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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:33 AM
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Tonight, after I helped a customer, she said she was going to say a prayer for me out of gratitude.
I am an atheist. The kicker? I wasn't offended in the least. In fact, it made me smile. Is my atheism broken?
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Shakespeare Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:35 AM
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1. Nope.
Just means your humanity is quite intact. :hi:
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XemaSab Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:37 AM
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2. It's funny how hardcore Christians
are some of the few people who are truly comfortable saying thanks. :)
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Deep13 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 07:39 AM
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17. Huh? What makes you think that?
I am completely comfortable saying thanks everywhere I go.
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ZombieNixon Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:05 AM
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3. Yes, it is.
Just like mine, because I said "fucking god" many times tonight. :P
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Heidi Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:12 AM
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4. Your atheism isn't broken, and your humanity is just fine, too.
:hug:

I'm not bothered by the prayer thing, either (though I don't hear it nearly as much here as I did when I lived in the states). :hi:
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:33 AM
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8. I do tech support for an American company, so all the customers I deal with are American.
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last_texas_dem Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:17 AM
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5. Hey, aren't you the guy who wasn't offended by
"Have a blessed day," either? Frankly, I'm outraged at your lack of outrage!

(Actually, I'm just kidding, and I'm glad her comment gave you a reason to smile. I'm an agnostic and have never been bothered by that stuff either.)
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:32 AM
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7. Not only was I not offended by "Have a blessed day" I put it in my sig to annoy anyone who was, haha
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WCGreen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:22 AM
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6. I am very agnostic and when I was really sick a few years back,
people always tol me they prayed for me...

And it made me smile and thank them for thinking about me...
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hfojvt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 02:42 AM
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9. ZOMG, yes, you're atheism is broken
I will pray that it gets healed.
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Mojambo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 03:30 AM
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10. Always ask for a unicorn. Always.
You never know, man.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 03:31 AM
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11. Sage advice.
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bridgit Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:24 AM
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12. "Oh Great Yawning Gape, send this dread-locked human a fresh penny they can use...
"...AhChopChopChowMein!!"
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Evoman Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:26 AM
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13. Neh...your okay. I'm also an atheist, and it doesn't bother me either.
Unless its said in a very condescending way "I'll pray for you".

But thats what my dragon punch is for. A dragon punch, followed by a piercing palm strike, and finished with a haymaker.
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KG Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 05:48 AM
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14. that's nice, but I'd prefer a $20 tip.
:hi:
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philosophie_en_rose Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 06:34 AM
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15. No. You're still an atheist, even if people are praying at you.
:)
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canetoad Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 06:41 AM
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16. Enabler. nt
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zanne Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 08:11 AM
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18. No, you're not broken....
It was said in a kind way. It's when they say "I'm going to pray for your soul" that leads to thoughts of physical violence.
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YellowRubberDuckie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 08:15 AM
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19. Take it as a compliment.
Sometimes you do come across ACTUAL Christians, and they feel they are complimenting you.
Duckie
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GirlinContempt Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 08:23 AM
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20. You'll be sorry when the zombies come.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:43 AM
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21. The hell I will, I've been preparing for the zombies my whole life.
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Arugula Latte Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:49 AM
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22. Call me a curmudgeon, but I do get tired of people assuming everyone believes
in the hovering sky deity who pulls the strings for the dominant primates on this particular little planet in the vast, vast universe.

But, hey, that's just me.
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rurallib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:52 AM
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25. They don't assume everyone believes but that someday everyone
WILL believe because they are right.
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:28 PM
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48. We don't assume any such thing.
Please don't tell me what I assume. Who are you to make such assumptions?
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Pushed To The Left Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:49 AM
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23. No, you're just a decent human being who appreciates a kind gesture! n/t
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rurallib Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:51 AM
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24. "Ma'am, I collect pictures of dead presidents. Maybe you have some you
could give me instead?"
I am an atheist also. I will pray for the lady who prayed for you.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:53 AM
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26. I deal with people over the phone, they can't tip me.
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Ariana Celeste Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 11:57 AM
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27. haha no
I can usually tell the difference between a person who is sincere when offering a prayer, and the few who are just in your face for no other reason than to boast their Christianity. "Merry CHRISTMAS :mad:"

When it comes to those who are sincere I find it a sweet gesture.
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Ellen Forradalom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 12:13 PM
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28. Nope
It's a gift. An odd one for an atheist, but it's still a gift.
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La Lioness Priyanka Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 12:15 PM
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29. i am an atheist and it doesnt offend me either.
i think its sweet
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 12:16 PM
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30. people have "blessed me "because i have "beautiful hair" it makes zero sense to me...
but it's happened half a dozen times.
i always say "fuck your blessing, there is no god!!"
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IntravenousDemilo Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:17 PM
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31. Has it occurred to you that they might have been blessing you themselves, minus god?
You did say "people have 'blessed' me" after all, not that they said "god must have blessed you." Maybe they meant "I bless you for your beautiful hair." No need to be surly when you're being paid a compliment. We get so few compliments in this life that they should be treated like gold.
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:10 PM
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42. um, no because they say "god bless you". and growing up catholic, i have a sense of humour about it
Edited on Sat Sep-15-07 04:15 PM by bettyellen
and i was joking about the fuck you.
i do however think it's a silly thing for them to say. bless my hair, lol.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:26 PM
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37. Yeah, that's a reasonable response.
:eyes:
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:12 PM
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43. wow, you believed me, doh!
someone lost their sense of humour on the way to the lounge.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:25 PM
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47. Haha, my bad...
It's hard to tell when someone says something like that in a thread like this whether or not they're being serious, because a lot of people ARE serious.
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:32 PM
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51. haha, then i saw how many thought you were serious too!
although people do say god bless me for my hair - and i think these things, as i am saying thank you.
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DS1 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:29 PM
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38. Bless your corn-flake encrusted heart
:pals:
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txwhitedove Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:20 PM
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32. That was her way of thanking you, and you were gracious....
Kindness is always good. Her commentary doesn't make you any less of who you are, and you know that.
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ghostsofgiants Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:25 PM
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34. Yeah, I was joking about the "Is my atheism broken?" part...
Kind of a shot at militant atheist douchebaggery.
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bettyellen Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:13 PM
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46. see, I got it when YOU were joking....
but not when you did this:

:eyesroll:
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yellowdogintexas Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:37 PM
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41. nothing wrong with being gracious, ever. I don't do it often enough
in my own humble opinion
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Bullwinkle925 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:20 PM
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33. Nope. It's that person's way of saying thanks - and you are gracious to accept it.
i'm an atheist as well - it's all karma anyway.
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Crabby Appleton Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:26 PM
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35. My sentiments exactly nt
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WildEyedLiberal Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:26 PM
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36. No, it just means you're able to appreciate perspectives different from your own
For a very religious person, saying a prayer for someone is one of the kindest things they can do. They truly and deeply believe in a God, so saying a prayer to their God on your behalf is something that they believe will help you. If you understand where a person of deep faith is coming from, you can understand that such a thing is a kind gesture, and if that's how it's meant, then it should be taken as such.

I'm really not religious but I don't understand why people can't try harder to see with others' eyes. If someone is being kind and generous and paying you a compliment, why would it offend you? There's a big difference between someone saying "God bless you" or similar and trying to convert you. One time I was working at a bookstore and helped a Muslim couple find and order some books. When they were leaving the man told me "blessings of Allah to you" or something similar. I'm not Muslim, but I was touched that he was honoring me with what, for him, was probably a clear expression of gratitude.
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pokerfan Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:29 PM
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39. As an atheist, it's never bothered me
I just assume it's a prayer to the Flying Spaghetti Monster.



I am reminded of a quote from Bertrand Russell:
"I was told that The Chinese said they would bury me by the Western Lake and build a shrine to my memory. I have some slight regret that this did not happen, as I might have become a god, which would have been very chic for an atheist."
The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell (1967), Chapter 8



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johnnie Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 01:32 PM
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40. You've got to take what you can get brother
A prayer, good vibes, happy thoughts, sending good ju ju, wishing upon a star and all is a lot better than a kick in the nads.
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Snarkturian Clone Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:12 PM
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44. No,
it means you are a true atheist. If you were a religion-hater, then you would be offended.
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Xipe Totec Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:12 PM
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45. Blessed are the atheists
for they put up with a lot of crap.

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jobycom Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:28 PM
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49. You accepted her gift in the spirit in which it was given. nt
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Critters2 Donating Member (1000+ posts) Send PM | Profile | Ignore Sat Sep-15-07 04:30 PM
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50. She was being gracious, and you were gracious right back.
It's all good!
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