First date sex 'increases chance of relationship'

[SarahB]

http://www.marieclaire.co.uk/news/First_date_sex_increases_chance_of_relationship_article_117671.html

FORGET EVERYTHING YOUR mother ever told you: it appears that sex on a first date can actually increase your chances of a long-term relationship.

The accepted wisdom has long been that women seeking commitment from a new man should hold back in the bedroom - or risk being unceremoniously dumped the morning after. But now an academic at University College London is claiming that people are more likely to fall in love or embark on a long-term relationship once they have slept together.

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[taterguy]

1. My first date with my wife was a dog park

We restrained ourselves since getting arrested for public indecency would be a bad start to our reletionship.

[no name no slogan]

15. And just think of how uncomfortable the dogs would've been

nt

[La Lioness Priyanka]

2. i knew that!!

:P

[datasuspect]

3. works for me

worked for me too.

[Wetzelbill]

38. !!!!!

:rofl:

[RetroLounge]

4. As i always suspected...

:9

RL

[trof]

5. What ever happened to 'no kiss till the 3rd date'?

I'm SUCH a geezer.
;-)

[MissMillie]

6. I'll kiss on the first date

the other stuff has to wait... and a lot longer than 3 dates.

[bedpanartist]

16. that's assuming

the other party wants it.

[MissMillie]

22. yes, of course that's assumption

I thought it was assumed that it was the assumption, but of course, if you'd like to make SURE that I know there's a possibility that I'm not wanted, then please, bring it up.

[Connonym]

26. I thought it was no sex until the third date

but I'm so old I remember sex before AIDs

[Digit]

56. Damn, me too....aren't we OLD????

It is another game entirely when you can catch something you can die from.

[jmowreader]

40. Oh, they still don't kiss until the third date

They go to a movie, grab a pizza and screw their brains out on the first date, but they wait until the third date to kiss.

Try to keep up, 'kay?

[NewJeffCT]

7. I married the first woman that had sex with me on a first date

And, the sex was her idea. I was the one that wanted to wait until the next date...

But, it wasn't a happy ending, obviously, as she filed for divorce less than a year into our marriage. (it was almost 2 years from when we had that first date until we got married, if you were wondering)

[Wetzelbill]

36. dude, you are like a God to me

teach me oh, Obi-Wan! :)

[NewJeffCT]

42. LOL

looks-wise, she is the total opposite of my wife now. My wife now is very slim, black hair, brown eyes and medium height or so. My ex was pretty pale, blue eyed, auburn hair, and very short (a shade under 5'0") and her dad used to joke that she was really the adopted daughter of Dolly Parton. But, they were both outgoiing & intelligent. (I once joked that once I didn't speak to my ex for 2 whole weeks because I didn't want to interrupt her while she was talking!)

the weird thing is, before I met my ex-wife, I hardly had dated at all the first 28-29 years of my life. So, I'm certainly no Obi-Wan. For some reason, as soon as she filed for divorce & moved out, I suddenly had more dates than I knew what to do with... but, I wouldn't advise getting married & then divorced so your dating life will pick up.

[Wetzelbill]

44. yeah, I'll try to avoid the divorce part

I rarely date. I'm more of a sit at home and read type of guy. Here and there I will go on one, but even when I am dating someone, I typically do my own thing and require my space a lot. I'm a bit tough to know nowadays.

I like how you just shrug it off when I give you hell, it cracks me up. :) :toast:

[NewJeffCT]

50. well, that first paragraph was me in my 20s

stay home & read type of guy...

[dropkickpa]

8. Shit, that means i need to stop putting out

I don't WANT a LTR, just some fun.

[SarahB]

9. Best answer!

:thumbsup:

:rofl:

[Rambis]

10. 20 years June 30

It worked for us. We met at 21 and have been together ever since.

[Ghost in the Machine]

11. well of *course* it does! I've had several meaningful overnight relationships like that!

:rofl:

[undeterred]

12. then what is the purpose of the "third date sweater"?

I think marieclaire is at odds with glamour and cosmo...:evilfrown:

[CraftyGal]

60. Now you have got me wondering....

what do you mean by "third date sweater"?

Craftu

[Withywindle]

13. Well, duh!

How else do you know you're IN a relationship?

[Connonym]

14. Is it first date sex that's the reason for the relationship?

or is the first date sex just an indication of really great chemistry that would have resulted in a relationship anyway? There's no control of variables here. No way to prove that the sex caused the attraction and not vice versa.

Not that I'm opposed to first-date sex.

[raccoon]

17. I think this is cuckoo. Too many unknowns.

How well the parties knew each other before the first date would have a great deal to do with it, I mean with whether an LTR resulted. (Most of the time; I know there are exceptions.)

If people want to have sex on their first date, that's their business.

Not for me. The other party could be having sex with somebody else the next day. Another thing, that might be the last you see of that other person. Now, for some people neither of these scenarios would be a problem, but it would bother me.

[edbermac]

18. Study was done by a guy, of course!

We'll say anything for some quick poon, even the eggheads! :rofl:

[KitchenWitch]

31. I know THAT'S right!

:rofl:

[AwakeAtLast]

43. I knew it!

He probably knows that guy that tells women he has to apply "special cream" in a "special way"! :rofl:

[Shell Beau]

19. I'm all for getting to know each other a little bit first.

[Beer Snob-50]

20. doesn't a romp in the hay

qualify for getting to know someone real well? my wife and i, 17 years and I believe we had sex on the floor of her condo on the first date.

[Shell Beau]

21. Different strokes for different folks (no pun intended)

;)

I am very taditional when it comes to sex. It is so personal that I need to have feelings there. No one night stands for me! That's just me though!

[camero]

23. Unfortunately that's the way it works

The getting to know you phase invariably leads to flaws in a person's personality being exposed and one of them breaking it off before anything truly develops to sustain a LTR. Sex releases endorphins which block this sometimes on the mark-sometimes not judgement.

In this day and age when people are looking for perfect people which don't exist, sex is the trump card.

[Omphaloskepsis]

24. I require a full STD test before I penetrate.

I have never had a one night stand.

[BlueIris]

28. THANK GOD YOU POSTED THAT.

I would never sleep with anyone whose clean bill of health I hadn't physically seen with my ever-critical eye.

[WritingIsMyReligion]

33. I would wholeheartedly concur with you, sir.

Nothing in the slightest wrong with waiting.

[Wetzelbill]

45. I have had a few, and they all were stupid moves

Totally out of character for me. I was drunk, and they shouldn't have happened. So yeah, you're right on that one. Best to wait.

[xchrom]

25. i LOVE putting out on the first date -- lol -- but i don't even need to know their names.

i'm so bad.

[skygazer]

27. Six years so far

Didn't really intend to but these things happen. :blush: Seems to have worked out, though.

[hippiechick]

29. Nope.

Proved that theory wrong less than a month ago. :(

[no name no slogan]

30. Barry Gibb?

-snip-
The romantic notion of love is all well and good, with flowers, chocolate and candle-lit dinners all serving to make us go gooey,' Barry Gibb, biologist at University College London and author of the new book The Rough Guide To The Brain, told the London Metro.
-/snip-

Would you trust THIS man for relationship advice?

[Bucky]

37. Gaakh! What a horrible toupe!

Not on his head. I mean the one he glued to his chin. I so do not miss the 70s.

[SarahB]

51. Small rodent families live in that stuff.

:D

[WritingIsMyReligion]

32. I'm big on talking for bonding.

Also, seeing a clean bill of health first, with my own eyes.

:crazy:

[Deja Q]

34. Rejected.

Just as with the nonsense about "10 minute bouts of exercise three times a day" by a media that'll say anything for money , so is first date sex.

Never mind my past experiences.

And I'm grateful I'm disease free. Some aren't, and to hear them pawn it off as "It was fun getting there!" is sad. Let's just say I've been in support group meetings. It's sad, seriously.

[Wapsie B]

35. Well hell yea!!

;-)

[Wetzelbill]

39. I suppose it can

For me, it seems like sex on the first date just ended up being a one-nighter. And I've found one-night stands to be wholly unsatisfying. I would much prefer to get to know somebody first. Then again, I am not exactly hard to seduce in the first place either.

[jmowreader]

41. Come on now. I told you guys how to do this...

On your first date, you watch "A Clockwork Orange" and screw your brains out on the living room floor.

On your second date, you get engaged.

Six weeks later, you go down and get married. Make sure to spend less than $100 on the ceremony, and it's best if your entire wedding party goes to the wrong place to watch you get hitched.

And no, I'm not kidding. Especially the part about the wedding party.

[Robb]

46. On this one first date, one time ...

...I met this woman in a dark alley, after being dropped off by a truck loaded with beef jerky, in town with no car. I was buying a motorcycle, she agreed to meet me at the guy's garage I was buying it from.

I bought it, followed her back to her place. Dropped off the bike, she drove us to a fantastic little italian restaurant, then back to her place. Stayed the weekend (cue wa-wa pedal guitar).

We're getting married in November. :D


...Which isn't to say every single other first-date sex experience in my lifetime wasn't completely different. :shrug:

[SarahB]

53. It happens.

Sometimes it works, sometimes not. Sometimes you get to know people before the actual date (friends for months or even years maybe) and by the time you actually get to finally having that "date", you can't take it anymore and it all just, um, bursts.

I think if people have sex to "get someone" that's stupid. If you have sex (safely obviously and being honest) because you like the person and just want to be with them without games, without anything other than that moment, there's no harm to anyone. If it works for the long haul, even better.

So congratulations, Robb! :bounce: :woohoo: :party:

p.s. No confessions from me at the moment. I just thought it was an interesting article. :)

[regnaD kciN]

47. When I was in college...

...mention of "first-date sex" would have just earned you a blank stare. "What do you mean, 'date'...?" :evilgrin:

[WindRavenX]

48. works for me

:evilgrin:

[militaryspouse]

49. k

glad i'm not the only one that isn' all for one night stands. then again,i'm one of those who believes the best sex is when you are in love with the person.

[Fleshdancer]

52. 11 years so far

I went home with my husband the night I met him...my one and only "one night stand" so to speak. Funny how such a stupid decision can turn out to be sooo worth it. I still can't believe I did it, but I'm glad I did. :)

[Lydia Leftcoast]

54. Well, it depends...

If Person A and Person B have been eying each other lustfully and are clearly MUTUALLY attracted, then I can see how it would work.

But if Person A thinks that uninterested Person B will fall in love simply because of a night of hot sex, uhhh, it usually doesn't work that way.

[SarahB]

55. That's my view too.

:D

[alarimer]

57. So THAT'S why I am still single

I am going about it all wrong.

[BlueJazz]

58. I would never do that..

Not in this day and age of STD's

Had to many friends get Fucked (Both Ways)

Ok...I'm Square...

[TommyO]

59. My ex and I waited a month and it lasted eight good years

(and two crappy years). If we had done it on the first date, who knows how things might have been different.