How's this for sick? Question...

[lady raven]

There's this girl I work with... She's 31 and old enough to know better. She has 2 kids and got her tubes tied after the second one.

Last year, her fiance left her (because she's nuts, frankly) and she faked a pregnancy to try to get him back. She couldn't sustain the lie, so she "miscarried" soon after. I won't go into too much detail, but it was supposedly a tubal pregnancy that her doctor planned to allow her to carry to term, but she tragically miscarried instead. (eye roll- Either a MAJOR lie or a completely incompetent doctor who should lose his license)

Fast forward to now. Her boyfriend broke up with her, so she's faking another pregnancy. Claimed to have had an ultrasound and this one wasn't a tubal pregnancy. He decided to give her another chance because he was thrilled to be a father- to- be. Some more psycho stuff on her part and they break up again... And voila... Now she had another ultrasound and found out it's TWINS (had to up the ante, I guess... And it peeves me a little bit personally because I actually AM pregnant with twins.

I barely know her. I barely know her boyfriend. But he seems like a nice guy who is genuinely thrilled at the idea of being a daddy, even if it's with her. And it breaks my heart to know that before too much longer there's going to be another fake miscarriage that will probably break this guy's heart.

I know it's none of my business, I really do. But it's taking EVERYTHING I have not to tell him, or at least warn him to make sure he verifies the pregnancy, because I don't want to see this nice guy be potentially devastated by the alleged loss of his child. I know if I were a guy who had my heart set on this baby, it would break my heart to find out the baby never existed, but I could handle that a lot better than the thought that my baby had died.

Should I tell him? And if I do, Am I wrong to do it anonymously, just to avoid getting myself any more entangled in the mess than I would already be?

What would you guys do?

(oh, and just a little vent- I hope to God she didn't tell her kids she was "pregnant" and sadden them as well. My 7 year old is thrilled to DEATH that he's going to be a brother, and I can't imagine deliberately putting him through the pain of losing a sibling or siblings who never really existed)

[lady raven]

1. I should add this...

I'm not just speculating that the pregnancies were faked...

Last year she tried to get a pregnant coworker to do a pregnancy test for her and a few weeks ago, when I brought my ultrasound picture in to show the ladies in the office, she asked if she could make a copy of it. This was right before she told him she found out she was having twins.

[Skittles]

2. you should urge her to get professional help

she needs it badly, especially for the sake of her children

[El Fuego]

3. You could try to counsel HER if you can, but don't tell him.

Then YOU will be involved. And then YOU will be sucked into her psychotic manipulative maelstrom.

Repeat after me: "I will not get involved.... I will not get involved..."

[zanne]

7. Excellent advice, El Fuego. nt

[flvegan]

4. In the workplace, I just let crazy be crazy

and keep my distance. If she were your friend, that would be one thing. Since you barely know her, getting involved may not be wise. I don't know what your workplace is like, so this is just my opinion based on personal experience.

[AllegroRondo]

5. I have to agree there

Unless it interferes with work, I'd stay away and not get involved.

[raccoon]

6. I agree with the others who say don't get involved.

Sounds like both parties need therapy. Hopefully, they'll get it.

[Shell Beau]

8. Tubals are life threatening! I should know.

I'd stay out of it though! She can't continue her lies much longer and maybe he will realize how she is. I wouldn't want to be a part of this drama. Stay far away.

[stuntcat]

9. this is awful

I got no advice really, I'm just sorry you have to know about this junk, and deal with knowing.
She's a psycho, the lies she's telling are sick and hurtful. And if she tells her kids and gets them thinking they're gonna have new siblings.. that she's gonna just 'kill' when she has to.. those kids should be taken from her x(

[Connonym]

10. Stay the hell out of this!

I'm actually worried about the fact that you are pregnant currently. We've all heard horror stories. Don't get any further involved in this. Seriously, I'm afraid for you in this situation. I don't think you should get involved but I do think you need a safety plan for yourself when you're near term.

[LeftyMom]

11. Seconded

that woman is a sociopath.

[huskerlaw]

12. Agreed.

You need to stay as far away from her as possible. Even to the point of not being alone with her. Ever.

Not to be overly dramatic, but does she know where you live--or could she easily find out? :scared:

[lady raven]

14. Oh wow- I've heard those too and never thought about it.

I will certainly be careful. This girl doesn't know where I live and I will do my best never to be alone with her or let her know where I live.

Yikes- I have heard a ton of those stories and just never thought about the possibility of that, but I guess with anyone like that you have to be careful...

[lady raven]

13. Thank you SO much, everyone.

Excellent advice. While I have a REALLY strong urge to tell this guy because I just think it would be the right thing to do, you are all absolutely right in your urging not to become involved. The last thing I want is to get all tied up in this soap opera storyline. It's enough just to think about it.

I have read the posts, thought long and hard about it, and discussed it with my husband, and I'm not going to say a word, and just hope that she doesn't string him along too much longer.

Thanks again for your advice- I guess I knew deep down that I shouldn't say anything (which is why I was thinking of doing it anonymously), but my conscience was (incorrectly) telling me I should.

[mentalsolstice]

15. Stay safe!

Have a co-worker walk with you to your car...take different routes home. Always let your husband or other family member know where you're going, what route you're taking, and your ETA.

I don't want to alarm you, but she sounds seriously sick and desperate.

[wildhorses]

16. you need to stay away from her.

she needs counseling, desperately.

someone needs to anonymously inform that man of her inability to conceive.

just my .02

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[Maine-ah]

17. well, I'd send him a little letter - anonymous of course.

hey congrats on the twins!