Asking for peaceful vibes for my dear MIL, who is in hospice...

[Zookeeper]

care.

Mr. Z. flew to CA yesterday to be with her and his sibs. She is in her mid-80's, suffering from dementia and old age.

She was a WAC during World War II, until she was discharged for getting married (!). Unfailingly courteous and genteel, she also had a strong, practical, no-nonsense Feminist streak. She has a wonderful sense of humor and has been a joy in my life.

She was taken to the hospital and ripped out her IVs and demanded to go home. Fortunately, her daughter and one son who still live in the area fought to get her discharged and back home where she could feel comfortable and safe.

I would appreciate it if my fellow DUers would send her thoughts and energy for a peaceful passing.

Thanks in advance. :grouphug:

[SPKrazy]

1. You got it sweetie!

:hug: :hug: :hug:

peaceful energy to her zookeeper

:hi:

[Zookeeper]

7. Thanks, SPK!

:hug:

:pals:

[JohnnyLib2]

2. Blessings and wishes for strength.

Tough times for all....

[Zookeeper]

8. Thank you, JohnnyLib...

Her children are being wonderful in respecting her wishes.

:hug:

[The Straight Story]

3. On the way

Positive thoughts sent her way, and I pray she passes peacefully.

[Zookeeper]

10. Thanks, Straight Story...

She is home, where she wanted to be.

:hug:

[Suich]

4. Thoughts and energy being sent

as we speak. :hug:

[Zookeeper]

11. Thanks, Suich...

:hug:

[VenusRising]

5. Love, peace, and light to her on her journey.

And to all of you left here as well. :hug:

[Zookeeper]

12. Thank you, Venus...

We can all use it, since she will be missed.

:hug:

[volstork]

6. Wishes of peace

to you all during this time.

[Zookeeper]

14. Thanks, Volstork...

Peace is the best thing at this time.

:hug:

[SeattleGirl]

9. Peaceful vibes for your MIL, Zookeeper

She sounds like a wonderful, loving person.

:hug:

[Zookeeper]

16. Thanks, SeattleGirl....

She has always been wonderful to me.

:hug:

[EFerrari]

13. ((((((((((((((Dear Zookeeper and MIL and family)))))))))))))))

In my heart, wishes and thought. :hug:

[Zookeeper]

17. Thanks, Expat....

I appreciate those vibes and am sure she and Mr. Z. are feeling them down in So. Cal.

:hug:

:hi:

[EFerrari]

19. If I can do anything, make calls, make sure Mr. Z is okay

you know where I am.

:hug:

[Zookeeper]

21. ...

Thank you, so much, my friend.

:hug:

[EFerrari]

23. I mean it. This is why we have friends.

:hug:

[w8liftinglady]

15. sending peaceful thoughts.I dealt with this tonight.

I am not a hospice nurse,but had a patient who was dying on my floor.It's hard to watch a loved one die.Seeing them draw their last breaths in comfort ,with their family at the bedside,is the greatest gift that I,as a nurse,could be given.Bless you and your family.

[Zookeeper]

20. Thank you, w8liftinglady....

Thank you for sharing that experience and wisdom. I'm so thankful that she will have her children near and that the closest two were able to fight for her wish to be at home.

:hug:

[CaliforniaPeggy]

18. My dear Zookeeper...

Of course...

I truly believe that we should be allowed to die when our time has arrived...

Safe passage to your beloved MIL...:hug:

And my deepest condolences to you and your family during this time of loss...:hug:

Perhaps this little poem will be helpful:

Life is eternal;

And love is immortal;

And death is only a horizon;

And a horizon is nothing

Save the limit of our sight...

Found inside a Hallmark card, 1987

[Zookeeper]

22. Thank you, my dear CalPeggy....

I'll never look at Hallmark cards the same way again. ;)

:hug:

[u4ic]

24. Much light to your MIL, Zookeeper

I wish her a safe passage. :hug: :pals: :grouphug:



Some :hug: :hug: :hug: to you and MrZ. Please take care. :loveya:

[Zookeeper]

26. Thanks, U4ic....

All we can hope for is a peaceful and safe passing.

And I welcome those hugs, sweetie!

Hugs to you, too.

:hug: :hug: :hug:

[wildhorses]

25. ~~~~~~~~~peaceful vibes~~~~~~~~~

:hug::grouphug::hug::grouphug::hug::grouphug::hug::grouphug::hug::grouphug:hug:

[Zookeeper]

27. Thanks, Wildhorses...

'much appreciated!

:hug:

[GoddessOfGuinness]

28. Sending my best thoughts...

For your mother-in-law and all the family. She sounds like a great lady. :hug:

[Zookeeper]

31. Thanks, Goddess...

I've been lucky to have such a great MIL.

:hug:

[RFKHumphreyObama]

29. My thoughts, prayers, best wishes and positive vibes to your MIL

and to your husband and his family. I pray that the end will be peaceful for her and I pray that your husband and his family will experience peace, comfort and healing:hug: :hug:

[Zookeeper]

32. Thank you, SocialDem...

I just talked with Mr. Z. and he said that she was talking today and very, very happy to have her children around her.

:hug:

[UrbScotty]

30. Good vibes to your family.

:hug:

[Zookeeper]

34. Thanks, Ih8thegop...

They seem to be working. :)

:hug:

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[Zookeeper]

35. An update from Mr. Z....

She ate a bit this evening and was able to sit up and visit with all of her children around her. They all told family stories and laughed. She stated that she was very happy and thankful to have all of her children with her.

She still has her sense of humor. She said she has some trouble remembering people's names, but she still remembers the name of every pet she's ever had. :D

So, the good vibes, wishes and prayers are working. Thank you all!

:hugs:

[EFerrari]

36. Excellent news. It sounds like it's going as well as possible.

Good for you guys for being such great kids. :hug:

[Zookeeper]

42. Yes, I think it is...

Another update today: Mr. Z. and sibs were with her all afternoon. She is very frail, but her caregiver was able to get her into a wheel chair to sit up for a while to visit. She asked one of Mr. Z.'s brothers, "Who are you?" He answered, "I'm Charlie, mom." She said, "No. You're not Charlie." He assured her that he was. But, she wasn't distressed at all and still managed to have a sense of humor about the whole thing.

Even if she can't remember who each person is, she does know that they are her children and are there for her.

I hope I will be so lucky when my time comes.

Thanks for the support, Expat!

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

37. Peaceful thoughts to your family

hopefully she is pain free...
and just goes to sleep....

hospice is a wonderful thing...
the people are angels
We had them for my Mom and brother


:hug:

lost

[Zookeeper]

39. Thanks, Lost...

Mr. Z. called again today and said he and his sibs spent the day with her. She is very frail, but was happy to see them. Even though she wasn't sure who was who, she knew they were all her children and that they were there for her. :)

:hug:

[lost-in-nj]

44. ......

:hug: :hug:

just hugs to your family....
and you....


lost

[kath]

45. Not all hospices are wonderful - my FIL had KAISER hospice care when he was dying of colon cancer,

and it SUCKED, like the rest of Kaiser in the Denver area does. They weren't even competent at managing his pain, dammit, and that's one of the main things that hospice care is supposed to do...

[Zookeeper]

48. That's awful!

Was he at home or in a hospital setting? Did Kaiser "corporatize" (made up word, but I think you'll get it) the original intent of Hospice care?

I'm so sorry that that you're FIL suffered needlessly. :hug:

[Reciprocity]

38. Done.

[Zookeeper]

40. Thanks, Reciprocity...

'much appreciated!

:hug:

[greatauntoftriplets]

41. Hospice care is great....

Both my parents had it, though very briefly because both were very near death when it was started. Both only a few hours, but it was a great help.

When my mother died, the hospice brought two Catholic priests into give her the Last Rites before she died. They sent a Jewish rabbi to be with us when she died later that same day. He was the available clergyman at the time, and was a great comfort to us. Prayer is universal.

Best of wishes to you, your husband, family and mother-in-law.

Peace to all of you.

[Zookeeper]

43. Thank you, Greataunt....

Hospice was there for my step-father when he died and they were very helpful.

My mom did the hospice training and has spent time with patients. She has been able to give me some insight into the process.

Thanks for sharing your experience with me. It helps to know that she is in good hands.

:hug:

[huskerlaw]

46. Good vibes for her

and for you and Mr. Z's family as well.

:hug:

[Zookeeper]

47. Thanks, Huskerlaw...

My heart is feeling heavy, good vibes are much appreciated.

:hug: