PM
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6. You're right, in that it's an inarticulate way to say,
"I don't get it. Help me out here."

But it doesn't necessarily reflect an intellectual deficiency on the part of the person who uses that phrase, Rabrrrrrr. Communication isn't just about understanding; it's also about being understood. Just because someone doesn't "connect" to what we're expressing does _not_ mean that person is deficient. It can also mean that we've poorly communicated the concept. But you knew that. :hi:
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Rabrrrrrr Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:12 PM
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7. No, I mean that they're intellectually deficient for using the word "disconnect",
not because they don't understand or disagree with what is being said.

When I've heard that phrase used, it's meant "I don't agree", not "I don't understand".

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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:29 PM
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13. How can a person disagree with someone's accent?
(See the OP's reply to me upthread.) I suppose it's possible, given the highest degree of bigotry, to disagree with a person's accent, but :sheesh: I certainly concede that there _are_ people who automatically disagree with or disapprove of those things they don't understand, but ya know, I have a real "disconnect" with that sort of thing. :hi:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:37 PM
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15. exactly --
It was the first time I had heard the phrase AND it made NO sense in that context. In further conversation with the person, it turns out that they were, indeed, a jerk.

I think (hindsight being 20-20) that they meant that the the accent was a big turn-off.
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:40 PM
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17. In that context, the "disconnect" was about that person's inability
Edited on Mon Nov-12-07 01:40 PM by Heidi
to synthesize something outside of his/her experience, in my opinion. Like I said to Rabrrrrrr, communication is about both understanding and being understood, and there are responsibilities on both parts. But to disagree with or disapprove of someone's accent is a value judgment entirely separate from ability to understand. It's sad that someone would disapprove of another person's accent. I speak three languages (not including dialects) and certainly, by local standards, my accent is hideous, but at least I'm trying. x(
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Lance_Boyle Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:12 PM
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8. watch out
that person may be trying to shift your paradigm, or possibly to leverage something. On the plus side, such a person will never use you. S/he will only utilize you. ;-)

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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:23 PM
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11. and they in fact
did... ;)

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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:37 PM
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14. Run! They're trying to leverage your synergies
in order to maximize shareholder value! :scared:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:38 PM
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16. too late
but, I did put a major hex on the jerk ;)

and I do mean MAJOR. :evilgrin:

USE SPARINGLY O8)
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:41 PM
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18. Fighting bigotry
one hex at a time. :rofl:

You go, gf! :thumbsup: :yourock:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:45 PM
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19. &
:hug:

thanks
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caty Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:17 PM
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9. If I said it,
and I would never---I would mean that it was a real "turn off".
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 01:23 PM
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12. I think they meant it that way.
I wish I had known that then. Thanks.
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idgiehkt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 03:27 PM
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20. at first it sounded innocent
but after reading the thread, maybe it's just a shuck and jive gem from a bullshit artist? :hi:
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Tuesday Afternoon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Mon Nov-12-07 03:34 PM
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21. when it was all said and done
the person was, in fact, a bullshit artist.

and now it is a real disconnect for me whenever I hear the phrase!

:hi:
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